Have You Ever Missed Somebody So Much It Hurts???

Awwwwwww... he must be missing you too, and your little girl, as this is the most interesting part of her growing up. I really feel for you. I'm guessing where he is, and that it's difficult to make contact, but be strong for your daughter and build him into her life, even if you have to bite back the tears. She needs to feel she is a part of him. You're nearly half-way there, and I feel a lot of love between you, so keep faith, my friend... all you can do is pour your heart out in your letters. He will appreciate that. Please accept a BIG ((((((HUGGGGG)))))) from me, for both yourself and your daughter, and feel free to lean on me whenever you feel the need. xx

Thank you so so much. That really, truly means a lot to me. Huggers!

I have had about ten close people die in the last ten years, and one or two right before that. It leaves a big hole in your life. That is what happened to my first love, and we were so in tune it was like our minds were joined. God allowed us to meet and marry young because his time was short.

Awwwwww, yes... the loss of that many close people in such a relatively short time, especially your first hubby would leave a great BIG hole in your life. But, I'm glad to see you're happy now, even if you do have to work opposite shifts to your present hubby. He must fill a good part of the hole, although I know it's not quite the same. Brightest Blessings for a happy future life with your family, Gerty. x

Yes, it must be difficult working opposite shifts because you don't often get to do things together. As for our kids, yes, I think we all miss them, but I see one of mine weekly and the other not so often, but enough to know they're both happy with their families. I lost my grandson to cancer when he was just over seven years old, and that's still a wrench on my heart, but I'm getting through... it's ten years now, and slightly better. Brightest Blessings.

Yes, Mylot certainly eats up the time. It won't be long before you two get to meet. All the very best of luck, when you do. :-)

You seem to be very attached to this guy. I agree, online relationships can be just as painful, if not moreso, because at times, all you want to do is look into their eyes and hear them breathe. Thank you for sharing with us, Wonder, and I wish you all the very best for the time you meet your guy and hope that you have a very special future together. Brightest Blessings.

Thanks for your blessing! *laughs* Yes I do love this guy very much. But it's good at the same time that I have mylot now so I can indulge myself writing here and make time go a little faster maybe! haha. Have a good day!

What a poetical use of words, Nejnej, and so true. Thank you for sharing this. Brightest Blessings.

Yes, I quite agree that there is nothing to compare with that joy and happiness. Sometimes, the feeling of hope can be dashed I guess, but life is a rollercoaster, and we have to learn, as you're trying to tell us, to take the rough with the smooth and carry on. That certainly will be a glorious day when we meet again, given the other person feels the same way. Brightest Blessings.

I agree, it's a magical moment when you actually get to speak to each other, but not long after they say goodbye from the chat, you start to miss them even more. That's love, alright! Brightest Blessings and I hope you'll be together soon.

Just absent friends, Maryanne... one in particular, who's only away on holiday, but he's a very close friend, and he's suffering from secondary cancer. I'm always fearful when he goes away that he may never come back... and the tears come. However, he is texting me every two or three days, which makes me feel better because he is obviously enjoying his holiday, and truly deserves it. Then there are close friends who are hundreds or thousands of miles away, whom I would just like to meet and see the smile on their face, the happiness in their eyes and the wind blowing through their hair. I miss these badly too. I, like you, just sit here at times and cry... sob even, because I feel so lonely and lost without them. Brightest Blessings.

oh. sorry to hear about the break up. breaking up with someone you love so much really drives you crazy. you will end up hoping that she's still around and with you. but fact is, she no longer is. all you can do is think of her and end up missing her more and more. but i do hope you'll feel better soon and you'll get back on track, too.. anne

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that, Magnel. I remember vividly the hurt when I finished with my first boyfriend, and that was many years ago. That first love seems to stay in your heart forever... I don't know why that is, but they do. However, you will meet somebody else, and eventually find the "one" you're supposed to be with. Take heart in that my friend. Brightest Blessings.

Thank you, Gabs... yes, I know where you are, but I'll be ok. You obviously know who I'm talking about, and it seems a long time another ten days, but I guess they'll soon pass. Brightest Blessings my friend and have a great time tomorrow! xx

It's not just on Mylot, Deeeky. For sure, I've made a lot of friends in different internet sites over the past six years, in all corners of the globe. Some of them become very special friends, and some casual, but you get into the habit of expecting them to be online when you are, or sometimes even rely on them being there. Then one day, you'll log on and they're not there... there's no message to tell you where they are or if they're ok and no fast way of contacting them. It is then that you realise how much you've taken them for granted... it hurts... you want to tell them... day after day you log on and they're still not there and you're helpless to know the reason why. I lost contact with a couple of friends, whose lives determine now that they can't spend so much time on the computer. Ok... I know the reason for them not being here, and although I stop and think about them often, I know they're fine and going on with their lives and look forward to the times when they can get on here and catch up with the chat. You feel happy for them that their lives have changed for the better. Then, there are those who just seem to disappear without a word... you don't know why, and you worry. These are the ones who leave a big hole in your heart. They're often the ones you felt closer to... and they're gone! This is the time the pain sets in. Either something bad has happened and you know not what, or they haven't cared enough to set your mind at ease before leaving, which can really hurt. I made two, just casual friends in games rooms, both male, both disabled, both American. The older one lives in New Jersey, the younger lived in New Orleans. I hadn't seen either for a while, not having been in Pogo that often of late, and I went in to pick up my messages and clear the box. There was one message from the older guy about friends, which brought tears to my eyes... then there was one from the younger, telling of how he lost all his properties in the New Orleans hurricane, and had to move south. There was the reason I hadn't seen him for a while. So, I made a point of writing back to him. I could feel his desperation... this really nice guy, who has a fair bit to cope with and I couldn't be there for him. A young guy, trying to make something of himself and within a few hours, he had lost almost everything... but, he still has his life, thankfully, and at 36 years old, can build it up again. Those are the kind of things that make me sad and give me a feeling of helplessness. Brightest Blessings, my dear friend. Take care and keep in touch. :-)

I'm not sure whether your partner is away working, studying or moved away for good, but whichever, it must hurt, especially when you have his baby there to remind you. It was good that you got to spend three days with him last month. It must have helped a little. I hope your hurt lessens a little, and send you my Brightest Blessings.

He says that he left because there is no work here, he sends clothing for our daughter every three months and visits every six months or so. Honestly, I really feel like it is over, but he probably doesn't know how to say ot to me. Nonetheless, I consider myself to be a single partent although it hurts to admitt it! Thank you so much for your words of inspiration, it has found a way to cheer me up, even if only for this moment:D

Well, I'm sure it does happen... in fact, I know it does, but you might have elaborated a little with your response. You don't sound the type to miss somebody from that response. lol.