"when the feeling is gone"
By kit_anne
@kit_anne (37)
Denmark
June 11, 2007 1:53am CST
There are circumstances that the one you love before, the one you had been dreaming to be your husband or wife, the one you had promised to be with the rest of your life --- the LOVE for him/her just faded.
Is there easy way to break somebody's heart? What will you do when the feeling is gone? Let's say, the feeling just faded but there's no third party involved.
How can you say to that person you cared so much before that things changed and your feelings towards him/her changed?
For me it's better to be honest to him than hiding it to him the truth. Even though it will hurt him at least I am honest enough to him and of course to myself! It's very hard to say " I LOVE YOU HONEY" if you really don't mean it. huh! saying I love you is sacred, nowadays, saying I love you is just too normal even though you dont mean it at all.
Have a nice day ahead! :)
1 person likes this
4 responses
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
11 Jun 07
When the love is gone. Not sure I believe the love is gone. Might be buried in amongst the cobwebs. It just needs to dust off and cleaned up a bit. When the feelings aren't there that is when love has a chance to shine through! Love is not a feeling but a cmmitment to share a life together. It is up to you how that is going to be. Are you going to share your life with kindness and goodness to each other which well encourage those love feelings to stay or well you choose to be distant and cold which will bring nothing to the marrage. Love is an action word. Love = commitment! Have you ever looked at a couple that have been married for 50 or 60 years and seen the beauty of we made it? They look like a rose in full bloom! It isn't about feelings. Feelings come and go. There is more to life than having many partners. Maybe the reason they have more then one or two partners in life is because they are looking for the sweet perfume of a good relationship. Well the only way to get that perfume is to stay with the one you first loved and do all that it takes to keep the timbers burning! It's like running a race the closer you get to the finish line the sweeter it is!
@kit_anne (37)
• Denmark
11 Jun 07
Do you believe in the saying " IF HE'S MEANT FOR YOU NO MATTER CIRCUMSTANCES COME ON YOUR WAY, LET HIM GO BECAUSE IF HE'S DESTINED FOR YOU RIGHT TIME WILL COME THAT YOU CAN BE TOGETHER AGAIN." Letting go is another way to say "YOU DO LOVE THE PERSON"... Just my thoughts! :)
1 person likes this
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
11 Jun 07
If someone wants to go then you can't hold on to them. Love is freedom to choose! When two people have made a commitment to build a life together and then one decides to change his mind. It is a loss to both of them. It does take two to make a marriage work. He or she can go but that need to make sure that is indeed what that what because the one they leave behind will be getting on with their life too and may not be around when the one who left changes their mind and wants to come back. It goes both ways. We cannot control all the cards in life. Make your decision and live with it.
@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
11 Jun 07
I would think that if the "feeling is gone" it was the fault of the both of you since you did not try to fix a small problem and then it became a larger one. That is the situation with most couples loosing interest with each other feeling that their mate doesnt listen, cant change, the lack of communication and understand and not to mention compromise is the source of this. Why not fix the problem before it happens rather than thinking of a way of breaking up when staying together is much more fun and its much more challenging
@kit_anne (37)
• Denmark
11 Jun 07
Hahaha! exactly, on my part, based from my experiences.. He was always out at night playing online games, he can't even SMS me even i have my roaming sim, i was the one calling him, he always forgot our anniversary? simple email he can't reply. i can't possibly stay or should i say go on with that kind of relationship. i've been damn stupid for 4 years then finally, i felt that the feeling was gone. i tried fixing but he never listen. he just want to do, what he wanna do.. silly me isnt it?! oh well at least ive did my part but he just neglected me. not my lose anyway! hahahah! :)
@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
11 Jun 07
I will be honest, but i will try to find the most delicate words and not to hurt him too much. It`s important for me to respect him, to respect our past feelings and to keep good memories. That`s why i will try to make the things as smooth as it`s possible.
@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
well you can still be friends with that person if both of you have mutually agreed on not being a couple anymore... sometimes the feeling does fade away especially when you were just attracted superficially to the person rather than being spiritually connected to that person in some way.
I guess it won't be easy but of course if the feeling is gone just because both of you not seeing each other that much anymore then i guess it's not really meant to be. =) Just pray and ask for the one meant for you. Perhaps God can help you find that person.
