Ideal age to get married...
By jcvernz
@jcvernz (477)
Philippines
June 14, 2007 9:36pm CST
I got married when i was 29 for me it is not an ideal age to get married because at time i have to reach at the age of 40 my children would be in his 10th years. But i have no choice than to fulfill my dreams before i get married, just completed my college education at the age of 27, find job and when stable with my job so then i decide to get married after two years.In my opinion the ideal age to get married for women would be 25 and for men about 27.Though there are minors who got married now a days but its their choice also. How about you guys? Share your ideas on ideal age to get married. Thanks for sharing.
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22 responses
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
15 Jun 07
I got married when I was 24 years old ,and I'm
very happy with my life. I have been married for
21 years and I thank God for all the blessings. We
both were college graduates and we were ready to start a family. I think people should get married
when they are ready to face the world. They need to be responsible and independent.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
20 Jun 07
That would be great and im looking forward on that day.I for sure will come together with my family. I want to be part of the celebration as well for i want to witness that day and take it as an aspiration to my marriage that will last same as yours.Good day.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Absolutely i do agree with you Mirita. Being responsible and committed to as marriage coupled its what matters most. Im so happy with your married for that so long...its so seldom now a days marriage would reach that far..so congratulations..and looking forward for your silver wedding anniversary...25th years.Have a blessed day.Thanks for sharing.
@fairygreen (533)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
For me theres no ideal age jcverns, as long as you are emotionally, financially ready/stable.Honestly i wanted to get married by the age of 25 but for now im already 28and still single.But i dont have any regrets because i got the chance to enjoy the things and got to explore those places which i havent been to.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
I do agree with your fairygreen. As long as your prepared and matured enough to face the life as a married one....its a tough and a risky decision to get married because a lot of adjustments and priorities to consider but happy to know you have to go through it together hand in hand...that what makes a life of a married one beautiful...you have each other to hold for in facing life's ups and down. I do believe that a right time will come for you to settle down...im looking forward on it....the better the sooner...remember your not getting any younger at all..he.he.he.he. Goodluck and im wishing you the best. Hope you have just found the man of your dreams with whom you can share the rest of your life forever.:D
@fairygreen (533)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
Yes jcverns im not getting any younger and i think i am ready now to have my own family very, very soon..:).I know its kinda risky and takes a lot of adjustments at first and we should learn to compromise.But whats important is we learn to respect and willing to learn from each other.
@asmurthy (2461)
• India
16 Jun 07
Ideal age of marriage for girls would be 23 years and for boys would be 27 Years. By that time their education would be over and would have settled in their careers. They can a baby or two and settle in life.
@aryana24ti (309)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
It depends actually on the situation, really i believe that the ideal age to get married is 25... but sometimes its not in the age its about how mature you are to face the consequences of being married.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
I certainly agree with you aryana.Being matured in facing the consequences of being married is so important because it is through this that married will fall or survive.Me, to my ideal age to get married is 25 but i have lapsed it coz i got married at 29 because i still pursue my college education and put everythings in a sort of proper place..having stable job...fulfill my dreams in life..I have a sort of regrets a little bit because if im going to be 40's my son would be 10 years old but that it happened if i have the choice i have married earlier.Have a blessed day.
@v3techguru (36)
• Singapore
15 Jun 07
well personally i believe aslongas u are ready..itis the perfect age to get married and family...what i meant by ready is that, you have a steady paying job and you are ready to get into relationship and ready for commitment :P
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
15 Jun 07
yup. being ready to face all responsibilities of a married life is the best age for one to get into marriage. being ready financially, being ready to have kids, being ready to raise them and so on... we should be physically, financially and emotionally ready for it... anne
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
That would be the most important thing a couple should remembered before to settle down. Marriage is a lifetime commitment but sad to say now a days...a lot of marriage failed because they failed to have commitment for each other and forgot their marriage vows.Have a blessed day.Thanks for your post.
@rochellin (46)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
I think that as long as both of you have a stable jobs and a mature minds, there will be a strong chance for you to succeed in your marriage life. Age does'nt matter coz the one that matters most are your capacity to build your own family together...
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
15 Jun 07
as for me, there is no particular age for getting married. it's just a number for me. i look at maturity and being responsible the measure of the ideal time to get married. there are those who marry at an early age who aren't ready to have a family on their own and end up having a bad life. there are those who got married late and still, they are immature.
i finished college when i was 21 and passed my licensure exam the same age. i started working then after. i had been to so many relationships before even when i was still studying. it's how i've learned that it's too difficult to be in a relationship especially if you and your partner aren't that responsible to handle one.
i am now 28. turning 29 on october. but i am not worried thinking that most of my friend have a family of their own already with kids. i am not even jealous nor envious. i am happy with my life and i am happy with my boyfriend. we talked about marriage. maybe 2 or 3 years from now. althought i'm already more than 30 years old at that time, i know that we are already financially and emotionally capable of starting our own family.
we should be prepared with all the responsibilities before getting into marriage. being able to be sure that we can handle things on our own already is the best age to get married... anne
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Marriage is a joke in my book. There really is no ideal age to get married. Some people are made for marriage and some people are not. Some people can be married and they will not have any problems, but then there are others who should never get married because marriage is not for them. In the USA women can get married at the age of 18 and men at the age of 21, you can get married younger than that if you have parental concent, but who in their right mind would concent to their child getting married unless it were a special situation?
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Thanks for you post rogue. I do believe so not all are called for a married life....it's a vocation also. So, if your called for a married life then it will come in right time but if your prefer to remain single or doing priesthood then its a choice to make also.Me, im very happy with my married life for 2 years...and looking forward for more years to come..was blessed with 1 son who will turn 2 this year. Have a blessed day.
