How did you forget?

@kharen (1488)
Philippines
June 8, 2007 11:22am CST
What were the ways that you've done or want to do to forget the hurt from the past relationship you've had? Was he/she the one who broke up with you or was it you and why?? Did you have regrets or have you learned to accept the truth and all of it?? Have you forgotten or not really??
3 responses
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
My ex-boyfriend was the one who broke up with me. His reason was, "I don't think we're not meant for each other.. I feel like you're not the one for me and that I am not happy with you anymore.." I really didn't do anything.. actually, he was the one who's pushing me away, never calls me, a lot of reasons why couldn't come to our dates, only texts me if he's going to sleep, doesn't talk to me that much and a lot more things. though he was like that, I still didn't gave him up cause its really hard for to do it and that he said that we'll start over again. but i guess he never did.. cause he never tried to.. he never did try to save our relationship.. what he did was to hurt me even more. I was really martyr cause I never wanted to lose him at that time. Then when he said those words, I didn't linger that moment to last.. so I decided to let go. Since he said it already.. he doesn't want me no longer. That was really hard but I couldn't do anything.. I never regretted anything, cause I was really happy when we were still together, and was happy that I met him. The only thing that I couldn't understand was he really never told me the truth of why he wants to break up with me.. I asked him at that time if he loves another girl.. he even said he doesn't.. And I was really doubtful, cause I knew.. he has fallen in love again with his long time crush before, since time by time.. the truth reveals slowly.. by the way he doesn't text me or call me because he was actually texting or talking with another girl, all those reasons why he couldn't be with me because he's busy in school or was grounded by his parents but he was actually dropped-out from school already and was just staying at the computer cafe near the school, plays there all the time and hangs out with his friends.. chose those things over me.. Then I was trying to get myself busy over something, and I did forgot about him. Its the only thing I needed to do than to just reminisce our past and just cry over it. Because of being very busy, i couldn't have time to think bout him.. So it really help a lot. Though I have moved on but I still haven't forgotten about him. I have learned that you should not linger the pain you are holding cause you'll end up leaving your heart with wounds that leaves a scar. You should never hold on to someone who has already let go of you and you should learn to let go, even how much you love that person.. try to think of saving yourself sometimes. You don't always fight for a battle, sometimes you should retreat. :)
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
everything's not yet clear for my heart.. but for all of myself,it's already clear and i accept it..the only thing that i don't accept is that he just made me fall deeper in love everyday in the past and then admits that he did that for revenge and then left me..but i know i made the right decision of me being the one to break up with him..
@forisuru (217)
• Sri Lanka
10 Jun 07
Dear Friend, I think your speaking with your heart... Thanks
@forisuru (217)
• Sri Lanka
9 Jun 07
Dear Friend, The easiest way to forget ur past relationship..is to begin a new relationship. But don't cheat the new person. Tell her everything about your past relationship and you can take help from your partner to forget the past memories. Thanks
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
that's the sad truth about the solution of how to forget.. in the end, it's just that you used him/her to forget..
@forisuru (217)
• Sri Lanka
10 Jun 07
Dear Friend, Yes..I think that's the only way..do you think there is any other way..? Thanks
@shey87 (12)
• Philippines
8 Jun 07
Hello..,nice question that maybe hard to answer.Well i forgot him b'coz my true friends was there,my family is there and god is thereIs good to have people around in times of dat,they can make you happy and gave you moral support.Well,i actually make move to break up,why?Cause sometimes,time will and you will feel somethings change in your relationship. And sometimes even if it's hard you need to learn to sacrifice.Regrets?yah but i know that my decision help him a lot to improve, and make his self good someday.Yes i did,and i'm happy now..
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
i'm the only one who is is making the way to forget and God,of course.. because no one in my friends and my family wants me to open up the story again and no one wants to hear any issue about it even if i'm to tell that i'm starting to move on, no one cares..they just want me to stop..that's why i'm the only one who can help myself to forget..
@forisuru (217)
• Sri Lanka
10 Jun 07
Dear Friend, I don't think that our friends can help in thi case...ISn't it..? Ask from your heart. Did they really help you to forget your firt love.No..I don't think so.. Thanks