Do you think it is possible to have more than one best friend?
By nixtickleme
@nixtickleme (349)
United States
June 9, 2007 6:40am CST
Throughout my life I have always run into this scenario where I might be really close with a couple of people who I consider friends, but then there always is just this closer connection between me and one of my friends. I have come to believe that you can have one absolute best friend and maybe a couple other good friends, but they aren't your best friend. What do you think? Do you have more than one best friend?
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28 responses
@surveygrrl (1270)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I would consider 2 people to be my best friends. I guess one is more my best friend now and one was before but I am super close with both of them.
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@franxexces (1096)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
Yes, i think it's possible to have more than one best friend because I have bestfriends.. I have a lot of close friends but not all of them are my bestfriends. I have girl bestfriends and guy bestfriends..
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
9 Jun 07
i think like you before. i thought that i could have more than just one bestfriend. but when i think about it, there's only this one person i entrust my secrets with. to some, i tell them some of my secrets, too. but not all. but to my bestfriend, she knows everything. so, if we look deeper and think deeper, we will realize that there's this one person we really consider as our bestfriend... anne
@franxexces (1096)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
I told you i have many bestfriends right? but I don't tell all of them my secrets.. Some of my secrets I share to like three of them and then another secret to the two. But I have secrets that all of them know. It's just that they are all different kinds of people. So mostly I share the secret or the problem with the one who can really help. The one or three of them who can mostly likely help me. So kinda different problems or secrets for each.
@arjun3935 (32)
• India
9 Jun 07
Why not???In my point of view-In friendship, the word possesiveness never has any place.So no perfect friend would feel possesive if you have more than one best friend.As long as you have many friends, it shows that you are going to visit the heaven without dying and in a faster time.
@nixtickleme (349)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I think that is definitely the key and I agree with you. You cannot be possessive with your friends. Thanks for the comment.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I don't consider any of my friends to be the best friend I have ever had. I have very few friends and they are so close that I would consider them my sisters, but I can't say one is better than the other. each of them have different qualities that make them such good and endearing friends. My best friend is my husband. He is the one I devoted my life to. On the other hand, there are things I can't share with my husband that I would share with a girlfriend and she would understand better about women issues. These girls are very close to me and I consider them to be my sisters. So, yeah, I think you can have more than one best friend. I just don't really care for that term.
@nixtickleme (349)
• United States
9 Jun 07
You know i completely agree with you. When i think about it I have always considered those who are close friends to be like family as well. Thanks for the comment.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
10 Jun 07
No problem! I really like to think of these close friends as family, because I feel that close to them that I cant think of them any other way.
@imalady_me85 (218)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
yes... you could have as many best frens as u want but only a few could remain true to u...just be careful...
@nixtickleme (349)
• United States
9 Jun 07
Right... so if only one can remain true to you- can you really say that all of them are your best friend? That's contradictory.
@miaolin (397)
• China
9 Jun 07
Hello,nixtickleme.Several years ago,I thought I had a best friend,because we were always together.We talked about everything to each other.In fact,we all hadn't the real secrets at that time.So we didn't mind at all.But we still fooly thought that we were best friends.Since she went to another high school,we seldom got in touch with each other.As the time going,we haven't met each other for year,so the common subjects between us were less and less.We won't to listen to each other's words any more.Now we don't talk the personal private things to each other.Could we still be considered as the best friends?
Now I have another best friend who I met in high school.Although we are in different university now,we still keep in touch with each other and talk about the private things.There is no barrier between us.We trust each other.
So I wonder what the defination of best friends.Whether my previous best friend is still my best friend or not.I don't think so.In my opinion,best friend just could be one.You just can talk with one friend undefendedly.
Don't know whether my opinion is right or not.HEHE
@wl_nicholas (4)
• China
15 Jun 07
In your word,I feel you are chinese ,In my opinion,you should contect your previous friend as before,that will understand consider your friend is not easily ,you should pay more time and give yourself faith,do not care about what will be happen next time .
@neon2000 (2756)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
This question is ask not once but I think many times already here in mylot but anyway my answer is yes, you could have more than one best friend. But you can't have more than three best friends. I will leave to you if you ask why, just think?
@pelo26 (1552)
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
Technically, you can only have one best friend as the term best signifies. But yes, there are instances that you may find a lot of friends sharing the same spot and weighing considerably equal in your heart. Don't fret about choosing among them. Have a lot of better friends instead. Cheers! Happy Posting :)
@dlkuku (1935)
• United States
10 Jun 07
Yes, I have two best friends, although neither have ever met each other. One is from back home and we have been friends for over 20 years. The other is here in my new home, and I have known her for a year, but I can't imagine now what life would be like without her. Maybe because she is so much like my other best friend. She filled a gap when I really needed it. Of course, I miss my best friend back home, we are closer than sisters, but the one here, I consider just as much a friend as her.
@devrajrao (167)
• India
10 Jun 07
yes it is possible that we can have more than two best friends as i have three best frind but it is slight difficulte to adjust with all of them but i am trying my best. i think they will also understand me.
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
9 Jun 07
I have always only had one best friend as well that is the one that I trust more then any of my other friends but I do beleive that one can have more then one best friend , it depends on who you hang around with . I know that my best friend today was not my best friend when we first got to know each other and my best friend at the time is still a good friend but they traded places in what they meant to me as I got to know one of them closer and the other one that I was closer to , we kind of drifted apart because of circumstance . It could have been possible that I could have remained best friends with both of them though if circumstances had not got in the way .
@executive85 (299)
• India
9 Jun 07
I totally agrees with you, one can have a lot of friends but best friend is only one with whom you can share all your secrets and you really believes him or her.
@senthil2k (1500)
• India
9 Jun 07
Yes. Its absolutely possible to more than one good friend. Infact, I have more than 5 friends who are really very thick friends for me, with whom I share my good and bad news, roam around, chat, eat, have fun etc.. And even some of my thick friends have more than one friend, meaning I'm one of their many best friends. I know that too.
@nandhinir (154)
• India
9 Jun 07
I guess if we take friends every one are best in some way...We make friends only when we like them and their character...So all are equal...Some may be pen pals, some may be neighbors, some may be classmates so and so...Treat people equally...No partiality among friends...Not good....