Having only one child

You are not a bad person for wanting only one child! How can you be called selfish, some people choose not to have any children at all! Surely that is down to personal preference.

I feel it's a personal choice and people have good reasons for only having one child. I have 4 (Thought I was having a 3rd and ended up with twins)and somedays I wonder what it would be like to have just one. HOWEVER...I wouldn't change it for the world. Even though they all hate to share at times they also know it's not an option. Many only children are stereotyped as being selfish and I personally know many who fit the bill. I also know a couple kids who are very well rounded and don't have a selfish bone in their body and they grew up alone. I really feel it's all in the way they are raised. Our kids also go to private schools but they know it is a privilege. My neice who is an only child is extremely close to my children. We include her in a lot of things we do and always have. Hopefully she will always feel she has a special part in our family too :)

there's absolutely nothing wrong with only having 1 child. i used to want a second child, but that was before my son's father brought up the issue of traveling to visit family (our families don't live near us), going to theme parks, sporting events, etc. not to mention having more money to provide for education if we only had one. i'm glad we opted for just one, since our son is autistic and is occasionally not very easy to handle.

I honestly don't think there is anything wrong with only having one child. My sister only has one and she is very content with that

You are a little bit selfish,, You want only 1 child coz u had a lot of pain and problems during pregnancy,,if it would have not been so then u would have not had such intensions of only having 1 child,, Children r gifts of god and my personal opinion is that 1 is on enough,,atleast 2 is sufficient,, Just think over it

My first baby is through Caesarian operation, and told mysel this is it. After 15 months i got another child and still caesarian operation. Well, without my SSS it will drive me crasy. And we both finally said enough for two girls. After 8 years, I have a baby boy...and thank God it was a normal delivery. Now they grown up 14, 12, and 5. Happy and contented. They are studying in public schools and they're all consistent honor students.

It is no one else decisions besides you and your spouse on whether you want 1 or more children. People think that they need to butt into other's business. I don't think you are being selfish at all. Make sure you and your daughter have a good social circle.

No I don't think that choosing to have one child only makes you a selfish at all. In fact it is a sign of being a responsible parent. When you have fewer children the more you can raise your children in a more comfortable life. You can give them the attention they need and take of yourself and your husband as well.

OH! thats bad of others those who blame you,i dont think that your are selfish in mateer of children and i agree with your problem its your life and your dicision and if it is ok with your partner then no problem and need not to care for others,and moreover if are so confident with your parenting you can proceed iam with you at difficulties and can help you in giving suggestions. All the best,be brave and be strong with your decisions.

My mom had only one, and that is all she wanted,. being an only child, I always wanted a big family. I am now on my third kid. The way I look at it is this...Every family is different, and whatever works best for that family is the way it is best. Advice? Spend a lot of time with her, and play with her, =) As an only child, I was pretty bored a lot! I saw other people with their brothers and/or sister and I was jealous. I think that I wished my mom would've spent more time, just playing with me, so I was not bored. I had a lot of friends, but at night when I had to come in I was alone! (cue the violins Lol!) No, but you can make it work, if you only want one, and everyone else agrees, wonderful! Dont listen to everyone else, do what is best for you! Oh and to answer your question, NO WAy are you being selfish, if you think that you only want one, then you only want one, that is not selfish, it is you and your families life no one else's and sometimes what is good for others isnt good for us! =) sorry for writing a book! =)

Just Like one coin has two sides.One child may feel lonely but she will get more love from parents.So if you can deal with this thing carefully.I think she become a happy and good girl.and hope you will happy too.Thanks.

Hey. We get this same crap from people to. We have only the one child and intend to keep it that way. reason number 1. finacially we feel we can better provide for just the one child. 2. The wife had some serious health problems during her pregnancy with our son and the doctors told us it would be very risky to try again. 3. Its our choice and our business. I, like you am sick and tired of people thinking they have some kind of say in how we build our family. IM sure they wouldnt appreciate me telling them how many children they can have. so in short you need to tell these busybodies to mind there own business and i wouldnt be non to friendly about it either.

I know how you feel. I have one little boy and that is enough for me. Just like you I had a very diffcult pregancy and we are able to let him live comfortly and send him to the best schools if we do not home school. People now days think they have the right to put their two cents in when ever they please. Tell them it is your life and you are the one who has to care for this children and support them finacially.

If thats what you feel comfy with it don't matter what other people think. I have only one son, and i'm fine with that he has plenty of cousins and lil friends, so that he will not be lonely.

that is not favour keep one child in the family, there is chance to feel more lonelyness for the baby and it will be effect the personality of the children as we know that we are in society and should mingle with different characters, Even if you are taking her to play group and mothers groups that is not enough to feel blood relationship feeling like brothers and sisters love

i don't think have only 1 child is bad because i better than having no children