Spare the rod, Spoil the child

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I am a father of a 7 year old. She is our only daughter, my wife having problems with her uterus, making it almost to impossible having another child.(Still having high hopes of being able to procreate another one). When my daughter does something wrong, I usually do not react violently. I just talk to her about what she did wrong and explain to her the consequences of her actions. When she ask for a permision to do something, be it playing, or going to our neighbor or simply asking for a favor, I readily give my approval. Of course knowing that these action will not be destructive to anyone or any property. And should the favor she ask for will be a little risky for a child of her age like climbing up and down a playground obstacles, I would still give my approval but I will be there to supervise her. Most parents I know would say "Don't let your child do that, its too dangerous". It sure is, but thats the reason I am here for... to look over my child and still makes my child enjoy her being a child. I don't think I am spoiling my daughter by "sparing the rod" cause being a good parent doesn't mean controlling your child but guiding your child. I believe...."don't prevent your child from doing the things they want to do. Rather, guide and supervise them to do it correctly." You won't spoil a child this way because they will develop a sense of accomplishment and freedom and not dependency. Anyway, this is the real role of the parent isn't it, be the guide not the hindrance. Being a "don't do that...No you can't" parent would make the child do things behind your back.