What kind of a friend is he?

Since he is an old friend..I think you should not be taken aback by his comments and I think is legit comment bcos he knows you and perhaps showing his concerns unless you can describe to us his tone of voice when he is asking that question.... Friends are hard to come by and old friend are the ones we do not want to lose..

Hi some people are weirdos u know before i answer i'll tell you something a friend of mine called me after a few years, we spoke over the phone, we chatted, we laughed then in the end that friend said: you're pretty the same you never changed. I don't know why i felt it was not a compliment from his voice i felt it was said sarcastically. It annoyed me but did not comment. Back to ur story; this guy belongs to either one of the two: First: You know theres some people who don't know how 2 put things into words, they just say something harsh but they don't mean it. It is their character. Second: The other possibility he meant it in the way u explained but in both cases, just act normal don't let him notice he offended. Can you still call him friend ? I can't answer this one but but all i can tell you if he is the type that may annoy and bug you with his commments, just don't get so much close to him anymore, be his hi or once-in-a-while buddy. I sent u a msg did it arrive ?????

Hi, Silver! Gee, that's a tough one, feeling like that from calling an old friend. At first glance, I probably would have responded the same way you did - like he's ashamed to be seen with you. Based on my own experience with good friends who became "born again" Christians, I'm thinking you may not have a lot of luck reconnecting with this guy. Some divides are too deep to bridge easily. I guess the best thoughts I have to offer are, if the two of you were pretty close in college, it might be worth setting up a date for coffee or a cocktail or something. It would be a small risk situation, and you would have a chance to look into the old friend's eyes and see if the impression you got on the phone is the right one. Maybe the awkward thing on the phone was just from surprise, or some other innocent thing. Only you can tell if he's worth that little bit of effort, Silver. If the history is rich, take a chance. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right? Be well, my friend!

Maybe he didn't mean it in a bad way. If you were really good friends in college, I would take the time to meet him. He might have just been worried that you changed and he didn't or he changed and you didn't so you would now have nothing in common. If the conversation was going good until that point I think that you owe it to yourself and him to get together. This might have been a huge misunderstanding.

For me, he's not a friend-quality. A good friend does not look at you from the outside but rather on the inside. Since you have not seen each other for such a long time, he should have given you the benefit of the doubt. I mean, people change, don't they? And besides, good friends are able to respect and love a person despite differences in outlooks and points of view.

A friend in need is a friend indeed. A friend is one who does not ask you for your time or money but just your company.

well, you did say that you haven't seen him in 10 years. maybe he was just curios. i don't know what kind of relationship you guys had in college, but i don't think you should have made such a big case out of this until you were sure of the reason of the question ;) all the best!