Why didnt you just say I cant

Sometimes life happens while we are making plans. I try not to obligate myself to something unless I am positive that I have the time free to do it. Other than an emergency arising or illness, I will follow through with my word. Those that can't be up front and honest get on my nerves. Just tell me that you can't do it or don't want to do it. I would rather know first hand than to find out later.

I agree, if you can't do something, then say no, and let the person find someone else to do it. I get less upset when I have time to find someone else to do something than at the last minute,not getting it done. Hope that makes some sense. lol

Oh yea that gets to me too. you know my hubby is a big one for that. he just does not want to disappoint me... well it does sooner or later. but i guess its one of those things where we have to pick out the ones who will help you not matter what.

Well I am so glad that it does not just happen to me this sort of thing I don't know why People just don't say no there and then either I have just had it recently again but not that I asked they offered and then when it came to it they let me down

I get annoyed as heck about this...maybe because when I promise to do something, anything I make sure I keep that promise or task--so it urks me no end when someone else wiggles out of something--like I'm STILL waiting for those damn plasterers to come in and do repair work in my apartment!! At this rate might do it myself!!

Yes,that is correct think when we do any thing we can say yes I can ,but that is difficult to do then I can say Ican not.I there is limited we can do

i had a friend who i asked to buy me something weeks ago. she promised me to do it for me and i even gave her the money already. counting on to what she promised me, i did not buy it myself. and when the time i already needed it, she said she wasn't able to get it for me. and it was a dress for a party i needed to attend to. i ended up getting into my wardrobe cabinet, looking for what to wear in the last minute. i hate such situations!... anne

My mother-in-law does this constantly. She will offer to watch my 3 kids and then at last minute refuses to watch them after my husband and I have already made plans. I am glad my husband is not afraid to tell his mother how he feels. I don't understand why people do that. I feel if I make a commitment, I need to stick with it regardless of if I want to or not. I guess people just need to think about if they want people to do that to them. Maybe more people would follow through.

I myself have been to one to cancel something along these lines just recently. It was involving my son-in-law. We had made plans for him to come out and install a new strom door and interior door for the wife and I. At the last minute I decided we needed new tires more than a new door at the time. Now he nor my daughter said anything but I know it didn't go well with them as he doesn't get much time off. But sometimes things do happen that make the cancellation valid. Funny thing is I'm going over their tonight to have him do some brake work. I just hope he believes that I'll be there & not change my mind at the last second. Hahahaha!! HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

you could look at the other perspective, at least they had the decency to inform you that they could not.what if they said yes then they can't seem to fulfill what they promised?

Hi. I totally agree with you. It would be really difficult to adjust if you depend on someone for something important and that person comes up with something like that. For me I have never been in such a situation before and definitely would never like to be in one. One thing I would say is that you should evaluate every aspect of the responsibility before handing it over to someone. I

i would too. but i think that some people feel that its better to inform later, that way they wouldnt have to face the feeling of not being of any help. but it would be a lot better if the person told you right there and then so you could make plans likewise.

Being forced to change your plans once they are organized is so much more inconvenient than just having to sort it out the one time. I know sometimes things come up, but if I have to bail out on people like that I feel pretty bad. I try very hard not to agree to something and then go back on my word later on.

Yes I do this drives me nuts, I have actually been cancelled by every single one of my friends over the years. I have now put my foot down and said I would ask you but you arent very reliable. I have wonderful friends as long as I dont rely on them too much. It would never cross my mind too make a commitment and cancel unless it was serious.