How would you handle a controling partner?
By bambi_doe
@bambi_doe (566)
United States
June 15, 2007 3:58am CST
My husband drove me nuts today about what I did -where I went- who I visited - if I had gotten my pay check and when he can get the money - then this morning at 3:00 am he comes and wakes me up to ask me for my pay pal password...Is this a controling partner or not? Hugs
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@nuttmeg (440)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Just might be. Be careful, especially finacially. You may want to keep a private bank that he isn't aware of, maybe opening a joint one also for house/family-related issues (if you haven't done so already), and I don't recommend the paypal thing if you feel he is controlling, or open another one as mentioned above. In all honesty, it's hard to say just off a few sentences or knowing all of the particlars, but those can certainly be red flags. Good luck.
@bambi_doe (566)
• United States
15 Jun 07
I have anothe account for my avon sales but he has asked the bank for account info on it as well. I told the bank that I did not want him any where near that money. hugs
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@nuttmeg (440)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Wow. He went around your back and called your bank? That's nuts. Would have to say red flag alert, and a big one. I wasn't sure if there might have been anything financial going on, but that has me thinking otherwise. Yeah, I'd switch accounts and not tell him about the new one at all. Or perhaps keep a very small amount in there to keep it open.
@nuttmeg (440)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Okay, just read the posts below me. Seriously, those are some serious warning signs and I would do all that I could to make sure your new bank accounts stay hidden from him. Financial Control can fall close to the same category as other abusive means. Trust me, going through it. Be careful.
@Married2aMarine (1273)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Absolutely!!! He sounds really controlling and demanding. There is no reason why he would need your Paypal account. If he wants a Paypal account, he can open one for himself. Plus, why is he taking YOUR paycheck? It's your money. I can understand having a joint account as a couple but for him to take your money, that's a big No No!
@bambi_doe (566)
• United States
15 Jun 07
he says it is to pay bills but he ends up blowing it on things for himself. I opened an account of my own at the bank and am now going to have $50 of each check deposited in there as I have derect deposit. If he finds out I will just tell him that we need to eat at some point. hugs
