how can someone be so heartless?

dude... the way i see it there are 2 posibilities: 1. you have serious issues... either your husband told you that he doesn't want the kid when you got pregnant and you murdered him for daring to say such a thing or your mother told you that she was on the verge of having an abortion when she was pregnant with you or 2. you really want mylot trafic and stuff like that. either way, find more variate topics... what do you want to prove? that you are the only sensitive and sain person in the world??? wake up, smell the coffee, face the reality! the world is a huge place, populated with many type of people... acording to you, let's shoot the muslims for the way they treat women, let's kill the japanese for the fact that they torture women's feet and erase africans from the face of the earth for making human sacrifices. dude, maybe your worls is perfect the way you see it. but keep it to yourself and others like you, you can't change the rest few million people out there. ;) and PS: the bible (so sins and stuff) were written by PEOPLE! so they could control naive PEOPLE... just like you.

I find it sad and heartless myself. I am scared to have kids becasuse i have multiple sclrosis but at the same time if I did happen to became pregent I would still have the baby and do the best that I could to take care of it I know that i would need help but I would never just give it up.

I have been a mother for 30 years.....I could never feel this way.... BUT, I respect this person's right to feel this way....she was not demeaning to you in any manner and did not resort to name calling......she simply stated her opinon and I see nothing wrong with that....

Well, really, if you don't want to hear opinions like this, then the best advice would be to stop posting discussions of this nature on a public forum. You have to expect that you are going to get responses that don't agree with you on a public site with thousands of people. Not everyone is the same, and you can't find it so offensive every time someone posts something you don't agree with. Whether you find it heartless or not, that person had a right to speak his/her mind and just because you don't like it, that doesn't mean it's 'appalling'. So, yes I can totally believe that response. It's a legitimate opinion about abortion. Some people just don't want to be pregnant, can't afford it, or became pregnant under horrible circumstances. They have the choice to terminate their pregnancy if they want to. In a sense, until the fetus can survive outside the womb and breathe on its own, it IS technically a parasite.

I don't find it heartless at all I find it honest. Why would you want that person to pretend to want a child when its so very obvious that they don't. Not everyone likes or wants children and nor do they have to. Who are we to sit and say that everyone must want to have a child and must think a child is special or wonderful? Not everyone feels that way and thats their right. So no I don't find it heartless at all I find it honest.

stacyv81: i am a muslim guy.according to me abortion is sin. and according to nature every mom love his/her child more than all.then why they hate to wanna be a mom?they are silly if they do not wanna be parents.its out of nature and nature never breaks.

i could never refer to a fetus or a baby like that, it's pretty disturbing to hear that!

"Can you believe this response? I got this in an abortion discussion, I cannot believe it it is really heartless and sad people feel this way! Do you feel this way? Or find it appaling? " I dont find it heartless, appaulling or anything of the sort! Not everyone feels the same about pregnancy, babies or parenting..we arent carbon copies of each other so why would it be shocking to know that some ppl feel that way?? "There are doezens of different perspectives and dozens of different reasons for not wanting to be pregnant at a specific moment in time" thats very true...and yes to some ppl a fetus IS an invading parasite.. its really not abnormal that some ppl feel that way....i dont see what the big deal is :-/

I have to agree with you. But I disagree with some of the other comments about a fetus being a [parasite]. First, a FETUS is not a PARASITE and anyone on here that has stating that, is, in fact wrong. You can read some facts about the difference between a fetus and a parasite here: http://www.l4l.org/library/notparas.html And there are many other resources about this whole thing with a fetus being a parasite. Anyway, all I have to say is sometimes people should use their words a little more differently. :]

What's really sad is that you feel you have the right to judge others by your own narrow, ignorant standards. How dare you judge someone as heartless and cruel simply because YOU like kids! I work retail and I wish more of you would have considered abortion when you bring your rude, dirty kids into my store to destroy the place. Then you just smile and say, "aww, isn't that cute." No, its rude and destructive, how about we start charging you with theft every time your kids ruin something you refuse to buy?

I wonder if they would say the same to their own mothers. Afterall, they were once unborn children themselves. Then again, to ahve that kind of heartless attitude their own mothers are probably pretty horrible and cruel. They must have been quite abused to see children as parasites.

That person must have had a traumatic childhood experience. She obviously has emotional wounds from her past. People like this cannot love normally. They have to deal with their personal issues first in order to be able to give love.

i know many people who don't want kids, who have taken steps to ensure that they won't have them. but they don't consider them "unwelcome parasites that need to be dealt with and gotten rid of" they just see them as something they don't want in their lives (apart from occasional visits from neices/nephews and the like). to me, this is definitely heartless and appalling. but i guess it's that persons right to feel that way. jsut like it's my right to be repulsed.

Whoah.....whoever said that probably did not or never experienced the joy of sharing your life with another. I don't have a child yet but I do understand the sanctity of life and the joy of loving another person. So sad for them never to have experienced that!

Perhaps, some of these woman are heartless, some may genuinely not be able to make the perspective shift, some have backed themselves into an ideological corner. all the best urban

Well, if you were having a discussion on abortion, then you have to be open to the fact that other people are going to have different opinions to you. This person wasn't abusive or anything in their response, and aknowledged that it was only her opinion, so you can't fault her for how she feels, even if you don't like it. Personally, despite not wanting children, I would still weigh the descision to have an abortion more heavily than getting rid of a tapeworm, but, in the end, an abortion is an abortion, no matter what the reason behind it or weather you agonize over it or not.

i totally disaggree also what this person's attitude in life...it seems like she's a real loser...this person is really struggling to survive or in total pain that is why she's saying all these things

I can understand the persons point of view I don't want to get pregnant, I use contraception to prevent it however. I don't think it makes you heartless to not want children it's a huge responsibility to raise children and you can screw them up forever if you get it wrong. It's not as if there's a population crisis anyway there are far too many people in the world as it is. You could argue is selfish to bring a child into this crazy world with all it's problems that's how I feel about it at present anyway.

I don't get people like you. Abortion is a personal choice. Does what one woman chooses to do affect you in ANY way besides how you let it affect you emotionally? Live and let live. She doesn't want a baby. I completely understand that. I never do either. And that's OUR choice! What gives you the right to stand in judgement of people like us who choose not have children and will do everything within our power to prevent it? You are obviously one of the many who believes they get to have a say on other people's personal happiness. Would I be happy with a baby? I'd probably be just as happy with 2 severed limbs. However, because you feel it's wrong, you get to infringe on my chance at happiness by throwing guilt and criticism at me for making a choice I know is best for me? Just because you don't understand people that feel that way about having children doesn't give you the right to call people heartless.

Women always love to have a baby, baby of her own whom she has given birth, Yes I agree their may be some genuine reason to postpone a child birth for sometime But Abortion is a sin, if anybody conceive a baby their duty is to give the baby a life it comes only to those whom God Choose !