Would You Check Your Partner's Emails or Cell Phones?

Hello,wondericequeen,i do not have partner now.I have to talk about my past experience with my ex boyfriend. Honestly,i did not know his email passwords and therefore i had not checked his emails before. Sometimes he might leave his email account on the screen while he was away,but i did not bother to touch his personal things. For the cell phones,he did have missed calls nd text messages sometimes when he was away from the phones, i did not check the call record or messages. In fact,i was cheated by him finally,may be i should have checked his messages at the beginning:P. When i figured out that he cheated on me,i was sad but i did not confront him because i knew it did not help.

that is very unethical to check your partner's emails and cellphone to check if he/she is cheating or not.In the days where there were no cellphones and emails,we were taught that we have to respect each others privacy or space because we do not own anyone.reading someones snail mail is a taboo or even someone's pages when we had our pagers with us.In every relationship ,trust and respect should be the guiding factor, these things happen and it all depends on the individual who is doing the cheating.If he/she did it make ways for that partner not to,maybe the problem is us that is why they cheat. The more you control a person the more the individual wants to getaway from you.everyone needs his space, not to cheat but just being one's self. If you are filled with distrust on your partner then there is no use keeping him and maintaining the relationship because you are hurting.Love sprouts from letting the person be and after all you have patiently strive not to make the person cheat on you then just let go and let that person be,give that person his/her happiness.It's learning to let go.You can't have anything or anyone you can't keep.

I have never checked a partner's emails or mobile phone. But I have had a partner do that to me. After we had broken up she would get into my account and read my emails. When I found out about it I changed my password and it didn't happen again. I have known people that check their partner's email or cell phones because they believe they are cheating on them. But I'm of the opinion that it's easier to confront your partner if you have any suspicions of distrust.

Yes I check my Boyfriend email and cell phone but it is only because he just is not a big internet user and I set up his email and we have each others passwords and as for a cell phone we are both on each others at times and we know who is calling who all our friends and kids have different ring tones for them. We really dont hide anything from each other but then again we are always together and we work together. So we trust each other. But if I did come across some evidence and that would be because he never clears his numbers or call list then he would be beat down. Thank god that I really dont have anything to worry about.

I would never check my partner's emails or text messages. I think it would be nosy and impolite to do this to him. I like to trust him. I don't think I would ever get evidence to say he is cheating on me. But if I did I would have a conversation rather than confront him. This is because confrontation would be likely to make him very angry. A calm approach, thinking about his feelings, would be the best option. If I found out he cheated on me and I was one hundred percent sure of this I would possibly split up with him.

sometimes If he acts different I will check, because from my late experience, in year 1 0r 2 after we married he never allowed me to pick or read his messages at that time I really gave him my trust. until I found out he get closed with somebody else that his junior. although he let her go. we went separated after that. he apoligized at me, begging on my knee asking for forgiveness but his the one who wants divorce so after we separate and want to make our divorce legal he come back to me and said that he will change if I gave him 2nd change. I prayed because its hard for me to trust somebody after what he did to you. and then we still together until now. I think he learnt from the mistakes that he made. but sometimes I still checking his phone, friendster or mail just to be sure.

My parent do not know how to use PC.. So i do not worried about that

I am not interested in reading his emails and checking the cell phone. We share a cell phone and I'm the one that always have it most of the time anyway. My husband has not given me a reason to be insecure about anything. If I wanted to read his email I would not have to sneak to read it,all I have to do is ask him. Most of his emails I assume are work related or from his friends. If I ever came across evidence that he is cheating on me I would confront him and he would regret it for the rest of his life.

Yes I do this is a bad habbit of mine. I wanted to see that who is going to write the mails to my husband and what type of answer is giving. But this is very bad habbit we must trust on him. Even though I knew that he loves me too much but still I don;t have faith on girls.

