help!
By emo_rilz
@emo_rilz (208)
United States
June 13, 2007 4:49pm CST
im scared... scared of offending my bf... i really care about him... but sumtimes i wanna talk about our issues, and i just get this thought in my head telling me not to say anyfing bc he will freak out... and i get really upset and instead of telling him i say sumthing stupid like "nvm" and i just... we have a lotta issues, and i go insane about em, but.. i fink i am being a bit petty, it is just... im used to my bf's not really being very proud of dating me, and wen we started dating, he seemed really proud, like he added me as his "other half" on bebo, and the caption under my pic was "my beautiful Gf" and now it just says the date we started dating... we have dated b4, and he fukked up big time, but, i forgave him, and we are supposed to be ok, but... he is doing the same things b4 he did what he did b4, and i am getting really really scared. im gonna end this discussion with, plz reply, i need help
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3 responses
@evelynlyp (788)
• Japan
13 Jun 07
You say he's doing the same things he did before. Did you ever come straight out to tell him what's bothering you? No relationship can survive if someone's not being honest.
You should stop worrying about offending him. You can't live your life trying not to offend anyone. Life don't work that one. You'll end up offending someone sometimes. Think how much he will be offended because you didn't want to share anything with him.
I don't see why you are putting so much emphasis on how the outside world sees your relationship. Does telling the world things like "other half" make any difference to a relationship? What's important is focusing on the private side.
Try again but this time be clear and honest to him. Tell him straight what's bothering you and ask him to do the same.
If he still isn't making any effort to help in the relationship then you best leave him because there's no relation unless BOTH of you make it a relation.
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@vamp6x6x6x (636)
• United States
14 Jun 07
now me I think you should tell him how u are thinking I mean relations last longer if u express how u are feeling.
@FSCAries (881)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I think you ought to discuss it with him. Any relationship has ups and downs, but if you can't talk to him about your concerns, that doesn't sound like you have a real relationship at all. If he gets mad at you, then so be it, sometimes so things have to be said. You shouldn't have to bear it all and go nuts over it, you should definitely talk to hum.
