Obituaries
By Annie
@Anniedup (3651)
Richards Bay, South Africa
June 15, 2007 7:59am CST
We had a few friends over last night. Half way through, the evening we landed up talking about Obituaries; I know it sounds very depressing, but many interesting facts came to light. There was one lady whose husband died 5 years ago, and she was telling us, that every year on the anniversary of his death, his birthday and on their wedding anniversary she puts a eulogy in the newspaper.
For me, I don't read them at all, so I was wondering, why people do that. Does it help them with the healing process, or do they just want to honor that person's memory.
What is your take on it? Do you put a eulogy in your local newspaper for someone that has passed on, do you read them, and why?
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@yanjiaren (9031)
•
15 Jun 07
I have read the odd one in the local paper and think it's quite a sweet gesture and also the fact that maybe a once ordinary and insignificant soul in the scheme of things was appreciated and remembers, a nice change from having Madonna and Britney Spears thrown in our faces all the time..I like to thini that every one's life is special and important, even if the world thinks other wise for its own marketing purposes and agenda..
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Maybe that just helps them to cope with it better. We don't put it in the paper for anniversaries or anything like that. I honestly don't even get the paper so I rarely see the obituaries or eulogies.
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@fellowlife (988)
• Nigeria
16 Jun 07
well people place adverts about obituaries in the newspaper cause they always want to remember the people they love. Its like an avenue to show that you remember that person.
I think they use it as a healing process because when they do the anniversary, basically what they do is like remember the good times they had with the person.
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@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
16 Jun 07
I don't find anything morbid about it. I think that it is probably just her way of honoring her husband. Personally, I don't usually read through the obituaries. I only glance through them to see if there is anyone there who I may know. I also have never considered putting a eulogy in the newspaper for someone on anniversaries and such. I feel that the original obituary is enough.
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@Syekselensie (121)
• South Africa
26 Jun 07
I think it is part of the healing process, some see it still as a form of communication with their departed loved ones, and some feel they owe it to their memories
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Once in awhile I check the local newspaper obits to see if anyone I know has passed away. We don't put one in the paper for my Dad because we know it's the anniversary and see no need to remind others of it.
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@wyykidd (1459)
• Singapore
16 Jun 07
Personally, I don't read the obituaries page. I find that a rather depressing section of the papers.
I do know of many people who do. The reason they tell me is that it is interesting to read how many family members they have, how old the deceased are, etc...
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
15 Jun 07
I think that this is part of their healing process. By placing a memory in the paper for this person, it keeps them alive in their hearts. I don't get the paper, but if I happen to see one, I usually will read the obituaries.
