If you could change one thing.....

United States
June 13, 2007 12:47am CST
If you could change one thing about your spouse/domestic partner, what would it be? I wish that my hubby would stand up to his mother more. He's slowly learning how to assert himself, but it has been a long and painful journey.
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guss2000
@guss2000 (2232)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Darn only one thing?! I have a list of things that I'd like to change about my hubby-- but I guess my biggest rant is his lazyness. He never used to be so lazy and now he is.
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SereneDragon
@SereneDragon (188)
• United States
13 Jun 07
My hubby gets really lazy depending on what season it it. Since he is in the irrigation business, summer is the busiest/most stressful time for him. Working out in the sun all day zaps his energy and he just likes to lay on the couch when he gets home.
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guss2000
@guss2000 (2232)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Mine does work hard at work-- but then he comes home and plays computer games all night. I don't mind him playing the games, but I would like him to share his time with me. He doesn't know when to break free from his game! If I really get on him about it, he will spend time with me, but I hate begging.
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guss2000
@guss2000 (2232)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Most of the times I don't mind it because I definitly like my alone time, but there are times, espeically when I'd like him to do something that it bothers me. Atleast I always know where he is. LOL
bbsbeesknees
@bbsbeesknees (124)
• United States
14 Jun 07
My hubby's a great guy, but he does tend to get a little overly self-absorbed in activities-when he's into something-he's really INTO it-sometimes to the exclusion of everything else. He ignores common sense and his own health, and I end up feeling like I'm no longer a priority. So I guess if I could change anything, I would get him to realize when he's overdoing something and needs to pull back a little bit. :) That's my only real complaint-he doesn't always help out, but when he does, he does a great job, and he's a loving caring guy when he's not obsessing about running or soccer or UFOs. :D
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SereneDragon
@SereneDragon (188)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Running, soccer, and UFO's. That's a wide variety of interests! Mine tends to get excited about the idea of a new activity, but never follows through. He has 3 guitars, a huge amp, and various media (books, a dvd, a computer program) to teach him guitar. To make a long story short, the guitars are covered with dust! In past relationships, when someone has gotten really interested in something, I've tried to contribute to it in some fashion, that way I still got to spend time with them.
bbsbeesknees
@bbsbeesknees (124)
• United States
14 Jun 07
It's slowly getting better. I just don't think he realizes how deeply he gets involved sometimes. Until I have a breakdown, crying fit that is. :) I do try to join him when I can-with the running and some of the other workout stuff. And I've never, ever asked him NOT to do any of this, just to tone it down a little and spend a little more time with us, as his normal, lovable self. I think he gets it now.
sunshinelady
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I love my husband very much and he is a good man. I do wish how ever that he would help in the house. He doesn't do anything at all. It is left all up to me. I am not saying this with irritation or anger. You asked if I could change one thing what would it be and it would be that he would help more around the house. He is 63 and he is not going to change now. I ask for no advice. I am simply responding to your discussion because that is one thing I would change if I could.
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SereneDragon
@SereneDragon (188)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Hi Sunshine Lady, thank you for responding. My hubby does help around the house and I am grateful for it. It might have something to do with the fact that he was a life-long bachelor before I met him and for the most part, a tidy person.
makingpots
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
13 Jun 07
That one is an easy one for me, I would have him express his feelings and emotions more. Other than that, he is pretty close to perfect. :)
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SereneDragon
@SereneDragon (188)
• United States
14 Jun 07
LOL, it seems like most men are born with a gene that makes it hard for them to express things. However, I will disclose that if I put on a really sappy chick flick, my hubby has been known to shed a few tears and nochantly say that the he must be allergic to something in the room.
huilee
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
13 Jun 07
I guess if theres one thing that i can change about him... It will most probably be his temper... My bf is a nice partner... But i must admit that he has quick temper and is very impatient... Or maybe he jus loses his patience with me easily and i totally have no idea why is that so... Hes nice to everyone, thus he tends to neglect his closed ones... But yah, i dun blame him... When i noe him, he is already like that... I love him for what he is who he is... Jus hope his temper can change for the better... Things will be great.. =P
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SereneDragon
@SereneDragon (188)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I hope he gets control of his temper too. I used to date a guy who was always irritated with me and it was not a fun experience. Best of luck to you!