If your teen was determined to move out , would you let him/her ?

when my kids were still little ones, whenever they want todo something that is risky, I always tell them that "this is what's gonna happen if they will continue their plan of doing it." My last sentence is: "don't tell me I did not warn you. Kids are still kids. they are curious and they want to discover anythin. but once they experienced the pain, finally they will believe me. I don't tell them: "don't do it! Never do it!" the more you'll prevent them, the more they will do it. Now, they are grown ups and once I told them that this is what's gonna happen.. they'd settle for followin my advice at once. Mother's knows best! In the case of your teenager, let her do what she wanted to do in her life. but always give her constant advice. that is one responsibility that we parents should never neglect.

I moved out of my parents house when I was 18. My mom and I clashed all the time. I told them I was moving out and they weren't happy about it, but they let me do it. My grandmother and mother both gave it 6 months. That was 8 years ago lol. After I moved out my mom and I got along much better. Granted, moving in with my friends didn't work very well like they said, but thats because one was my boyfriend and we discovered we couldn't live together..and then i was seeing the other guy behind his back lol. And the other friend had a crush on that guy and she was always homesick. But eventually me and the guy I was seeing on the sly got togehter and we've been married 6 years :) My kids are still toddlers, so its hard to say exactly what I would do in that situation. But i think that i would probably let them move out rather than try to forbid it and mess up the relationship.

If my teen was 18 and they want to try living on there own the first thing I would do is tell them that they can move out when they graduate high school and have a full time job. Then I would tell them to hunt arround and look at appartments and figure out how much they have to save for a down payment on an appartment. Once they find one in there price range and they have enough money for the down payment and to get furniture then I would let them go. The other thing I would do is let them know that my door is open if it dosnt work out in the end.

You dont have the right where I live to just let your teens go. You are still responsible for their actions. Unless they are emancipated or removed from your custody you are still liable for their actions. I think that once they review the magnitude of their decisions they will figure out what they are really taking on. I would try to understand their frustration and work with them but I would not abdicate my parental rights willingly. I also would be upset with other adults who helped them to do this.

I dont have teens yet. But I think it depends on the age of the teen you are talking about. I think if they are old enough to take care of themselves then let them go. Believe me when they realize how hard it is out there in the real world they might just want to come back home. And fallow the rules you have set for them. I have a 18 and 19 year old little brothers and they have both left home and come back more then once. Good Luck with this.

This is a tough one for me because I had to move out when I was seventeen because it was too unsafe for me to stay home. My mother didn't do anything to stop me and was VERY angry with me for implying that home was unsafe. So, I struggled to make it on my own - earning my high school diploma, working full time during the week and part time on the weekends and keeping the apartment clean. It was SO hard and I constantly wished my mom would make things better, save me from all of that and help me even just a little. No help came and a lot was learned quickly. Four years later, she realized what I was saying was true and tried being there for me - but I had already travelled a hard road and it was too late. The last thing I want to do is put my kids through what I went through. So, the best I can do is let them read my journals from that time, describe exactly what I went through, answer every question they ask and tell them they'll never be completely alone like I was. That abandoned feeling will never be present in their lives, no matter how angry or upset we might be with each other.

Okay, I am going through this with my teen. he thinks he can do better moving out and doesn't want to listen to my rules. I have told him i will not allow him to move out. Until he is eighteen. That if he tries to leave. I will report him as a run away. Which he can spend jail time for. I will not willing let him throw away his future from school. Just because he thinks he knows it all.

It depends of the character of the teen. If he is responsible, knows how to protect himself and has good plans-i will allow him to try. But if he does it without to inform me, if this is just the typical teen rebel- it will hurt my feelings and i will treat him like person who has hurted me: o.k, go on, but dont come for help untill you aware your actions.

Move out Hmmm as en out on the Lawn...yeah sure might as well clean the courtyard for a change..LOL nope seriously.I dont have any so I dont know But I can say If I feel they are mature enough and know the deal then I'd let them do it.But if they wanna do it out of anger or insecurity in the family(ya know family issues) I wouldnt let them do it....No use boasting abt it..doing something just for the heck of it...you know what i mean??

I think part of growing up is being responsible for your actions. If my teen thinks that he's moving out because of my rules then i would let it be. That is only a sign of rebellion for me. I'm only trying to do what i think is best. But he sure has his options open. I would be more upset if he was to just take off without telling me first out of respect. I would definitely have an open chat with him and let him reconsider if his decision is the best option. - Lyn

You mean like "Not while you're living under my roof!" type rules? My daughter wanted to move out well before she turned 19 and finally did. I have to say I'm glad we had a decent relationship and could actually discuss things so she didn't just take off over the rules we set. When she was finally ready I did my best to show her what she was in for and it did keep her at home for a few more months as she saved for her deposits and such. By being supportive, and only a phone call away, she has managed to do quite well. As a mother, it feels so good to hear your child say, "You were right, it is harder than I though it would be." On the downside though, as soon as she left home, she did some of the things we said "Not while you're living here!" about. :(

Locally, this is not so prevalent since ours is known as a race with closely-knit family ties. Some even still live with their parents even if they already have children. But, some teens do move out with their parents' permission, usually the reason behind this is for educational purposes. For instance, a family living in a province has a sixteen year old son who wants to study in the city's college or university. This age is appropriate for a regular graduating high school student in this country. More often than not, they are permitted to do so, thus, leaving their parents behind and bringing some of their belongings with them. Another reason which I think our folks agree to let their children be on their own is when they really are going to have families of their own and choose to move out of the house. But still, their folks usually come to visit them now and then just to be sure that they're safe & to see how the new couple are doing on their own.

I would not allow my child to move out until they are eighteen years of age. Not because I don't respect them for their decision but because I am still leaglly responsible for them until their eighteenth birthday. I would try to reason with them so that we were able to work out our problems. If for some reason we couldn't work out our differences I would then see if maybe they could stay with another family member.

Oh this is a hard one as a mother its very hard to make this desision. I moved out at 15 and did just fine. My own son who is 15 doesnt want to move out thank goodness. But I do think you learn fast with out you parents and are forced to grow up fast. Its also very hard to stop a teenager who wants to move out as my friend found out. Id be glad that they spoke to me first and wonder if this meant they werent all that sure of moving in the first place. Goodluck I hope all works out well.

Ijust tell my husband Iwill bring teen for you .I make special dish for him and in hury I cary his teen but hook is loose and I was determined.