Today is my son's birthday....but I have a dilemma.......
By dedicated_28
@dedicated_28 (1383)
United States
June 13, 2007 1:57am CST
Hi, as most of you know, my son is a special needs child. Today is his birthday, he is now 2. When he was born he was dead at birth, he was born at 7:49 am. Now they had to work on him for 9 minutes to bring him back which would have made it 7:58 am. My dilemma is which time should we celebrate, the exact time he was born? or when he finally took his first breath?
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@Cassy1976 (796)
• Australia
13 Jun 07
I was born at 3:10pm but I have never really worried about what time I was born on my birthday we just celebrate all day!! Your son must be a fighter considering what he went through at birth, I hope that he enjoys his birthday
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@Cassy1976 (796)
• Australia
14 Jun 07
If that is the way you feel then you should use the time that he took his first breath, it sounds to me like that is when you truly believed he was born,
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I think that would do is start the celebration at 7:49 because this is when he was first given to me. I would spend the next nine minutes telling him the story of his birth. Then at 7:58 I would tell him happy birthday.
I have always woke my daughter up to the story of her birth so that she is now able to tell the story better then I can. I understand that your son won't be able to recite the story but I always thought of it as a wonderful tradition.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Hi KissThis. That is such a wonderful idea. Thanks so much=)
@MagdalenaM (681)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Hello - I think that you should start clebrating from 7:49 because he was fighting for his life all this while and he finally made it at 7:58!
Happy Birthday to your son!
Best wishes,
Magdalena
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
13 Jun 07
My son is definately a little fighter, he has come a long way since then but now we are starting to regress again...so sad. thanks MagdalenaM, you are such a good friend=)
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Thanks. I'll tell you early, happy 3rd birthday to your son.
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@simple_butterfly (478)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
We celebrate our daughter's bday on the day and not on what time she was born. It's still the same.. no matter what time it is, it's still the same day. Go celebrate it anytime of the day. :)
@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
13 Jun 07
yeah we celebrate the whole day, I'm just trying to establish a time of birth to use. Thanks=)
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@tomysole (457)
• United States
13 Jun 07
You should celebrate every morning he is alive because that's an absolute miracle. If I were you I would celebrate at 7:58 because that's when his little spirit was joined with his body. That is a bit of religion and it may sound wierd but that's what I think.
@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
13 Jun 07
No tomysole, that wasn't weird that was beautiful. That meant alot to me thanks. your almost to 100, congratulations, now you'll get your star.
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@xfallenxlostx (2074)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Well, i think i would celebrate the time he took his first breath. i think that is the time he was truley alive in this world instead of the world of your womb. i hope this helps you some.
@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I would use the time that is on his birth certificate. I am sorry to hear what happened to your son. But Thank God he is alive today. I know he is very special to you and a Happy Birthday to him!
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
14 Jun 07
Hi sjohnson628. I thank God everday for my little miracle. He is the most important thing in my life. Thanks so much for the balloons=)
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
13 Jun 07
To me they are both very important times. One the physical birth and the other the actual taking of his fist breath. Myself I do not celebrate the minute I celebrate the whole day.
A friend of mine use to wake the her kids up with a birthday cake and then have presents after a special dinner. What fun, my kids asked me why we didn't do that, I never thought of it.
I know you love your son very much so how about celebrating from midnight to midnight. That would include the whole day.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Yes they are both very important times. I don't just celebrate the minute either, i guess i should've worded this differently. we do celebrate the whole day. I'm just trying to clarify which time of birth i should use. Your friend sounds like alot of fun, we don't do that either, however he is still too young for cake etc. much thanks=)
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@anurag4u (154)
• India
13 Jun 07
well i am relatively new so i didnt know abt ur son. however, i still have a solution for u. since he is special, why don't u celebrate the day twice? celebrate 7:49am and 7:58 am, both. that way u can tell your son better how much special he is to you.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
13 Jun 07
Hi anurag4u. welcome to mylot. yes he is very special to me, thanks=)
@guss2000 (2232)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I say celebrate it the whole day, and maybe say some prayers between the two times. He is definitly a very lucky and special kid!
My son is also special needs, but due to being preemie.
I hope your son has a special birthday!
@guss2000 (2232)
• United States
14 Jun 07
We have a lot in common. My son was born at 26 weeks gestation. At first, it was incompetent cervix that put me into labor, but that was pretty much under control when I went into the hospital. I went in on May 29th. On the morning of June 7th, my water broke. That night, my cord fell out, and I had an emergency c-section.
Due to the c-section, I caught necrotizing fascitis (basically flesh eating bacteria). After my son's birth, I had 6 surgeries to have the wound debreeded and cleaned. it was awful! My son was in the NICU from June-September, and then another hospital until December.
My son is now with a tracheostomy and G-tube, but otherwise a typical one year old.
Your son is a blessing, and definitely a fighter!