I'm partner-free at the moment, but I believe, whenever I'm in a relationship, I'll choose to trust my partner, so I don't think I'll ever check my partner's emails or cell phone, even I'm in doubt of my partner's loyalty. A part of the reason is I think if I have problem trusting my partner, it's hard for me to maintain the relationship, but most of it, is that I believe in myself (haha!)! But if I really suspect that my partner is cheating on me, I won't show it, I'll just keep collecting evidences and when I believe there're sufficient clues to prove the fact, I'll quit without an explanation, cause that's my philosophy, no matter to my friends or to my partner, that it's hard to gain my trust, but once you've got it, it's hard to lose it; and if you're lucky enough to lose it, you'll never be able to gain it again.

I have never done this. Everyone has a right to their own business. I wouldn't want someone checking up on me. My ex got so mad at me , because when we were together I wouldn't let him use my computer. He was like" well what do you have to hide"? I was like nothing , I just don't like anyone messing with my computer, same goes for my cell phone. And I did catch him more than once with my phone. His excuse. I thought I heard it ring, and I was like.. Well were you planning on answering it? Lol no answer. He was so paranoid of everything lol. Needless to say we are no longer together. We all have our right to some privacy.

I usually do not do that it is nor moralty ,even he cheating you myay be he have been cheating you .But i think if it is not very serious,i can endruring it. it is he private affair .

I do check the mails of my partner many times,but only with the permission of my partner. Some times, she dont have access to have mails and want to check for an urgent mail immediately. I always have access to internet, so I will check her mail for her and let her know the information she is looking for. Also I will check her mobile when she is not available to pick it up. Else, I wont. Some privacy is definitely needed among the partners too.. What do you say ?

I left a similar post sometime last week. about cell phones having silent tones, I wanted to know how many women would question their partner over this. A few days later Ihad an opportunity to go through his phone an I took it. The messages I read made my blood run cold, I miss you, can't wait to see you again, a couple of really graphic ones too. I rang the number, and some bint named sarah tells me that my man is actually her man, blah blah, some people have no shame! I confronted my partner of nearly four years, and he got punchy because he knew he was busted. He was so mad that I'd been in his phone, but somehow I KnewI needed to, that was the first and last time. I'm sitting here now with a lovely black eye, amongst other minor injuries, but I believe I gave as good as I got, so no regrets. I feel like I lost a hell of a lot through no fault of my own, but these things happen eh! There is a lot to be said for a womans instinct, so if you feel he might be up to something, then he probably is, just be careful how you tackle it!

Yes,i always do that in every relationship that i had before.And it always end up to yelling and fighting.Maybe that is the reason why it is still hard for me to trust anybody now. I realized that a lot of men are cheaters.And i guess, it is their nature.I know, it is not goof to sneak and check their email an cellphones, but sometimes, we need too or else you will be a fool for the rest of your life. And i wont let anybody make me a fool ever...

I know lots of guys check their girl's cellphones. I don't do that. I guess it's a matter of trust and privacy. But if she voluntarily shows me her cellphone, I would take a look. If she tells me she had been texting or calling some other guy, I would ask about it.

I have the password for my partners email accounts, and his pass code for his voice mails on his cell phone. He has my passwords for my emails, and my pass code for my voice mails on my cell phone. Do we use them? Nope. We have no reason to believe that the other is sneaking around or cheating. We're open and honest and there are no secrets between us. The only time either of us go into the other's email account is if one of us calls and asks the other to check. I find that comes in handy if we're expecting an important email from someone.

I have done it in the past, but it is not a good thing to do. Honestly if you feel you have to do it, then there is either something wrong with your self concept or your relationship isn't as solid as you thought it was. I have not had to do this in a very long time. I don't want to either. My husbands privacy is his, and I am not privy to that. I would not like him doing that to me so I don't do it to him. I trust him and I don't feel that kind of activity is necessary.

Hi there, ive never had to do anything like that but if i had i would i would normaly confront him.

If I suspected that my husband was seeing someone behind my back, then yes, I would check his emails or cell phone. I don't think it has anything to do with trust. If a man is doing something he shouldn't be doing, then he should expect that someone is going to check up on him. Some men require more babysitting than others. While I've never found any upsetting messages on my spouses cell phone, I will keep checking just in case.