In-laws have tried to manipulate AGAIN!!
By muscare
@muscare (3068)
Australia
June 14, 2007 2:47am CST
My wife and I no longer see her parents, and haven't for almost 12 months now. There is a long story behind the seperation, but I won't go into too much detail, but my wife has quite bad depression, has had it since she was a young teenager. She's got a couple of nasty letters from her mother early in the breakup, but has had several phonecalls from the rest of the family. The lastest was from her nanna, saying she was staying at my wife's mum's place, and wanted to see her. My wife said fine, after some thought, and said she'd meet her for coffee at the shop. The nanna said no, it had to be at the inlaws place or not at all. My wife said 'fine, you didn't really want to see me anyway', and I agree that all her nanna was trying to do was manipulate and control my wife, as her family has done for most of her life! Do you agree with this thought? How would you have handled the situation? I'm one hundred precent behind my wife!
2 responses
@dbhattji (2506)
• India
14 Jun 07
As a husband is wife's best fiend and has her best interest at heart, any decision that you make will probably be the best as you know your inlaws better than any one else. If you are behind her as you said, what more can she ask for?
@rinaaus (1201)
• Australia
14 Jun 07
First i'm not agree with you about this thought. It's just the place, why your wife care too much... it's her nanna too.. so i don't think your wife wants to see her nanna.
The second thing is no one can change your wife thought if she has made dicision? who else can manipilate her when she has her way.
If I'm in this situation, i will go and see my nanna ..whatever has happened... you can't change your family/ relatives and specially your parents...
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
14 Jun 07
My wife's parents were home at the time the meeting was suppose to take place, and her nanna knows that my wife has said she doesn't want to see them. Her nanna also said 'you can't choose to see one person in the family and not another, you can't hurt my daughter and not me too'. Just for the record, my wife's mental health has picked up since she stopped seeing them, and her psychiatrist agrees her mother is very toxic.
