Do I ask to much of him?

I was a single mother of 5 kids for a long,long time and I have to admit that I always asked my oldest to help a lot too.....the only advice I can give you is that it's good to give them the authority in the house but DON'T let it go to far.....always remember,Eryk is still a child,and can not be the father.....even though he's doing things they normally would......Please don't take this the wrong way,it happened with mine.....first I was asking him to do things to help me and the next he was giving orders and punishing the other kids....

i always ask my 8 year old to help, just recently my 5 year old started doing things, I made a chore chart and everyday they have to do one thing off of it before they can play.. they are easy things like empty the diswasher,put there clothes away, clean up room, vaccume room

It's not to much and your not wrong. Let me him know it's important to help you, if my mum asked me to do it I would. :) ~Joey

I think it's OK that you told your child to help you. You have lots of children to take good care of, it's fine to ask for assistant. I don't think you do something wrong in this aspect. When you do so, your children will learn to be responsible and diligent. Even if they are children, but they still have to do something they can for their family. It'll be a good lesson for them.

this will make him independent..he told you he doesn't mind and I think he is being honest..this is normal to ask the oldest child to help out with the others..

Like you, i also asking my child to do something... My child will be turning 2 this month i used to ask her to do something... Like, i used ask her to keep your toys,can you please get my mobile phone from the desk, if im doing something and i had to answer it...but i have to see first if i placed my mobile phone to a placed that she can reach easily... Asking your child to do something for isn't too much... Unless he/she was the one only doing things and your not moving anymore,then that's really too much. Asking them to do something is the same as teaching them how to do things themselves... your teaching them to be independent in their early age... Also by the asking them to do something they learned to be responsible...and being responsible is a good thing right?... Not even inside the house but also outside.... Just dont mind someone asking you bout, why you asking him lending a hand.... You'll see the result later on when he really grows up... Cheer up!!! =)

No, i think it is god for them to help out and i also think that it makes them feel proud of themselves and more part of it all. I loved helping my mother out when I was a kid =)

I don't think so- It is good to give kids responsibilities- Your kids will turn out better for it- I can see if you ask him all the time- and have him raising his younger siblings- but this is not the case- I think it is great- Soon there might be a time when he says no- but by then your other kids will be old enough to take care of themselves. I see nothing wrong with it-

No it isnt wrong for you to ask him to help you. As long as you let him be a little boy. He is really young . Just let him be a kid. He sounds like a good little guy to be such a sweet little helper to you.

It is not wrong of you to ask your son to help you. That is how he will learn responsibility and what it means to be considerate of others. You friend's child has a lot to learn, and if she does not learn it while she is young, she will learn it the hard way.

Eryk is a sensible, loving, helpful child. It's the 9 year old that is an anomaly, and not brought up the right way. Too many children grow up these days not doing any housework at all either because their parents are too protective, spoil them, or because they have domestic help who do all the housework. That's not quite the way in my opinion. A family should try its best to stand on its own feet and manage the housework between all its members.

You are definitly not the only person who does this I do it too. My oldest is only 6 and then i have a 4 year old and a 2 year old and i ask my girls which are the oldest to helop me out as well they may whine and fight sometimes but they do other things for me without question. I do feel that the older children should help and when they get old enough to do houshold things and not just little "errands" then they should be put to work then.

Hi, I do not believe you are doing anything wrong. It is good that you can rely on him if needed. As long as he gets to play with his friends and isn't full time baby sitter than you have nothing to worry about. I have seen where the mother is no where around and the 6 yr old is watching the 4 and 3 yr olds, outside, no less. I do not approve of that. Helping mommy is a good thing. You are teaching him life skills. Do not worry about it. As long as you are there to supervise, go for it....You are building trust and responsibility also..which is wonderful, starting when they are young will be positive and rewarding.

When i was young, my uncle ask me to take care for his kids, I was so unhappy, and i think that donot you do this things yourself, because it is so boring for me, my younger cry and cry , do not stop, OH, my dear! What a difficult job for me!

i don't think you ask too much, its good to train your child for some responsibility when they are young so they'll grow up responsible, im pregnant right now and i have a 3 years old little boy and i do ask him to help me out on little things like cleaning his mess, and he does pretty good.

girl i know you are not going to let some snotty 9 year old make you question your mothering skills? please. children should help out. i mean what is the point of having them then!! LOL i remember when i was young i use to say i can't wait to have kids, so i don't ever have to the store again. and now that i have three, girl please i don't have to do anything! LOL no on a serious note, as long as you are not asking them to do adult task, then you go ahead and have them help you out in any way that they can. they are not just your children but together you are a family and that is the role of a family member is to help each other. next time you see that little girl, you tell her i said mind her business!!

I don't think that you are asking too much of him. I have a 2 yr old and a 1yr old and I also watch a 1yr old for my friend so that she can go to work. My 2 yr old is constantly helping out. Usually it is things that I didn't even ask her to do. Yesterday I was picking up the living room and had a basket of things that went in her room and was going to go put them away and she got mad because I didn't ask her to. So she proceded to go put the stuff in her room and then come out and help me finish cleaning the living room. She is already asking to do the dishes and gets mad when I tell her no because we don't have a dishwasher and I don't want her to burn her hands.

No, I agree children should be able to help their parent(s), as long as it is something that they can do. Maybe the friends daughter gets everything done for her, and she just does not understand the help that you ask of your son. I know that my son has helped me out around the house since he was about 6 years old. Just small stuff back then, but now he helps watch his little cousin after summer school, and he helps keep the house picked up and laundry and he mows. I don't think that it is too much to ask your son to help out.

i have been a daughter for less than 20 years now, and i have been an only child for 8 years,i have sister,just turned 12 this month and our youngest is 10y/o...when my mom gave birth to my sister im so happy and excited without knowing that im about to face a big responsibility, though my mom hired a nanny, they still want me to take good care of my sister in my own little ways, like getting or throwing her used diapers, getting feeding bottles etc..same with my youngest brother,,so for me its ok if u ask ur child to do some little work..and when ur child gets older he would realized that helping u in little way could hepl him to be a better person someday...