brothers and sisters

Yes you are right, it is distance which with time effects the relations.........also once we become parents , we get so engrossed in taking care of our children, that we just ignore other relations as we feel children are small and they need our full attention.

Yes, but if they are living close then you can still have dinner parties and so forth to see them and make the time... Even with my son being small I still made time to see my sister who was living close by. It is fun to have the kids play together and stuff like that... but ja it sure does become more difficult...

Yes this is also true.....more people in joint family.....more misunderstanding and difficulties.....lol, well it cannot be again like childhood, just brothers and sisters.......past is gone with time, we have to adjust with present.

Yes circumstances force us to accept changes even if we don't want. My one brother is in USA and other one is here but due to some misunderstanding not in touch now for 2 years.....it is pity.....how we spoil relations.......I feel sorry.

Thank you deepak, Yes marriage aparts us from our brothers and sisters. I don't know why, but when ever this topic comes, I get tears in my eyes.......I am missing my brothers a lot.......but I don't think they miss me so much.....anyway.....thanks for your reply .......and for making me cry again.........lol.......just joking.Have a nice day.

Apsara! First of all thanks for accepting my request for friendship. I am thankful to you. YOur comments touched me deeply. Yes, you are absolutely right in your comments. I also feel like you because with our brother and sisters we are tied with bond of blood relations...that cannot be separated for life time...like nails cannot be separted from fingers. I quite understand your emotions and can relate to you...and if I am going to think deeply on this issue...like you did, tears will also start rolling down my cheeks. My brother, after his marriage does not stay with us, he lives with his family in a separate house and my parents also stay with him..they do visit us and stay with us also sometimes. I understand your are an emotional person like me. It is nice meeting your here on mylot. Have a nice day. Deepak

Hello Deepak, sorry for late reply.....It was nice to read that you too have same feelings like me. Yes I agree, we human beings are so emotional and get tears so quickly. I wish God had make our hearts out of stone and not of flesh, then it would be hard and would not feel anything, all this pain because of this little soft peice that God planted into our body. Now we have no choice.....we came crying into this world and we will leave crying.......so let's try to get some moments to laugh as we already know how we are going to end.........lol. so smile and let me smile too. Have a nice day.

Yes it is very sad and it brings tears in my eyes to think of those memories, how we had good time ,once upon a time, and shared so much and look how today we have become strangers for each other. I sometimes feel, if one of us will die, will the other one even feel sorry........I miss my brothers, one is very far from me.....and one is close to me but not talking to me due to some misunderstanding.......it hurts me.........very sad. By the way , did you say you were young among Ten, you mean you are 10 brothers and sisters.....wow ....that is great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am confused, and don't know if I should tell you that your decision not to marry is right or wrong. If you don't marry you miss the joy of having family and smiles of children which is blessing of God. And if you marry, you are all the time worried about future of your family, you are burdened with responsiblites, you have differences with your partner........it is confusing.....like they say , marriage is a sweet dish which if you eat you repent, and if you don't eat even then you repent.....lol

I truely identify with ur feeling ma'am. Funny how marriage is supposed to bring peole 2gether, not tear them apart. One of the reasons I have crossed the word marriage from my dictionary. And yes, i am # 10. We are a family of 8 boys and 2 girls, kinda big huh? :P

For me it is too late now, but since you are still young and before marriage, I will just request you to see that in future, no matter what happens....you will keep in touch with your brothers and sisters because some day or other you will miss them if they are not close to you. I made many mistakes in life.......I don't want others to do same, so just giving advise...even if you did not ask for it.......lol .I just want all brothers and sisters to be happy.

Yes this is life.....and this is how it will continue.......do we have any choice.......Thanks for your response.

same story of all of us.......after marriage brothers and sisters get busy with their own lives and I think that is how life continues.......but I am sure even if they are far from each other, somewhere in their hearts they are always missing each other. Blood relations are not easy to forget.Thanks for your reply and welcome to mylot.

Nice to have someone so close to share everything. I hope you are not ignoring others compared to your twin sister....anyway...does not matter..there is always attachement between blood relations even if we ignore them.

I think it is rule of nature....as we grow our attachements and relationships move from person to person, from parents to brother sister ,,,,, from brother and sister to children.....and so on....I think we have no choice but to accept this law of nature.

No matter what may be the reasons, but it is a fact that as we grow we try to live our own life, we want our own partners, our children, our seperate dwellings.....everything seperate from brothers and sisters.....it just happens....that is how life goes..........but there are some moments in life when we sit behind and remember the old memories and quietly wipe off some tears that drop down !!!!!!!!!!!!!!thats called blood relation.

Oh it hurts me when I read about borthers and sisters who are not close to each other. But yes I agree, close or not close....there is always deep love between them.