Mommy rules!

I have two sons who have behavioral problems so for me it isn't a good idea to "bend" the rules. By bending the rules I am sending them a mix message that they have a hard time comprehending. I admit that there are a few times where we don't always have a choice but to bend the rules, when this happens we try to explain to them how special this circumstance is. With my daughter we could be more lenient with the rules because she comprehends that it is a special occasion and not to push the issue. We treat all of the children the same however because I don't feel it would be fair to treat them different.

I think we moms are all guilty of that from time to time, my experience is that you lose ground when it happens to often. I raised 3 boys 25 21 and 12 and let me tell you my life was much easier when the rules did not get bent. Staying up every once in awhile is a treat. What I did was declare Friday night free for all. We all stayed up late, watched movies, did the family outings on that night that type of thing. But the rest of the week it was business as usual. Mom you might think a free moment now with tv is a blessing but trust me in the long run it will save you so much grief to just set the runs then follow them no matter what they are. When you have a child hitting puberty yelling at you that they do not want to do their homework, when you are insisting that they do, but he yells you don't always make me... Or they are yelling I don't have to go to bed on a school night, it is hard to gain control at that point. So much harder.

I think that sometimes I let the kids get away with stuff just cause i dont wanna hear the crap but for the most part I'm a pretty laidback mom in the first place ya know....I never buy them something when we are out mind you and never have but I'll push back bedtime on a school night if they want to watch the end of a movie or whatever...and I'll go up to bed and know they will come up as soon as the movie is over so its kinda a two way trusting thing really...There are some rules though I just wont bend at all but they dont give me any trouble over it..

There is no doubt that nobody is perfect. I certainly try not to let them get away with anything, but as you say there are times when you just do for the sake of peace. I always regret it afterwards. It just ends up making for more trouble and problems in the end. cheers,

no my children follow house rules on a daily basis my 2 are 17 and 11 yrs old expect resect from both we hav a real happy household we go out alot and do nearley everything togeva we all decisions in the house and if there is ne probelms that come to ahead we will sit down altogeva and hav a disscussion bout it openly we will put all our bits in and then reach a compromise more so with my 17 yr old cause i dnt want wat she may b doing to rub of on the younger so u need rules in place

Sometimes i jus let them have their way, if im very tired or sick. But before i bring them to a super market or to anywhere else i will give them a quick warning as wat to do and wat not to.Discipline is very important, but still kids are kids we jus have to give and take...but no matter wat MUMMY STILL RULES!

Its very difficult to be consistent with house rules for our soon to be 5 year old. My husband and I see things differently and i have often been told I am a mean mommy because I don't allow some leeway or bending of rules with my son. We went through almost two weeks of disagreements over this and I ended up just leaving it all and letting him decide what to do when it comes to bedtime, playing his games, computers and so forth. Thats when it all went up the shoot and when my husband had enough and asked me to take over again, I had a hard time trying to get him back into his routine and still do. I must say when American Idol was on my son did stay up an extra 30 minutes so I could watch the show LOL

I believe in being consistant with the rules. However, I don't have very harsh rules that would require any bending or breaking.