@vinney_143 (662)
• India
15 Jun 07
i am right now 26... i am planning for 29... so, to me the time u got married is perfect.... you should enjoy the bachelor time.... that's the most enjoyable thing.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Yah...for the bachelor time will only pass in one's life once so enjoy the most out of it. Marriage will certainly comes when everythings seems right.Goodluck to all your plans and may this girl your going to get married will be the girl you wished to love and to hold forever in the days of your lives. Have a blessed day.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
15 Jun 07
I don't think there is an ideal age. I think once you have gotten yourself together finish school and being on your own for a little awhile that is the ideal time. I think for most people if they are not going for doctorate its usually around 26 years old.
@Married2aMarine (1273)
• United States
15 Jun 07
I don't think there is an ideal age. I think it just all depends on the individual. I felt I was ready when I was 27. I had a good job, good education, etc. I had also travelled quite a bit and done a little of everything and felt ready to settle down. But I had not met my dream guy yet. And that didn't happen till I was 31 and I only got married at 33 and had my first child at 34. Sometimes I do wish all this happened to me earlier in life just so that I will be younger when I have my children.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Yah i do agree with you...but i do believe marriage comes to our lives on a right time, when everything seems right then though we like to settle at an early age but time would not allow us to do for some reasons. Me, too i wished to have fulfill my college education earlier then so that i could be ablet to settle down at 25 but it never happened because it was not the right time sets in heaven for me to settle down.Ive got married at 29 and have my first child when i was 30 so happy that i was blessed with a son but on the other hand im felt sad because if i have to reached 40 my son would be on his 10th years.Just hoped for i would live longer so that i could be able to be with my son for so many years on his life and look forward to witness the day he will walk down the aisle with the girl of his dreams also.Have a blessed day.
@mandalashir (70)
• China
15 Jun 07
I haven't got married,but I want to do it when I'm 24 or 25.In that time, I will graduate and find a job,and I hope it will be stable.I don't want to marry too late,because I cannot imagine when my child is 10,I'm 40 or more.It's terrible.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
That would be a nice plan mandalashir. Goodluck on it.Yah..that's what im thinking now since i got married at 29 and have my 1 year old son and if i going to reach my 40's then my son would be 10 years old then..so sad...so better married earlier but be sure things are stable then.Have a blessed day.
@paradise12 (938)
• India
15 Jun 07
I feel the ideal age for women to get married is 24 and for men is 27.......There are so many people who get married at qute early age..I have seen people in college especially girls who get married at second or third year of graduation.......I think we should enjoy our life enough and then think of marriage....
@ghreizahnne (244)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
my ideal marriage is 25?.. hehe.. but i think the ideal age of marriage is depend on the person. if she is already ready to get married. why not? if you're already physical,mentally,emotional,spiritually,financially ready in 20 years of age. or below.. why not?.. for me as long as I'm already stable i'll gonna get married. because i already wanted a kid.. but I will asuure first that I can already handle it.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
You have a point in their ghreizahnne. Marrying at a young age will do as long as your ready as in ready..emotinally, physically, mentally, spiritually as what you said. For i do believe also that the maturity of the person would not be based on his age so if you feel that your ready to take the next chapter in life as married one then go on but be aware to face the consequences right?Have a blessed day.
@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
15 Jun 07
I do not think there is a particular age that people should get married at but they should be mature and realize the importance of marriage and the responsibilities of being married first. People do not take marriage as seriously these days as they used to so they need to know more and understand what it is like to be married. If I had to choose an age range it would be in the mid to upper 20's so that the people have had the chance to go through high school and college first and then get a decent job.
@hotmamma_05 (183)
• United States
15 Jun 07
I am not quite married but i am engaged to the man I had my wonderful son with. I believe that I got extremely lucky even though I am only 17; because even though we have our ups and downs-like everyone does we love eachother I believe I found the man I am supposed to be with and he found me. I think that age is nothing but a number because you can't put an age on love or something thats meant to be.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
Well i do agree with you hotmama...as the saying goes "Age doesn't matter." If you find comfortable with each other well age won't count at all. And i do believe also that maturity of the person won't rely on his/her age.So,goodluck and im wishing for a lasting relationship and im so happy for both of you, for you have found each other. Cherish every moment with him. Have a blessed day.
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 07
In the olden days, when daughters were in child bearing age, that was the ideal age for them to get married. But I think in this modern era, women delayed to get marry early because they want to get themselves educated and have a successful career first So, I think the ideal age to get married nowasday would be aroung 25 to 29 years old.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Thanks for your post ellie...you have a point in their..usually now a days...marriage has become a second priority as career. And i do agree with it because one you have already a stable job then its quite easier for you to settle down and build a family at least your financially stable because its so tough when you failed to support your family on financial matters.Have a blessed day.
@biswajit21 (3)
• India
15 Jun 07
Surely 25 years for a girl is the best time to get married. For men it may be 27 to 30 years. Marrying at these ages lets u enjoy all the excitements of youth.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
Thanks for you post.I do agree with you biswajit.That would be the time you gonna say it's enough being single and its time to settle down. Me, if only i have finished my college earlier i would prefer to get married at 25 also. But anyway i dont felt any regrets also at least i have been able to fulfill my dreams in life and now i was kind da blessed with a 1 year old kid and a 2 years of a happy marriage.
@nikko84111 (368)
• China
15 Jun 07
i think the ideal age for me to get married is 27~
want foer my bf's graduation~
and we will get married~
although i am 22 now~~
but i am looking forward~
