single mother of 3 teeners and a 19 mos old baby

Welcome to Mylot family, here no disboilities or any sadness, we make others happy at this place.I am sorry for the situation you are going thru, my prayers are with you and these teenagers will turnaround and will help you.But don't angry with them understand them and request them they will reposnd positively.

Hi rdgsnykmls. I think your children are teenagers now, if they love you they will understand your situation. Even if you want to do the chores, you cant because of your health. Im sure your children will help you, in the house and taking care of the siblings. I pity you for being in that situation. I know the feeling of being helpless. Have a heart to heart talk to your children, the set up is just temporary. Good luck to you :) and get well soon :)

Well you must talk to your kids and tell them that you are not their maid ..! and also that you are not physically fit..!! they have to compromise..!! And one more things teens get angry and frustrated very easily ..! So If you want them to help you in your houseold then learn how to ask for help gracefully..!! Its an art. Rather than "ordering" them try "asking" them to do work or talk in an "advicing" manner , I am sure they will work happilly!! Try praising their work timely and apriciate them. and love them throughly..!! Or Get a MAID..!!

I am so sorry of your health problems. Hopefully you will get the medical assistance that you need real soon. I would try to explain to the older children that they can really make a difference in your life and in your babies life, as well as their own, by helping out. Right now you are not able to do a lot of the things which mothers normally do. SO,they need to help out more. And when you are able to, you will help them out. and maybe you can help them with their school work or just listening to their problems or talking to them, or giving them some space to be by themselves sometimes or to go out with their friends after they have helped you. These are my initial thoughts. Good luck, and God bless.

It's good that you have 3 teen-age children who can help you around the house...you know, if there is a close family members there, say your own mother, meet with these 3 teeners and explain to them about your condition, and why they really have to help out.. It's important that your kids understand your condition, and should be willing to help out. Maybe other adult members can also help you explain these things to your kids, like taking care of your 1 1/2 old baby, and other chores. I guess there is a foundation in Manila which takes care of the needs of physically challenged persons such as your condition; you can search the net for it so you can be helped, not only financially, but for the family members to help cope with this temporary crisis. This is temporary because once your condition is corrected through surgery, things will get better...let us just continue to pray...be strong.

Hello, I am really sad for you. You must be going through a tough time. My prayers are with you. Make your children understand that you really need their support. I know that you must have already done this. But, once they realise it, they can be a great support to you. You can check for some organisatins that help single parent to cope up with their life. I will try to search for such organisation. God bless you and your kids.

try to explain to them that they need to help because you're sick, why not try to get a maid, its not that expensive paying maids here in our country... at least your teeners will have the companion to work all house choires... good luck to you and have a good health...