gift suggestion?
By mari_skye
@mari_skye (1637)
Philippines
June 14, 2007 4:52am CST
Hello! My friend is due to give birth this end of the month. I'm planning to visit her after she gives birth but I am now at a loss on what to give her. I have read somewhere that for this occassions, it is good to give a new mother a perfume and a book. The perfume to remind her of her femininity and the book to remind her that she is intelligent. This one is very thoughtful but I don't think this will jive with my friend. Do you have any other suggestions?
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
14 Jun 07
If I am the mother I would love to have a sexy new outfit that would inspire me to get back into shape. he he he! Or better yet, I would love my favorite food such as those sinful super moist chocolate cake to celebrate and reward me after such momentous experience.
@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
LOL! The sexy outfit is a very good idea, hhahahaha... I would love to have one when I give birth myself:P But yes, I think I agree with you other idea. My friend has been depriving herself of some of the food she really wants to eat for the sake of the baby so I guess it makes sense. Thanks for the suggestion.
@creematee (2810)
• United States
14 Jun 07
That's a great idea! When I give baby gifts, I usually add a small gift basket of lotions and bubble baths for the new mom. The theory is that mom will need a little pampering after the baby arrives.
Another idea would be cd's or movies. Something that she can listen or watch while she's resting. New moms get tired easily, and those 2 am feedings are the pits. These may help her settle down and take those breaks when the baby is sleeping.
the last and final idea that I have for you, is food. How about cooking up a few pans of lazangna, spaghetti, or something like that. She can keep them in the freezer, and take them out and heat them up for the family. Someone did this for me when my first child was born, and it was a LIFESAVER! I hardly had the energy to cook, so being able to just throw something homemade in the oven was fantastic!
Those are just a few ideas. I think the best thing, though, is letting your friend know that you love her, and want to help. She'll appreciate anything that you do for her.
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
That was the word I was looking for, pampering! Thank you for that:P Yes, the idea is to pamper the new mother, considering what she has gone through. Thanks for sharing your ideas, it's a great help.
@creematee (2810)
• United States
23 Jun 07
Thank you for the best response. :) Did you decide on something specific? Would you mind sharing what you came up with for a gift?
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
25 Jun 07
I've decided on giving her a baby book and a hand made card. The baby book works both ways, for one, I think the mother will enjoy recording all her baby's first. And two, it will be good for the baby, at least she will have a remembrance of her growing up years.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
14 Jun 07
i think, book containing baby stuff and chronological memorundum would be a good choice. you can gift her sweet movie DVDs. perfume is good choice for gifts but i don't think you should give it to would be mothers, since this could affect the child.
don't forget to give her a beautiful paper greetings card with all good words. that would make her very happy, i am sure.
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
Yes, I was thinking of making her a greeting card too. I guess a baby book will be a nice gift to accompany my card. Thanks for sharing.
@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
I have made my decision. I would gift my friend a baby book since this is ideal for both of the baby and the mother. I believe my friend would love to treasure all her baby's firsts, so I guess the book is good for her. Then I would also make a greeting card for her to congratulate her on the new baby. Thanks for your suggestion.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
14 Jun 07
For my friends daughters birth, I gave her a few things. I gave her a few things for baby and then I gave her a book to document her experience of life as a mother to give to her daughter later in life. I also gave her a beautiful pen to use to write in the book as well. I don't know if that is the best gift, but that is what I have done in the past.
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@carryli (875)
• China
14 Jun 07
I also feel headachy which gift should i give to my friends who wii be birthday soon.I think your friend is a new mother,she must need some baba products,i don't know which material products you should buy,such as the baby clothes ,food,toy or cordial you can take into account of your plan.
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@surveygrrl (1270)
• United States
14 Jun 07
A book I loved was Vicky Iovine's Girlfriend's guide to Motherhood. It was my bible...lol.
I stopped wearing perfume for the first 6 months because I thought the baby wouldn't want to smell that. They like the smell of the mom.
A memory box would be a cute idea so she can put the baby's first hat and anything else she wants to keep.
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
That's a new one. I never thought there are things like that. Thanks for sharing.
@xbrendax (2662)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Aside from the usual gifts you can give someone who just had a baby, how about a unique gift like the one I gave to my friend, (ME)! I gave her a card with a note inside that said: When she gets home, I will give her (myself) as her maid for one entire week, so she and her baby can get some good rest and recouperate! That was 10 years ago and to this day, she still talks about it as the best gift she ever got, and how she really needed that help durring that first week!
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
That is a very nice gesture and gift. I think I might consider that, it's very thoughtful. Thanks for sharing.
