Do You Stick Up For Your Friends?
By SpitFire179
@SpitFire179 (2536)
Canada
June 14, 2007 2:15am CST
Like really stick up for them?
what i'm asking is if someone came around and started defacing one of your friends, would you sit by idally and watch as it went on or would you jump in with both feet and both hands ready to defend?
Do you think there's anything wrong with defending your friends?
Do you wish someone would stand up for you in the face of hurtful words, banter or physical altercation?
I won't sit back and watch a friend being brought down, no matter what it is, i lose my cool very quickly because i can't stand to see them have to take up for themselves without anyone to help...
the other night this jerk was calling down a friend of mine, i got mad, told him what was on my mind, and another friend of my friends sat there like an idiot, didn't say a word, just watched.
then tonight this friend of my friend pretty much called me a biotch because i stood up to this other jerk for my friend... who's gone through too much let me say, and didn't deserve the hell. I got really agrivated, because here he is calling me horrible because i stood up for a friend, when he did nothing, when i think he should have at least said hey, this is my friend, that's enough.
so you tell me your thoughts on this... i really am interested in the result of this discussion. As all of them :P:P
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23 responses
@queenajasmina (449)
• United States
14 Jun 07
of course I stick up for my friends, my true ones anyway. My best friend i definately stick up for without even thinking about it. It is the same thing when it comes to my sisters too.
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@linzmcwilliams (1552)
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14 Jun 07
I would definately defend any one of my friends if i knew what was being said was wrong. It's when people defend others for the sake of it that pisses me off. Like my boyfriend. He insists on stepping in when one of his friends gets into a fight, even if his friend deserves whatever he has coming.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
14 Jun 07
Yeh I am the same as you, I will not let anyone bag a friend of mine, I have in the past gotten myself into a fair few arguments sticking up for my friends, I think sometimes I go too far, I get so worked up especially when untrutjs are involved.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
14 Jun 07
Oh yes, normally I do stick up for my faith. In fact, sometimes I border on blind loyalty so I have to check myself there. I like to make being my friend an honor/privilege of sort so I tend to save the best for my friends.
@vjnightmare (32)
• India
14 Jun 07
Well...It's kinda complicated for me!!! I do agree tat u'll have to stick up to ur friends no matter what!!! But then, i would never jump on it!!! I'll wait for sometime and let my friend handle it by 'him/her'self..After all he/she is my friend and i expect him/her to be mature enough to handle such stuffs... If there comes a situation tat he/she won't be able to handle it only then i'll interfere..But if i interfere the opponent will have a tough time handling me!!! And things are bound to get dirty!!! he he he.... But ya, wat u did was a wonderful thing!!! U are a trustworthy friend and i guess all ur friends r lucky to have u!!!! Rock on dudette!!!!! :)
@vjnightmare (32)
• India
14 Jun 07
And ya... don't give a damn to wat the other freak called u!!!! I'm sure u'll have a friend to stand up for u!!! :)
@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
14 Jun 07
thanks hun, i'm there for my friends every turn along the way, regardless of the outcome, i just can't stand by and watch them being beat down..
@lovegillian (36)
• China
15 Jun 07
It is clear that I will stick up for my friends. No one could hurt them in front of me!
@xfallenxlostx (2074)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Yes, i completely stick up for my friends. If someone starts defacing them, i will jusp down their throats. i would die (or even LIVE) for my best friend. If that means getting on someone's a$$ who is defacing him ,i will.
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
15 Jun 07
I would never stand by and let another person run my friend down. Friendship should be strong and you should be loyal to your friend. You are not a b--ch for standing up for your friend. That is nonsense for him to call you something for something that if the same thing were being done to him he would hope you would come to bat for him. Maybe he said this to you is because he would like to be more than a friend. So he got jealous when you were defending the other guy.
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
15 Jun 07
I stand up for my friends. It can get sticky in circles of mutual friends. For instance, I have a friend whose son is a bit of a nightmare and everybody but her seems to know it. I never say anything to her about him, on the hopes tha maybe one day he will outgrow it. Other friends have children who are in his class and have to deal with his shennannigans ina more in your face way than I have to (mine are older and younger than this by so their paths cross rarely). You can tell when I am there they are ready to go off about his latest stun but then they take it down a notch because they are either worried I'll tell her or think I will have something to say about it. The funny thing is, unless they were saying it was HER fault, I wouldn't have all that much input.
@mylhee (33)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
i personally love my friends and i am willing to do everything to help them in any way. my friends are like my family to me thats why i do my best to protect them.
i think you did an amazing kob for your friend. its a good thing that you were there and stick up for your friend. i applaud you for that. you should continue what you are doing and dont be afraid to stand up for your friend because maybe one day the same thing happen to you and i guess you would want your friends to stand by you and help you in any way.
a shoutout to those people there: do your best to protect your friends because sometimes they're all you got.
peace out!!
@kawaii24 (520)
• Australia
15 Jun 07
i think what you did is right. what kind of friend are you if you will not help your friend. Friendship is not just a word it is much more sacred than that. Being a friend have lots of responsiblity and sometimes pain will also part of that relationship. I'll stick with my friend no matter what however, i will be the first one to scold them when I know that what they're doing is bad for them :)
@REMNANTscrapbook (124)
• United States
15 Jun 07
i would sit there and watch, but give the person a dirty glare. then when it gets really out of hand ill go and help them out. FOR SURE. i dont want my frineds to get hurt while i just sit there. to me, id you sit there, and ignore it.. youre not much of a good friend (my opinion). but if it gets out of hand ill cuss em out. im a pro at that.
@blk_princess (108)
• Northern Mariana Islands
15 Jun 07
yes i do stick up to my friends because they stick up for me too..i wouldn't sit down and watch my friend and someone argue i would get up with my friend and well handle the situation together...i had not been in a fight yet because me and my friend dont want to be jumped and to cause a problem..me and my best friend marmy who is kind of tough dosen't like problems because it causes us to do bad stuff.....
@Chryssi (828)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I do stick up for my friends. I jump in with both feet, because I refuse to watch my friends being put down or degraded for any reason. I don't care if I'm the only one who is fighting for my friends.
I'm not going to let my friends go through what I've gone through - always having to stand up for myself, even if "friends" were around. They stood there like idiots, not saying anything. No, I won't let my friends go through that. You did the right thing, give yourself a pat on the back.
@abrarr (1246)
• Pakistan
14 Jun 07
well i have some thing elase in my mind. it think i won't get into teh matter until and unless i realize that matter is getting worse and my friend can't handle it, but if teh othr guy come straight on physical matters tehn i won' see anything and will get into the matter no matter how serious it is!!!
@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
15 Jun 07
To be honest it depends on whats being done or said and if I think my friend can handle it on their own. I don't get in the middle of things unless asked and even then depending on what it is I may bow out. I love my friends and have a great amount of respect for them so I know that most of them can fight their own battles. From time to time I am asked to intervine in them and I do for as long as I'm needed. The only time I won't get involved is if my friend started it and was in the wrong. I will not defend someone I know has done something or someone wrong.
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
been there, done that...i would (and always will) stick up for my friends...
@dbhattji (2506)
• India
15 Jun 07
I not only stick up for my friends but even for people I just know. If anyone is being harassed unjustly, I don't wait to think of the consequences but just in jump in. This has landed me few tight spots but that's what I am, and I don't want to change.
I don't like when people say, it is not my concern, let every one look after themselves.
@raghavendraj (78)
• India
15 Jun 07
I agree to you You should never let your friends down, when someone is trying to hurt physically or mentally stand up and try to sort out the issue and help your friend is what a friend nmeeds to do
