Do your children moan, groan and complain about helping out around the house?

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My daughter used to help out around the house when she was younger and as she got older, helped out a little more, especially if she was having friends over. They only thing she really hated when she was little, was cleaning her own room. My oldest son was the same about his room, and now will only help clean if he has friends over. He loves to complain that his friends houses are not as messy as ours is, I had to remind him the other day, that he helps make the messes around here, but doesn't like to clean them up. My youngest son, who's 9, is probably the worst about it (or maybe I've just blocked out how the older kids were at his age). He pitches a fit every time we ask him to do something, the other day was probably the first time though that we actually heard him say, "why do always make me do everything around here?" I told him that if he wants me to make him to everything around here, I'll will, he said "Noooo!" So I haven't yet. I think that I know what part of the problem is, not that we ask him to help out with small things, because it's his house and it teaches him to clean up after himself, and "builds character" as I've heard people say, I think that it's with my mother-in-law living with us, she's a very over weight person with a few minor health problems that she makes worse by not taking care of herself, she's 62, but acts 82 (a sickly 82, my mother in her last couple of months, did more than my mother-in-law does, and took way better care of herself as far as diet, exercise and medications were concerned), any way, she asks him to do so much for her, so she doesn't have to do it. I feel like she's using him where I'm trying to teach him habits. I've never really given out allowances, but my children do get extra things they want if they've helped out. Do your children moan, groan and complain about helping out around the house?