Big Sister / Lil sister Issues

United States
June 13, 2007 4:54pm CST
I am the older sister... responsible, caring, family oriented, good mom, fun, outspoken, open minded, very protective over my kids, my man, my friends and family. Then there is my sister...care free, thinks she knows ALL THINGS, AN EXTREME SOCIAL BUTTERFLY...she allows just about anyone to flirt with her, she is the cutest thing, but has a loud mouth, snotty attitude, always creates a performance no matter where she is, fresh at the mouth, rude, but can be sweet, mannerable....we are different but similar. I wish she would slow down and change her little ..."I am the cutest thing ever, i know everything and your boyfriend is HOTT " personality. It really makes me sick. She is becoming like the broke version of Paris Hilton. How can I make her understand that I am only trying to help. She deserves respect, she is not a stupid girl. But if I just tell her when I see her acting like that ...I am afraid she won't take me seriously. I don't want to offend her. Because she is my little sister. But I feel behaving that way will only bring negative attention at her early age. Besides I don't want my daughter to think it is cool to act the way her Aunt acts. It's embarrassing sometimes. What do i do?
3 responses
• India
16 Jun 07
Well, I would suggest you to just take her somewhere outside, may be for a cup of coffee, spend some time with her,and make her understand your feelings that what exactly you are trying to do for her. May be this is the only option, because she has grown up and she wants to pe independent though. She will do what she thinks is right!
• United States
14 Jun 07
It is the hardest thing to do but you need to Live and let live. believe it or not you can not save them just because you love them. our love ones need to see for them selves and change for themselves. As hard as it sound your role as a big sister is on a as needed bases once you'll are adults. you also have a much harder role as a mother and setting good examples for your daughter. and when that is made tougher by the fun she see her Auntie having do not hasiate in a loving way to point when her Auntie is having a time of something due to her life style.
@moomincat (321)
13 Jun 07
Sounds like the answer would be for her to have a couple of kids of her own. Usually sorts us girls out.