Problems with In-laws?
By jncgiza
@jncgiza (256)
United States
June 14, 2007 3:22pm CST
So I have a problem, and I am trying to figure out if I am right to be upset. So I will explain and let the view and thoughts some people not related in the issue.
I married my husband almost a year ago, and my in-laws have never liked me due to the fact that my husband and I decided to just be married before a judge. So it took almost 3months for them to even speak to me.
Well, I have been trying to be part of the family, to get to know them, as well as them know me. His mother asked me my thoughts on a personal topic, and so I shared my feelings. After she reassured me that what I said would just stay between us. Then I find out that, she has discussed my feelings with over 6 people that live on her block.
Do I have the right to be upset, or should I just suck it up because I was stupid enough to think she liked me?
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3 responses
@xokimfryeox (55)
• United States
14 Jun 07
I think that you have a right to be upset. She gave you her word that the conversation would be between you two, then went behind your back and told other people. I think that you should talk to your husband about the situation before you approach her. I know how you feel though, my fiance's parents dont like me much either.
@xokimfryeox (55)
• United States
14 Jun 07
yes, its a big shame. Hopefully things work out with your situation though!
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@Juanamomof5 (429)
• United States
22 Jun 07
Are your in-laws very religious? Usually they are the only ones who make a big deal about what kind of wedding you have. It is hard to hear about so many in-laws that don't understand thier children, brothers or sisters have grown up and need to make their own lives. You need to speak with your MIL give her the benefit of the doubt of maybe she was trying to get advice on how to understand you. Try not to put your husband between you and his mom that will put him in a bad position to deal with. If your MIL really doesn't like you she is bound to mess up in front of him then he can deal with it.
@ToriaT (102)
• Canada
21 Jun 07
You know coming from different generations ...marrying without blessing of parents...stress of anger and tension...are all just symptoms of a huge misunderstanding...She should not have said the discussion was in confidense if she was not going to honor it...but perhaps you could give her the benefit of the doubt...maybe she was trying to understand your point of view and sought help from her neighbors and or friends...i will give you once little piece of advice...dont put your husband in the middle between you and His mom... that is a no win situation for him.He loves You both ...you and his mom need to talk ...everything can be fixed...maybe she wanted to at least be part of her son's wedding... is that difficult to understand... but what is done is done ...maybe you could have an anniversary party renew your vows or something with just family...perhaps she needs reasuring that you are not trying to take her son but want to be part of his family too...I would really try to clear this up with your mother in law woman to woman ...good luck
may the next years be wonderful and happy ...
ToriaT
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