I just don't know what to do.

I guess your daughter would understand if you can't attend her bridal shower because you are sick. It is best that you inform her of your situation / condition so that she won't be expecting you at the occassion and just assure her that you are okay and will just need some rest to recover. I suggest that you call a doctor to see and check on your health and other members in your house who also feel the same way as you do. Well, I hope you get well soon.

So sorry to hear you are not feeling well. This is a tough dilemma for you. If it were me, I would see if someone could come with me and drive me to the shower. I'd also give my daughter a call and give her the heads up that you are not feeling well but will be making the journey out anyway, but may have to frequently be out of the room to use the restroom, get fresh air, etc. Take care.

That is hard.. I'm sorry to hear that Tricia. If you don't really feel well don't force yourself to go because that might worsen your sickness. I think your daughter will understand if you will just explain to her about your sickness today.. 90 miles is quite far if you drive yourself to the place, you might feel awful along the way.. that's hard. Maybe you can try to contact her ahead and tell her that you won't be able to come because you are terribly sick and then contact somebody who will be attending the bridal shower or the future inlaws and arrange for a phonepatch so you can give a surprise message and give your wishes to her in one part of the bridal shower. You may not be there physically but she will know then that you really wanted to be there with her and that you love her. Good luck Tricia!

I know this is way to late to answer so I am just writing to see what you did and whether it worked out for you...I'm sure if you decided not to go that your daughter would have understood

Tricia - I am so sorry to hear that you are sick. My first question is can you find someone to drive you - going that far on your own is not a good idea in my opinion. Take plenty of 7-UP with you. If you can get someone to go with you then you can at least put in an appearance. If I got there I wouldn't stay for the whole time but would politely make my excuses and leave to head back home and try and get over whatever it is that is making you ill. I don't know how far off the wedding is but you need to be well for it. Good luck and get well soon.

It will all time nice if you could go there. And make a strong commitment and start the journey three hours before the occasion ,and just be there, it is enough,your mere presence is self sufficient.

If it were me, I would leave early, give myself more than enough time to get there. Then I would allow time for a nap as well. See if you can't crash at her house for a bit. And take a nap before the shower, then you will be at your best. Then explain to everyone that you are feeling ill, so they should keep their distance. If you have been sick since yesterday, chances are you will be feeling better soon, although I doubt it will be THAT soon. (sorry) (: But you would hate it if you missed it, if I went and got sick, i would understand why you were there, Im sure some may be put off by it, but imagine how your duaghter would feel if you didn't make it, and how you would feel. Honestly, It's worth it to just go, and risk it. ALso, try and see if you can crash at your daughter's overnight, because driving back right away will not help you recover any quicker. Good luck to you and congrats on your daughter's upcoming wedding! I'm sure you have mixed feelings about it, I think it would be very bittersweet. (: Bring plenty of hand sanitizer and wash your hands often, it's the best way to avoid spreading those germs.

Call your daughter and tell her exactly what you told us. No way would she want you to be out that far away from home in your condition.

Number one...there is your health... and tthe other guests health to think about. Number two...your daughter lovs you and she will understand if you dont attend , if you tell her why. I have a very bad disk in my back. I kept reinjuring it because I thought that I could okay in just going through my day as I normally would. But, evey morning... my back & neck were still due to what I did normally the day before. You talk about PAIN! All Iam saying is that, you know what your limitations are: noone knows your body better than you. If you suffer that badly at the present... then dont make your daughter miserable with concern & worry, if you should go. Its not a decision about just you, and so you should do what you feel is right and what is beneficial for everyone. Dont go. She wont hate you. And you heal up... after your better...spend the day with just her & you.

This is a once in a lifetime event!! This is your baby girl getting ready to make a life change, sick or not, I would find someway to get there...I hope you feel better!

i believe that you have to go!!!!!!!!!