What a mistake

i am so sorry to hear this dear.yes it is hard to see someone happy for whom we still stay unhappy. but u see a person who has left you for another woman will sooner or later do tht for her too. moreover why think of something gone, think of your blessings today, take ur life day by day and think positively. i have someone who is the same as urs in my messenger list still, though i was cheated, back stabbed. u know for what everyday i see him online i get new energy to fight his thougts and get over these feelings and i try to convrt this energy for my personal growth. whenever i m down i just go online look at his name there and think of how he cheated me, a new feeling to prove my worth dawns in my mind and i work still harder to be happy, self satisfy and to live with self esteem. if he didnt need u why sould u feel for him, there might be many who will sincerely want u for what u are. and pls show ur disappointment to ur friend to have sent u something which she must have verywell known would hurt u.

So sorry to hear that. After being married to someone, and getting a divorce is hard enough , but to then see him happily married with another woman and a kid must be hard. Just remember how good life is now, and that you don't have to worry about him cheating on you again.

People are different. I would have approached it head on, saying "good riddance, sucker!!!" but not everyone can get over things the way I can. The reason why I'd say that is because if the little sh!t cheated on me, it would mean that I was too good for him. Someone who appreciated me would not cheat on me. If your friend knew you that well, s/he should have been more sensitive, or if I were you and knew better, I just wouldn't have looked.

Your friend is tactless! Are you sure that this is mistake? Some people really have no tact or they dont care too much that some information can be painfull:-(

You need to get on with your life. I don't know how long you two have been divorced but as long as you harbor this ill will against your ex you will never be happy. Why would you want to look at your ex's and his new wifes website on myspace anyway. I know it is hard because he cheated on you but it makes you angry. Life is not fair. Find you someone that you can love and cherish. There is someone out there for you. It will be hard for you to see the person if you are harboring ill will against your ex.

hi shaun.I really feel for you.I'm not in the exact situation where you are right now but It's a little bit similar.Just that it's my fault(lol).Last week I tried to view the friendter account of my x bf that I made before.Maybe I'm just curious to see how he looks now.I feel really bad to see his pic cuddling his cute little girl with his wife at his back.I knew its bad to be selfish but its really hard to pretend that I'm glad after seeing them happy.The betrayal they did to me before flashes back.Just that I still hate them.Maybe its because our relationship ends too badly that we even have formal breakup after hearing that he made that girl pregnant.Sad thing is I never heard a single word sorry from them.I feel like they're very unsensitive person and they never care if they hurt people.Anyway this is life.What's important is where trying hard to be happy for ourselves. I will pray for you to ease that feeling.You deserve to be happy! there's no point to waste time to a person who is gone.Lets not allow them to ruin our life again! God bless!

Believe me, you are better off without a cheater in your life. I hope he is living up to his responsibilities to your children (mine didn't). The best thing to do is forgive him for what he did, get on with your life and find a great guy (like I did). After 38 years of being divorced, we are at last friends. I've been remarried for 28 years now. Once the kids grew up and he stopped marrying dumb bimbos and found a very nice lady to marry (4th wife), we could actually spend time together in a group. This made it easy for both of us to spend time with our kids/grandkids at the same time. Time can make a difference. I never thought we could ever be friends again, but we are. We are both much better off with our present spouses than with each other. Move on and move up to a much better life. Don't waste your time thinking about him/her. Enjoy your kids while you can. They sure do grow up fast. I know how hard it is to be a divorced mom with kids. I was there for 10 years. However, I think I'm a better person for surviving the hard times. Good luck to you!

I think ur friend should not send this link to u.Its really a painful situation.It is naturally no body can keep him/her away from this painful feeling.But our frineds or relatives should cooperate us to forget our painful memmories.Ur friend teased ur wounds may be unwillingly. But she should be more caring if she is ur sincere friend.

I can only imagine how you feel. This must have really opened old wounds. I am so sorry that he cheated on you and caused you so much pain. I do hope you have a better life now. If he cheated on you, he made a terrible mistake and lost someone very special. He may look happy but I am sure he has some reqrets concerning you also.

Some of us (me, especially) have a hard time letting go of the past and memories. We often think, "but that should be mine" or "I could have had that". Facing our past is one of the hardest things. I know that I had a hard time with it. My ex husband married my biological cousin (Whom he cheated with). I had a really hard time with that. They just had a baby and I sent them a card and a gift. I guess that I am getting better.

Oh my friend! That is bad indeed. However, I hope you could find it in your heart to forgive him so that you would not longer feel anger. As long as there is anger, there in no forgiveness. Sometimes when we are still angry at someone, we fail to become happy ourselves. Take it from me, I have been there. I felt so much anger that I became angry at the world. Only when I started to forgive, did I find myself starting to be happy too.

oh sorry to hear that.all this men are same.we cant say when their attittude towards us change.i had some problem,i lost trust in love.i never be in love with any guys !

I can certainly understand the curiousity that made you check out their website. Kinda like wiggling a sore tooth with your tongue. It's morbid but fascinating just how deep and sharp that pain can run, isn't it? Of course, as a woman, I feel for your heartbreak and encourage your healing and moving on. I know that that is easier said than done but it is the best advice. My first marriage was so bad sometimes I look back and wonder how I survived at all. Sometimes I look back and it seems as though it happened to someone else. Yet, I did survive and I am a stronger, wiser person. And let me tell you this, Shaun, success is the sweetest revenge. 21 years later, it bothers my ex that I am more attractive, more successful and happier than he ever imagined I would be! I love the look on any ex's face when they realize what they missed out on! So, do your sit-ups, pamper your skin and smile a lot! Soon, he'll be eating his heart out over YOUR myspace page! Chin up, girl, you're doing fine.

Don't let the memory of some jerk keep you from living your life. He has obvisouly gotten over the relationship and is having a good life. He is the one who cheated yet he is having a great life! Seems unfair. You need to really get over him, go out with some friends, meet someone new and show everyone how you can have a good life after him too! Don't focus on him, focus on you!

That must hurt. It sometimes that the ones who do the most wrong get rewarded and get everything they want in this life. I do not understand why your friend gave you the link, because she must have known how it would have made you feel. I hope you find someone new in your life, and that you forget about him. Anyway there is a saying once a cheater always a cheater and maybe she will be in the same positions you are now.

Was kind of a rude thing for your friend to do. Just never forget cheaters always cheat, atleast he is someone elses trouble now and not yours. As for them having a kid together kind of feel sorry that another kid might have to be put through a divorce in the future also. Dont spend too much time focussed on the negative try to stay on track with where you want to end up.

I hated my ex for a long time too. I knew the new girlfriend, it was one of "our" friends and yes he cheated on me then went to her. But you know what, in the end, the hate is only hurting you. He doesn't care, he is happy! I firmly believe that once you are ready to believe he is a waste of energy, you will feel better. It might take a while to feel ready to let go of that anger and that is ok. Hate is a very strong form of passion. And what a great waste of the passion in you, to spend it on him! People in this world eventually get their just desserts, the world will give back to all of us what we give to others. I just feel now that the ex can do what he wants; I don't care anymore and I am no longer angry. I don't have to be his friend, but I have moved on, and I feel much better for it. That woman is going to wonder every moment of her marriage, he cheated on you and so he might do it to her as well. And he will get what he deserves in one way or another. The world will take care of it for us. It is a very good feeling to be able to say, hey, the best revenge is to get on with my life and be happy. One day you will be able to do it. You can make it.