Who do people feel the need to attack you here on mylot? Has it happened to you?

some people have issues and use mylot as a way of dealing with their mental problems. When someone with these kind of issues gets drawn into a discussion they often lack the communication skills to hold a rational discussion. People who know them in real life often recognise their problems and stear clear of topics likely to get a psychotic reaction. On mylot, no such filtering exists and the results are often displayed in the type of response you are talking about. Remember, they have the problems, not you and that there are truely more out than in blessed be

I know from experience that there are people out there whose only purpose is to hurt others it is almost like they have a beacon. Anyway, I know this isn't where your original post is but I'm new here and did not see your original so I hope no one minds that I am going to respond to it. A few years ago (14 to be exact) my ex-boyfriend was ordered to pay child support. It was very difficult for Maintenance Enforcement to collect on my behalf. When they were finally able to collect they started taking amounts that would help him pay down the arrears faster but it left living uncomfortable for him, his wife and the son they shared. So we contacted maintenance enforcement and made an appointment with a mediator and we had it lowered while it was tough for a little while we managed through it and it was livable for his new family. I hope all goes well for you, but she also needs to understand that even if there is a maintenance agreement in place they cannot legally take an amount that would making living impossible for your husband and his family. Being on the receiving end of maintenance I understand where she is coming from, but I also know that LIFE happens and we just have to go with it. I hope all goes well for you. Keep strong.

I am sorry that happened to you. Money is definitely a subject that can arouse strong emotions in people and if they have seen you have internet that must cost money then they must think why do you have that but not pay child support. It sounds like they didn't express that too nicely. I was left with 2 young children when my husband went off with another woman and getting child support off him was sometimes a bit of a nightmare even though neither of them was short of money. Maybe the person who was mean to you had been in a similar position. It sounds like you are thinking of the child involved and I hope you can sort it out soon and that your husband manages to find a new job. If his ex wife has been yelling at you it is probably due to the fact that she is worrying about money and as I said at the beginning of this post - money arouses strong emotions. The only time that I remember someone being mean to me on a forum was on another forum and I posted a joke that made fun of men, it was just fun and nothing nasty and everyone else that posted back thought it was funny but one woman said she loved her husband and could never make a joke like that about him and a guy said that basically it should be against the law to make jokes about men. I realised then what utter weirdos you can run into on the Internet. Just ignore the people who are nasty and negative to you, you were trying to solve the problem by asking advice and that person must not have been advising you but critising you.

Just don't mind them, all you need to do is do your job and take care of your family.

Oh now there's a scary thought. I am new here and am still trying to find may way on a lot of things. I can understand how frustrating that must be to feel as if your being attacked. And yeah there are those out there who would say well gee if your not working or your behind on something like that why have the internet but that gives them no right to become offensive about it. Sometimes you have to take those kind of people with a grain of salt. I deal with depression a lot and I try very hard to stay functional and one of those ways is by coming to the sites I visit normally and try to interact with them. I find though that if I can't add something productive to the convo I simply do not post at all. Oh and should it arise again where you can't pay child support due to lack of employment or other financial stressors you can appeal to the judge who made the support order and have him / her give you a reduced support fee by claiming hardship even if it is only temporary. On Occasion I have found that if your funds are too low they will even temporarily suspend the ordered support altogether however as soon as your employed it goes back into effect.

we dont come on here to be abused, the majority of us come on here for advise, it has never happened to me personally, but what people need to understand is everyone has different opinions and i think that is anohter reasin why people come on here for advice as they want a wide response to there query so that they can make a solution to the post(HOPE THAT MAKES SENSE). everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but i dont understand people who just be nasty!!

Some people are just insecure. They make themselves fel bettr by attacking those that htey feel can't or won't defend themselves, like any other bully. Ignorng them and not allowing them to bother you is the best way to handle them. I read your postabout your problems with the ex and child support, and I think you are doing a good job of putting the needs of the child above all else. I hope your problems in this area end soon.

I have been attacked on myLot. It was by someone who had his own views, which were wrong and no one could change his mind. This was quite different from someone who could not understand. The part where she said you should not be on the internet, disturbed me as well. If you have dial up connection or belong to People PC, that is not much. And if you go to an internet cafe, you are just paying for your time here. Oh what if you want to make some money? It is hard to get a job outside, that is a good paying job, so working online is the way to go, but do not tell her that. She was probably just mad. Has your husband gone to court to get his payments reduced due to the circumstances? That might be the way to go until he gets back on his feet.

I can't remember getting personally attacked on here to the point of it hurting my feelings. Most of the time if someone says something rude to me I just let it roll off my back. I mean what are they going to do to me over the internet. I think maybe some people just have to much time on their hands to come on here and stir up an argument. Not everyone is going to agree with everything on here. I just go by the old rule if you don't have anything nice to say doing say anything at all. Too bad more people don't go by that rule. Sorry someone was rude to you here. I would just ignore them and move on. They are obviously not worth your time.

Well if you ask me, this has not yet happened to me. I must say that what happened to you has been experienced by other Mylotters. You have to consider that the Mylot community is quite large already and still growing. And because of this bigness in numbers, it takes all kind of characters in here. And lots of opinion. In your case, have you not ever wondered the reason why that person responded in that way? Have you not considered the fact that the person might be the woman or knew the woman in your post? Or better still, the respondent might had identified herself with the ex-wife of your husband as she is in similar condition? Babyangie, I think one of these two scenarios might had been the reason why she responded in that way.

well I posted a discussion about a couple other discussions i dont agree with that go against womens rights! One was about should older women wear low cut tops.. and the other was why do we need a woman govenor! Because I dont beleive that anyone has the right to tell anyone especially a man telling a woman how she should dress!! Because I speak my mind I was called a fighter and basically told that was uncooth.. I dont care! I fight for womens rights! I had to for a job i had! I really disliked being told I that older women should cover up and frankly they thought so little of other womens decisions they are tempted to hand them a shaw!!! I believe every woman on the WHOLE planet should have the same rights and equality we have here! I know its unrealistic but damn it i wish it was so! Women die every day for the rights we have to dress as we wish or even to speak our minds!! To be attacked by another woman saying we should cover up is crap... like i told her women should stick together and quit degrading each other!! My grandmother is 87 and dont even do that and shes OLD FASHIONED!!! Different era's (generations) see things differently... we just need to coexist without the personal attacks!!

ur discusson is very considerable.here i wiil suggest u that ur idea is very good clean and harmless. now u must treat in a behave that ur husband himself will be agree with ur favour. i can suggest it no one can do further more for conservative peoples.

your more than welcome, i go on this forum where there was this regular poster who is disabled, for some reason some nasty piece of work found out and bullied her out of the forum, i thought the behaviour was appaling, i cant stand small minded people, who think they are right, and what ever they say goes!!!!!