help!!! son longing for his father

Please do not feel like a failure. Your feelings are completely normal. How about you take some time with your son to have some "daddy" time. Write letters to daddy, do drawings to send to him, make his favorite food, talk about what daddy is doing. He maybe missing talking about him, or doing things that he did with daddy. Maybe you two can do them and you can dress up like daddy just for the fun of it. It is not clear on your note if daddy is going to come back home or not.. but I think this ideas will help ease him a little bit.

I actually saw this on the news once. A few families who had like a husband or a wife in the service made a cardboard cut out of their other half and so that way their children felt like that their father or mother was there. I saw these kids that are four or five years old toting around this like 3 or 4 foot cut out of the upper half of there mom or dad's body and just taking with them to school and telling their classmates all about that and what not. I'm sure doing that for your son might make him feel a little easier. That way, dad is always around :)

My heart breaks for you and your son because I do know how that feel like. My husband is a Marine and he's constantly deployed or away for training. Me and my son misses him a lot too whenever he's gone. Here are a few things I did to help my son with his separation anxiety. I made him a photo album with just pics of his Daddy and of him and Daddy and told him every time he misses Daddy, he can look at the album cos' that's how close Daddy is even though he's far away. I also made him a Daddy doll (for military kids). It's a doll of his Dad in uniform. And he carries that thing around with him all the time and talk to it like he's talking to Daddy, points to it and say "Daddy". Makes me want to cry every time he does that. We also have a pic of Daddy in a photo frame and we put that on the table when we eat so Daddy's eating with us as well. Do a calendar count-down of some sort. Mark out each day of the calendar that Daddy is gone and at the end of each month, reward your son with something for being such a brave, young man. Or even better, get your husband to send little notes or gifts from wherever he is if he can and you can keep those as rewards for your son. Here are just some suggestions. I hope they help. I know it's not easy playing the role of Mom and Dad.