Not the perfect parent

I do not have baby now,but i think it is so difficult as a perfect parent, because there are so many things to do through we educate our children!

I'm a weird mix actually. I tend to spoil my kids too much especially when it comes to candy, toys etc but I am also pretty strict with them which helps keep them in check and not get to acting too spoiled and demanding things like you see a lot of kids do.

but plz don't forget that parent are also human and so they can make mistakes like we do but it's not the matter to be upset to them

I have grown children and always thought I expected too much from them as they were growing up. As a single parent they were given a lot of responsibility but they handled it well. Now they have told me how grateful they are that I expected the things I did, they find it much easier now is what they say. Now we have just had my 18 year old step son move in with us and I find that trying to have expectations such as I did with my own children is far beyond him. It appears that being raised in a home where your contribution is not expected proves to be more of a deficiency than an asset. For that reason what I initially thought of as a flaw proves to be a benefit. Just some food for thought for those that feel as I did.

All parents are not wrong. All parents are take care children .But some of reasons some parents cat do that.But most of parent doing there responsblity nicely,some are thinking wrong.

Bringing up kids that too with perfection i think is next to impossible. I have two kids one daughter & one son.I think what i'm loosing for bringing both of them is patience. I keep teeling them things & they refuse to listen to me, that annoys me.They are not that ill mannered but at times they misbehave also.I'm just waiting for them to grow & understand things.

Yes i agree with you. My son loves to be in our car while eating or drinking milk in the evening and without that he doesnot eats asingle one ,and iam makes him sit there even he doesnot ask for car during his meal time. My son is 2yrs old and iam afraid thinkinkg of his eating at the dining table.

You know I do the same too and even though I think at times its too much tv, most of the time he is not actually watching it as he has his toys out, he's playing at th same time. There are some really good educational programs on tv nowadays and because my sons english is not very good (fisrt language samoan) he has actually picked up a lot of english words. I do monitor what he watches though because there are some cartoon programs that are just silly like Ed, Eddy and Eddie. There are a few other flaws that I can think of but the main one that comes to mind is how impatient I am at times. I expect things to be done as soon as they are said and when my son doesn' listen, then it irritates me and if I have had to tell him again more than twice then I end up yelling. I have told my son to keep telling me "mom your yelling again" or "why are you getting angry" and it helps me to refocus and calm down. I know it sounds silly but it does work when he says those things to me. Just the other day my hubby said that he's notice how calm I am with my son and how patient I'm becoming so I suppose that is a good thing.

Mine is buying too much without regard to whether they need it, appreciate it, or if their behavior merits getting a new toy. When I had my first, I was very young. I heard so many people tell me that I wouldn't be able to provide for my child, that over-indulging was how I responded to that. I'm also really bad with sticking to the limits I give them. I want to be able to say; if you do X, then Y will happen & stick to it. But either because it's easier or because I am busy with something else, I'll give into whatever I said they couldn't do or not follow through with whatever consequence I stated originally. Great question by the way :)

I let my kids stay up as late as they want on the weekends. I know this messes up their schedules, but I work midnight shift and need sleep in the day. I hope that by staying up later, I can get a few un-interupted winks in the am..LOL I try not to be too strict with my kids either. I have good boys, although sometimes unruly, and I know if I would have started being stricter at a younger age, I wouldn't have some of the problems I occassionally face. But I figure, I am tired, I pick and choose my battles over what is important. I am not running a boot camp.

Im ther first to admit what I do wrong is I spoil my daughter with whatever she wants..I know I shouldnt do that because when she gets older she is going to expect to get everything handed to her BUT shes an only child and If I have the money why should it be a problem. Shes not a spoiled brat she doesnt cry on the rare ocassions that I do tell her she cant get something, she is well behaved. I agree there is no such thing as the "perfect" parent no matter ho whard you try your going to mess up sometimes..its okay to do that, were human we make mistakes and as long as we can learn from them then we'll be okay!