Why?
By Chryssi
@Chryssi (828)
United States
June 15, 2007 12:18pm CST
Okay, for the past two months, my boyfriend and I weren't able to spend much time together. The only way that we could contact each other was through e mail, and there were a couple of phone calls. Things turned, and we were finally able to spend time together again, and God, it was the greatest.. It hadn't even been two weeks...But once again, we're back to where we were before, only able to contact each other through e mail.
We don't take our relationship for granted, we don't take each other for granted, we love each other and we always want to be together.... There are so many couples out there who take each other for granted, who need their "space", who hurt each other constantly.. Why are we the ones who CAN'T be together, when it's all that we want? I can't understand it.. Not being able to be with him hurts so badly..
I was hoping that maybe you guys could help me understand why this has to happen..
3 responses
@pinks0da (328)
• Philippines
15 Jun 07
Hi Chryssi! I think you're one of those couples out there having this distance problem? I'm not sure though because you didn't mention what causes this problem of you and your partner not being able to spend time together as much as you want to. Is it distance? time? or bz work schedule? I'm glad to hear that you are quite sure of your feelings towards each other.. that is very important in a relationship... the assurance... You have to understand that in a relationship we have to sacrifice sometimes in order to make things better for both parties. Perhaps the reason why u don't see each other that often is you are not from the same city and your boyfriend has a job also to take care... If that is the case, then the choice is really between you both. If you really want to spend time with one another often, somebody has to move to be with the partner. So it's either you or him... I'm not saying you move to his place or vice versa... you or he can move to the same city where you are living/working.. If that is impossible, then the best thing for both of you to do is to be patient in waiting for your next meeting and make each time together worth it..
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@Chryssi (828)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Thank you very much for your response. You helped give me a bit of insight. Distance is a factor, also his family. I'm working to save money so that I can move there to be with him. Finding an apartment is going to be the toughest part, as they're soooooo expensive there. I'm willing to sacrifice everything just to be with him, and he's willing to do the same. Again, thank you for your response, and God bless you.
@icequeen (2840)
• Canada
15 Jun 07
Well I am not sure I understand the cirumstances? Why can't you be together? Is it a distance thing? I think that you should always make time to be together if it isn't. That is very important for a relationship to grow and stay strong. I think that if you two really love each other you need to think of a way to be together more...
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@monicathinks407 (311)
• United States
15 Jun 07
Sounds like you got a good one. Well, let me be the first to tell you that it hurts now because he isn't there all the time. And of course, you see people who have there bf/gf and don't even appreciate it but it's because they see them enough. I juse to be in the same shoes. I missed my man all day. Then he moved in and things are still wonderful...but sometimes we want to choke each other. All I am saying is that just appreciate that you are in love and someone is in love with you. Being together will eventually come. I know you are looking forward to spending more time together and that is what's important. You have love and no matter how much it hurts just tell him how much you love him I guess. Saying it will make you feel better. Good luck you love birds!!!lol
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