Do you make " me time" for yourself ?????

Right, that does it! You, Mummymo and I need to go on a pampering weekend, you know one of those health places where you are spoilt, pampered, massaged and looked after for a whole weekend! As you know I enter competitions and Champneys often run them, that would definitely help us to relax and forget about the world as we get some much needed TLC. We deserve it, you both deserve it as you know you are special to me my friends x

Wee,I do take me time now but only because there are many times when I can not do anything but.I have many times when I can not get out of bed.And my high pain days I get right away from everyone because I don't want to grouch at anyone or cry in front of them.I just don't want to make anyone uncomfortable. Love to you Doll

I try to make me time for myself every day. I know it must be hard for you to find time for yourself since you don't feel good and you have to care for 4 other people. I have a somewhat stressful life too and I always feel like I need to be doing things for others but I have came to the comclusion that I am just as important as they are and if I get ill, then who will take care of all of us?

Weemam,please,please,please,listen to your doctor,if you are well,then you can look after the rest,so you do need time for yourself-and try to avoid tension-its easy for me to say - but please try by listening to music-worries will be there in life-and u can only fight if ur well.Wish u good health,and God bless u.

Strssful life? me? I haven't done anything in weeks - how can I be stressed wee? lol Actually I agree with your doctors, I may not always have had time to spare but even soaking in a nicely fragranced, hot bath for half an hour gave me time to relax! xxxx

I don't. I am always doing whatever it is that everyone else wants me to do. I wouldn't know what to do during "me time", I would simply be lost.

No I dont seem to get alot of me time.Maybe everyonce in a blue moon.Strees can cause illnesses as in high blood pressure,headaches,ect.I admit I get stressed alot and I need to stop but its hard to do when you got a family to take care of an the housework ,ect.I try to but the only time I seem to get me time is at night around 10:00pm.If even that.Most of the time I am doing housework.Plus their is alot of other things I stress about and maybe do not need to worry about but I wont go into that.LOL

I try to make "me time" as much as I can. I get stress all the time and need to calm things down. Be sure to listen to your doctor and do what he tell you. I don't want you to have too much stress. Take care my friend try not to get too stressed and take it easy and use "me time" :)

Hi weemam, I'm so glad to see you back here on myLot, and am happy too, that you'll be spending 'your me time' with us. Truthfully, I can hardly remember a time when I haven't been stressed. I'm currently 'laid off' from my babysitting job that I've had for many years, and have ongoing health concerns, so am unable to do just any type of work. There are also some major family problems, and I'm always concerned about them too. Just too many things to go into great detail with here. I 'discovered' myLot as part of a business opportunity that I'd tried out, and so am trying to make a little extra this way. However, this is not the main reason I'm on here now, as I've found valuable friendships, 'like yours weemam,' and others, that I really appreciate. myLot has become my 'me time,' and I've enjoyed every minute of it.:)

I am a care giver to my husband who is a constantly unhappy and most demanding person I have ever seen and his 76 year old brother lives with us who has cebral palsy and I have had more health issues which include one heart attack and a few cancer scares and now I'm told there's a problem with my liver and there's no dam end. I think your doctor is right stress will cause all sorts of problems. I never did take as you call it "Me Time" but that changed as of Tuesday. I got in my car and I drove to see my girlfriend in the next town for the afternoon. Hubby was not happy but guess what he was fine when I returned because he loves to eat and I was home in time to cook supper for him and his brother. I plan to continue making me happy because I have no one else who can do as good a job as I do. I plan to just take time for me and walk away from as much stress as possible.

I do agree with doctor saying about stress can cause a lot of illnesses. Been there and I've seen what stress can do to people. Most of the time, I'm not stress about myself. My husband and I'm more stress thinking about other people/relatives/family problems and try to help solve the problem.... I promised to myself to just "don't worry be happy" but didn't always work. But as you said...."me times" easy said that done. I keep on trying though by enjoying with my husband going out, have a coffee break, have some fresh air and try to laugh more and think more about..."don't worry be happy"....

