Need any help?? No Thanks!!!

Yes I am this type. Not because I am too proud or even embarassed. I was brought up to take care of myself and my situations or problems. In my family there is something wrong if you can't do these things. We were brought up to never ask anyone for anything so we won't owe anyone. Now as an adult I find this stupid, because nobody can do it all. Even people from back in the old days with no electricity and running water. They had neighbors and family and everyon helped everyone. It is just so ingrained for me to not ask or accept even when offered. My husband usually has to ask or accept on my behalf, because he knows I will never ask.

I am very self-sufficient. In spite of that over the years I have learned that sometimes it's good to get help. But I am very uncomfortable receiving it still. Isn't the dichotomy wild though?...then there are people who are such major users that they won't work, work pay bills, won't accept responsibility, want everyone to do for things for them and blame everyone for their ills. I am so glad that my mother-in spite of the fact that I have issues with her often-raised me to rely solely on myself and make no excuses.

Most of the time, I don't ask for help eventhough I need it. Its not that because of pride but because I don't want to bother the person/s just to help me. Sometimes when I do need help, I'm really having a hard time to ask for it.

i will surely accept a person's offer for help if i find some need for it. it is funny though how most people perceive me to be quite strong. instead, a lot come to me asking for help. then, when it is i who will be needing some help, i always find it difficult to get one. this has not made me disillusioned nor disappointed, though. instead, this has made me even keep on relying on myself all the more. it may sound to be an advantage for me, but at times, i feel that i really need a good helping hand, too.

I am the kind of person who very rarely will accept an offer of help. When I'm flat broke and my parents ask me if I need any money I say no thanks. At work today, two people called in sick and I am three people for the day. Someone asked me if I'd need any help and I told them I would tell them if I needed them. Most of the people I work with have come to accept that means no. To be honest, though, I have an easier time accepting an offer of help than I do asking for help.

hey nice..u made me think about tht..i feel am like tht..it may not b possible tht i cn do evry of my things alone but i always have the habit of sayin 'no thanx'.. hmm think i'l need 2 think a bit more bout tht.. thnx

i always feel bad being a burden to people. so, if i can do the task on my own, i try to get it done without any help from anyone. but when i feel like i can't do it alone, i ask for help already. i am not a robot and i am not hercules to do everything on my own. i, too need help sometimes... but only and only if, i find it difficult and impossible to finish it on my own... anne

I think it depends on who I'd be asking for assistance from, for me. I rarely ask for help from other people, due to mostly not wanting to be an inconvience to them, unless it's a really close friends, a partner, or relative--even then, I still get stubborn about it lol. I'm also the type who could be struggling to carry a heavy load, tons of groceries, what have you, and still wouldn't ask for help--at least not from people I don't know or don't know well. Sometimes even if they offer, I will sometimes just say no for the same reasons (sad, but true lol). Then again, I'm always thankful to those who just do it anyway, without anything said to begin with.

Hello mean. It isn't my nature to ask anyone for help. I am always a very independent person and seems fearless. I have long ago learned that I can't rely on anyone for help or support. I can go as far as asking for a few advices and from there, I am content to resolve the matter by myself. I just don't like the idea of putting my burdens with anyone.

I would not want to burden anyone if possible. However, if I need help and yet still refuse to ask for ask, then I would really be a burden to many. I am not shy asking for help. Or put it another way, I ask for help willingly or if anyone were to offer to help, I accept gladly. Never refuse a good offer, right?

i am the type of person who knows when to ask for help and when to do things on my own without asking anybody's help. there are some things or some work that i just know that i can do it independently so i don't ask any of my friends. but there are also times that i really don't know what to do to that i have to call someone in the middle of the night just to ask for their help.

office setting: number 1 rule here in the office is "ask for help!" dont be the i-know-all person.. if you immediately feel that you will be having a problem, dont hesitate to ask help from officemates.. guess pride is one of the reasons why some people dont ask for help or the "gratitude." but its worst when a person asks help all the time and would just wait for the help.. hmmm...

I'm the type of person who likes to do things on my own. I like doing new things and trying out things for the first time. I don't have any problems with asking for assistance, but I try to do things by myself first and if I find that I can't do it on my own, then I ask for help. I normally find myself volunteering to help someone else or offering my assistance when I see someone is having a hard time doing something on their own. From my experience, I have not had anyone say that they didn't need help with carrying groceries or any other bags. What I always see is the look of relief and gratitude from people when I do offer a helping hand. Everyone needs a hand sometimes...

for me it really depends who i like to work with sometime i like to work with people that are nice and enjoy working with me.

I tend to just do things for myself its quicker and easier. I hate to put people out and I dont like asking anyway.

I don't mind getting all the help I can get. Of course this only applies to people I know. I would not want a stranger to help me out becuase I don't know who they are or what their intentions are. But if I know them, I ask for help.

I was raised to be independent and rely on myself only because many people are not dependable to begin with. For years I would not ask for asistance or except help unless there was no other way to get things done, like when I broke both my ankles at the same time and couldn't carry things up 2 flights of stairs. But as I get older I find myself excepting help more often when it is offered first. I still have a problem asking for help most of the time.

I don't ask for help if it is not necessary. At work, I usually figure out for myself what is supposed to be done, instead of asking for help as if I am a disabled. I'm annoyed with colleagues who asks for assistance without first finding out the work at hand. I have always been the one helping, not the one asking for help. It is because I use my common sense. If I don't really know how, like tinkering with the computer for higher functions, then I guess I am dependent on other people. But I am learning fast so that I don't need to call for assistance and burden other people unnecessarily.

Honestly speaking, Im kind of person, who would like to do the job myself, without asking the help of others. I will always try to solve the problems I face by myself. I dont want to disturb others, as they also will have problems of their own to be solved. Only in the rare scenarios, where I really cant handle the problem by myself, I will go for help. But even in that case, I will ensure the other person is not being disturbed by me.