alone and lonely is it hard to accept?

Stop nagging her! Not everyone is all that social and if she wants company she will let you know or she will find some company herself. Any person who is constantly "nagged" will get VERY defensive and even HOSTILE. Your sister is NOT a carbon copy of you. What makes you happy may not make her happy. So let her make her own choices and be a loving supportive sister who supports her choices.

hmm..not sure..maybe because they're "embarrassed" and wish that they have someone with them or something like that..think it's how the society these days perceive things, like if you're alone and lonely it means that you're not social enough and therefore not cool or whatever..it's not wrong to be alone and lonely, as long as you're happy ^_^

Sometimes being alone is not so bad, and we do not all get lonely even if we are alone. She may seem touchy about it because she is tired of having to defend herself about her right to be alone. I have a friend who is always trying to fix me up with someone so that I won't be lonely, but I am really not interested because I am not lonely and I don't need anyone to tell me that I am. Forgive me if I sound touchy or defensive, but this very well may be your sister's position on things.

Hey my friend.. I know the difference between being alone and feeling lonely.. I think what your sister was trying to say is that you are right I don't have friends nor boyfriend but I don't feel lonely.... The person can fill his time with readings, doing some activities or hobbies he enjoys or even watching TV. This doesn't mean they don't feel lonely but they are able to handle not being able to communicate with others in a good way... I believe the best thing you can do for her is plan for something together, you can invite some of your or her old friends and i think she will appreciate what you did.. But be careful, don't make it look like you are doing this because she is lonely ;)

yup that's true. i guess cos the word lonely brings too many associations and implications. But i guess if she feels like it, and its a close friend, they will share that they are really lonely in all senses of the word. by saying she is alone but not lonely, she might be right too. perhaps she doesn't feel lonely anytime. perhaps she just likes being alone. some people enjoy being alone and don't feel lonely. but most of the time if we bother to dig deeper and approach the topic from a sympathetic view and offer to listen and to help, then perhaps they will open up and admit to loneliness, which is nothing shameful or uncommon. people can be surrounded by friends and family day in and day out YET be very very lonely.

it's relly hard for someone to have no one to run to in times of needs. i mean, someone you can really bug at any given time. maybe it's that thought that makes her scared even more so she just doesn't want to dig into that topic

i had been like that before. so defensive about me being alone. not letting anyone think of me as i was lonely. i guess i was a bit lonely but there are lots of ways where we can focus more into. we say we aren't lonely because at some point, we forget that we really are lonely. i haven't felt lonely for almost 2 years. no boyfriend. but i have my parents, siblings, relatives and friends around me. i spend time with them and i did enjoy their company. and i forgot i was not someone's girlfriend. during those times, i forget that i am lonely. but whenever people ask me about why i am not in a relationship with someone, i stop and think and realize i have an empty spot in my life and that's where loneliness hides. it's there. but i was able to suppress and forget about it sometimes because of other people. maybe it's not easy to say you are lonely when you find happiness in other things and other people... anne

I believe the reason for this is because no one ever wants to admit they don't have what everyone else has in life . It is hard to admit that we might be different or that we would like not to feel the way we do . It can be hard when you feel this way and wish you didn't feel so alone but just don't know how to change things in your life .

Generally I think most people will accept being alone or lonely. Someone who's alone has an option of having someone around which the lonely person would find hard to do but I think they'd accept it. Most just don't do anything and grow to be just unhappy. ~Joey

lonelinss is a feeling that someone is craving for someone...or wanting someone to be with that someone...while alone is a state of being on your own...being alone does not necessarily means that you are lonely that is what she is trying to point out and possibly you are insisting that she is lonely when she is really not that is why she gets angry...so what you shjould do is just point out that you are worried that at her age, she must not really be alone, in that way you can come up with an answer.

The fact that she is being touchy about the issue only proves that she is indeed alone and lonely. If she's not alone and lonely no need to be touchy about it. If i were in her position I just leave them about their assumptions.

Not only people who are alone gets lonely. All us do experience loneliness. What is important is how to handle loneliness. Being alone doesn't necessarily make you lonely. Knowing how to balance loneliness and happiness is the key. Continuous loneliness might lead to depression. We can't force anyone to admit that he or she is lonely. What we can do perhaps is emphatize with them. Instead of ridiculing them for being such.

Well not everyone is so socail,everyone has its own choice to search for frends and have relationships or be all time lonely and fall into depresion

denial of what you feel will make you feel more of what you deny. some people who are single until now regardless of how old they are, are sometimes their choice. lets just respect them.

Some people are in denial that they are lonely. Being alone is more acceptable than being lonely. Because when you say that you are lonely it means that you are not only alone but you are also sad with you life. And I guess no one in this world would ever want to be sad or lonely especially when you see your friends living their lives happily. Denial is a defense mechanism of a person to cover up his/her true feelings. Well, if you feel that your sister is really lonely, why don't you be supportive to her and make her feel that you are still on her side and you will always be with her to make her happy. But don't tell her about that so that she will not feel offended or feel negatively about your concerns. Good luck.