I take too much "me time" that it has become meaningless. I don't see angels and I haven't sprouted wings. But yes, I do agree that if you have not been taking "me time" and are currently leading too hectic a time, then it would be ideal to pause a little and catch some breath.

I'm lucky I get plenty of me time, I'm home most of the day by myself. I have Fibromyalgia so it's very important for me to remain as stress free as possible so if I'm feeling pressure for some reason I take a few minutes to clear my head and relax. Sort of meditation to get things straight. Hope you feel better soon hon :D

I always try to take some 'me time' and also make sure hubby takes some 'me time' as well! Fortunately camping does that for both of us and we're away next weekend as we both enjoy 'us time' LOL xxx

Even though I have been on disability for just over a year now, I am constantly having to run around and do errands, take kids to school, attend school events, etc. Especially, the last three weeks, I think I've spent more time in my car than in my house (and boy, does my house ever show it....it's a MESS!). So I haven't been able to have my "me time", and it's making me a bit grouchy. I think your consultants should try a few days in your life and mine too, and let them see why we don't get to take that special time for ourselves. LOL I hope you're feeling a little bit better hon. I've been worried about you. I'd tell you to try and relax, but I know better....in your life that's almost impossible at times. LOL

Weemam, I truly look up to you and admire and respect you for all you do looking after your Mum and Dad, hubby and Ross too. And when you come on here it seems your prime aim is to make people happy or make them smile. I know you are a happy person and I'm sure you laugh a lot and enjoy looking after those you love. I think the only thing that would concern you or cause you stress is if you were unable to care for them. So I think it's the illness causing you stress, not the other way round. I find, for me, having a routine helps. I take care of my animals first thing in the morning then I have a session on-line, then I run errands or do chores (or both) and so on. I love going to stay with my Dad when he needs me but I stress about my home and animals. Those in need of care do better with a routine as well. My Dad has a routine and he is the least stressed man I know and he's 94. If you find yourself worrying, stop for a second and offer your woes up to the Lord and ask his loving help. Are their other family who could come and take some of the burden from you from time to time? I hope Mylot is a place where you can come and converse with your friends and know that we care about you and love you dearly.

I think you are addressing a problem every women in the universe is facing. Sometimes I can't help but think maybe we are to blame. I for starters are a control freak, and think my whole family depends on me. I know my one friend get's bullied into doing all sorts for her kids. She is not assertive enough. Maybe if we let loose just now and again it will be so much better for our health and for our loved ones around us, surely if we are happy they will see it and we will most probably more tolerable. Because I find that the minute I get stressed out I tend to be abrupt and irritable! Sigh! if only it could be as simple, lets decide on a MyLot strike day for all women! that would be fun!

Hi weemam. It's not surprising your life is stressful, caring for 4 family members as you do. Sometimes I feel quite stressed with everyday stuff, and I do take time out for myself by going to my friend's place once a week where we chat about allsorts and put the world to right! I always come home refreshed, so it must be doing me good. I think every woman needs to have some "me time".

I can understand your situation weemam, because in my house too my mom plays a similar role. Although not a 'carer' as such, she is the only woman in the house and has to take care of all the things around. My dad has advised her several times on taking "me time". Its difficult more because of the mental perception that how can I take time off when I'm busy? But if one decides that this much time is strictly mine and I'm not going to do anything else, and others get used to it, then its not that difficult. Perhaps not all that easy in your case, but you can give it a try.

I know what you mean by not having any time for yourself. If you have a family to take care of, its not like you can just stop and take a break. But try to relax yourself physically and mentally as much as you can because stress will effect your body for the worst, I've had this experience myself. I had an overwhelmingly stressful life forever basically, but now I feel more relaxed than before because I have been trying to work on not getting those anxious feelings anymore, I have put a lot of work into improving myself lately. And it can be extremely difficult to even get the time alone to just think about yourself. I suggest you relax as much as possible and stop constantly running around until you feel better. Then start thinking about everything that makes you stressed out and try to change the situation for the better, so that you do not have to feel that way about it.