@rocky777 (353)
• India
14 Jun 07
Baby things - clothes, toys like rattles or a mobile which can be hung on baby's crib - these make great gifts. Not to forget the mother, something that she likes and enjoys, cake or chocolates, a book which could be on bringing up baby - Dr. Spock comes to mind - or a book which she would enjoy reading. For gifting something to the mother, I am sure you would know what she would like - she is your friend, isn't she?
@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
Yes, she is a good friend. For the baby things, she has them already, except for the crib which I don't think I can afford for now:P Thanks for sharing.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
14 Jun 07
Since baby wets the clothes often, how many baby items we have also, it will come handy. Hence give small soft blanket, dress, harmless toy. Mother will happily use them for her child.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
14 Jun 07
that's what i gave to a friend, too when she gave birth. even if we live far apart, i sent her baby a soft blanket her baby can sleep on. and they both love it. i also sent the baby dresses and pair of slippers (for future use ofcouse). it's nice to give them such stuffs... something the baby can really wear... anne
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
I will probably consider that. Thanks for sharing.
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@dlkuku (1935)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I always like to make a gift basket up of things she may need for baby, like lotions and bath things, baby towels, wipes, and little odds and ends like nail clippers, and I will also put in one special thing for her, a book she wants or candles, scented body spray or bubble bath, something that she can use for herself to make herself feel good.
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@REMNANTscrapbook (124)
• United States
15 Jun 07
perfume sounds really nice and a good idea, if i were you i would give her those.
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@godhunter_18 (106)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
hmmmm.
i suggest you sponsor a baby shower for her and the baby., a celebration for her delivering the child successfully and at the same time, would serve as a welcome for the baby.
and of course, photos and stuff.
the child, in time, would learn how many people anticipated his/her birth.
and yeah, as a personal gift, a dress for your friend.
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@sagarsridhar (121)
• India
15 Jun 07
i recommend giving a cute teddy bear to your friend will be very nice in this regard .
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
My friend is not really into teddy bears. But it is a nice idea though. Thanks for sharing.
@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
Yes, I did. I would get a baby book since this will be ideal for both the baby and the mother. Then I would also create a greeting card for my friend to congratulate her on her new baby.
@sagarsridhar (121)
• India
17 Jun 07
no problem i just said what i felt the rest is left to you , did u finally decide what you want to give
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@charusabharwal (63)
•
15 Jun 07
hello----it depends at what range u hv 2 gift well if its gud range then u can go 4 gold chain with pendent----or braclet 4 ur frnd --draft of some particular amount.
if u hv average range then u can go 4 cot,swing,bathing tub which includes -tub,soap,oil,brush,bubbles soap,towel set ,powder etc
or small gifts which includes set of feeder bottles,set of towels, bathing stuff,clothes ,baby blanket,rattles----------hope this might help u --
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
It does help, thank you very much. Very nice idea, I think I will consider the bath stuffs for the baby. Thanks for sharing.
@syain1972 (1011)
• Singapore
15 Jun 07
When I visited my friends who have given birth, I would make my own gift basket. It comprises of chamomile tea for relaxation, a box of fat free chocolates, some Digestive biscuits, Bird's nest essence and a magazine or light hearted book. I would tie a big satin ribbon on the basket and a World's Best Mum balloon. I would also bring a gift for the little one too, just a cute teddy bear......
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
That's a wonderful gift, I might want one for myself:P Thanks for sharing.
@eachen2002 (889)
• United States
15 Jun 07
I gave my sister gift card espcially since I couldn't be there for her.That ways she could get the baby what ever it needed and I didn't have to stress about what to get her.
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@fengbo (731)
• China
15 Jun 07
It is also headache things,when my friends have a birthday,i don't know to choose which gift,it's a very difficulty choice.
I suggest you buy some nice baby clothing or book to her,i think the nice baby clothing will bring her glad,and when she make her baby wearing this clothing,she will remember you.it's a good news,lol....
As a man,about this things is very lack of experience,i don't what things did women needs?i wish i can learn something in here.
Happy posting...@_@
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
LOL! Well at least you were able to make some suggestions. I appreciate them and thanks for sharing.
@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
I did not know that. Why not? I guess its cool:P thanks for sharing.
@raghavendraj (78)
• India
15 Jun 07
Well a very difficult question, to give a gift you need to understand the person and being a friend you will be best judge. As you have said that you are going to give her gift after her baby's birth i would suggest you give something which would make her remember the gift for her entire life.
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@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
Yes, I would like for her to remember the gift. And I have received a lot of suggestions here in mylot, it would be just a matter of choosing which is the best thing that will fit the budget too.