do you have control over your anger???

to control my anger, i always kept a relaxed state, talk slow and calmly and think of the consequence of what negative things will happen if i do get mad.

Yes I do. If I get very angry, I can usually feel myself shaking and about to explode. I'm very conscious about the consequences of my actions so I step away from whatever is causing the anger. I fume, talk to myself, sometimes I surf and go to a website where I can vent or I talk to someone whom I can vent to. But I think anger management stems from acknowledging that no one is perfect and we are bound to be displeased most of the time. Then we have to realize that when we say something in anger it is likely to be hurtful and can have consequences we are not ready to take (like separations, lost friendships, etc.). I think if we are aware of the consequences and if we consciously do not want to hurt people, we can control our anger better. But of course, it helps that once you've calmed down to talk to whoever caused the rift in the first place because when they pile up, you might end up exploding in anger and make everything worse. I hope this helps.

Just breathe...I am a hot head myself...I am trying to change that because I get mad at myself afterwards for caring. That's why I get upset. I am not a jerk or anything so I don't get mad for any little thing. It takes a while to piss me off..but depending on my day determines wether or not I have control that day. Good luck man.