How do you know when it is time to end you marriage or relationship ?

I have been married for 7 yrs, but been with the same man for 13 yrs. We have had our good times and we have had some pretty awful ones. Every marriage is a work in progress. The day one or both of you stop working, that is the day the marriage begins to fall apart. And until you are both working towards the same goal together, it will continue to fall apart. Sometimes couples have different goals in mind when they get married - and because they don't communicate with each other, they don't realise this. In order for both people to reach a common goal, they have to work together and compromise ... if they are working towards different goals, they will feel that they are working and their partner is not. And that resentment will grow and feed an unnecessary anger, which will cause a painful breakup. People say it all the time - it's very true! Communication Is Key to a relationship of any kind, but most especially to a marriage. However - if you have both discussed things honestly and simply cannot come to an agreement, then you both need to make the decision together as to whether or not you should stay together or call it quits. If you strongly believe there is nothing left of your marriage, then let it go. But if there's even a small part of each of you that want to give it a try, put pride aside and really work together to reach a common goal. Even if it's just making things work for one more week. and when you get past that week, set a goal to make it through one more week. Small steps - just like when you were dating - will help to build and rebuild the firm foundation your marriage needs to remain steady for the rest of your lives. These are all just my opinions - and what I've lived through. I have nearly lost my marriage because we simply didn't communicate and basically lived seperate lives in the same house. When you have children that is not a good thing as they pick up on it. After nearly losing each other and our marriage, we've been spending much more time talking and communicating and being a couple again. Our marriage is stronger than it has ever been and I plan to keep working to help it stay that way. So my experience is where I learned to keep the lines of communication open and work towards common goals, even just short term ones at first, as they lead you to long term realities.

In regards to marriage? Im proud to say that though we are in a modernization, I can still say that Inside me, I still believe what God said in the bible, whoever he bind as "ONE", nobody, or no one could separate them. Marriage for me is sacred, not bacause of the paper couples should sign but its because of the blessing receive from the almighty, so for me, whatever the trials, challenges in one's marriage, ending it is not an option. Second, All of us has different relationships. I took alot of risk in regards to Love, but unfortunately, there are times I failed. Ending one's relationship, i guess.. it will take sometimes for you to think what step you must do. Especially if you feel that there is an empty feeling, or it might be a thrid party involve. I encountered different reasons for me to end the attachement. By doing that, I do talk to him and inform him my reasons. But if its other way around that the man ask to stop... i will surely take it seriously to the point i'll cry until i release the feeling of hatred. For me it took 3 months for me to recover again and try anew one. And whenever that person comes in again, I will not dump him, but i'll show him, how cheap he was in lossing me.

I think it is time to end a relationship when two people can not communicate with each other and be honest with each other. Without communication and honesty there is no relationship in my opinion. If one gets abusive, whether verbally or physically, it is time to get away from that person as well. Some people may end a relationship because the other person is too lazy and does nothing or cheats on their partner. If I was married, I would be willing to go through marriage counseling before giving up on the marriage.

As for myself, I knew that it's time to end the relationship when I felt so unhappy with the relationship and no matter what I did, I am still unhappy. I knew then, that I am not meant to be unhappy and that my children deserve to grow in a happy environment. Relationship or marriage should make us happy and realize the best of ourselves. If its not like that and if it just makes you feel bad because of constant bickering and worse if its affecting the children, then its probably better to end it.

Every relationship is between 2 individuals and its a give and take business in everything they do. If one person stops responding then the relationship beings to suffer. And ultimately breaks. The fact is any relationship can be served quickly and takes years to build up. Be very careful before you decide to serve a relationship or you will regret much later. Take advice from your close friends and family members always.