Was I rude or just plain confused

If this watiress gave you bad service and acted like she didnt want to be there then I think your reaction was fair enough, if she gave you good service and you did that I would think you were a bit rude but in the situation that you have told I think that your reaction was fair. I hate going anywhere and having someone serve me that doesnt want to be there and I also thin that you specifically asked for chips so she shouldnt have asked you what do you mean, LOL what sort of reaction does she think she is going to get with that question!

I think it sounds like the waitress was having a bad day, or new to waitressing. Possibly she just wanted to make sure she got the order right. also I think the potatoe thing may have been slightly rude. But we probibly all have been like that at some time. Did it all turn out alright in the end? Did you leave her a tip?

Why would you be rude. She was the one that asked "What do you mean?" You just told her. Besides what kind of response is that: "What do you mean?" Like she doesn't work their and tons of people probably asked for that plate a lot of times before. She was probably having a bad day and wanted to get out of their and wasn't in the mood to be friendly since you said she looked like she didn't want to be there. By the way did you get sick the next day?

How interesting! I wouldn't say you were rude. Neither would I say she was ignorant. Instead, I would say you were snobbish (a wee bit) and she was rude. I have to say that I think she was in the wrong to start with. Her attitude probably got you "started" - hence your elaborate explanation for chips. Or might it be that you were just trying to flirt and it backfired? :P I think the waitress was being sloppy and unprofessional. She shouldn't have asked you what you meant when you said chips. She is supposed to be the pro there so she could have simply asked if you wanted chips or tater tots. Clearly this waitress either needs training or sacking. And when she walks away mumbling, lmao. I thought they only do that in movies. These days, even indecent people know how to keep their thoughts to themselves. It is so rare to catch someone mumble - EXTREMELY rare in fact. I can't even remember whether I have seen anyone mumbling ever - in real life. And she did not give any "satisfactory close". She didn't apologise or smile at you but just walked away. That is rude.

I don't think you were rude, the waitress asked a silly question, so she got a silly answer. Chips mean different things in different parts of the country. In my area they would usually mean a bag of chips, but if fish and chips are on the menu, she should have known exactly what u meant, unless it was her first day on the job. I can't handle having a waitress/waiter with that kind of a attitude. They usually figure that out by the kind of tip l leave them.

Here is my philosophy with respect to dealing with wait staff at a restaurant: I NEVER show any displeasure or animosity; not in the slightest bit. Call me wimpy, but I have a very good reason for embracing this philosophy. If a waiter or waitress is pissed at you, you can never tell what they might do to your food. It's not worth it to me to take the risk, so I am always pleasant to wait staff. If I don't like the service, then I won't return to the restaurant.

well i guess she was at a bad mood when you met her and you didn't make matters easy by telling her off the way you did. It definitely got her infuriated the more while you felt frustrated and annoyed that she wasn't up to her task. I think a little humor from you would have soften things up and would have made her day or probably her mood looked lively. Every where i go i try as much as possible to light up a smile in the face of the person i meet which i believe does wonders for me cause when i go back to the same place, its like they are indebted to me and would do anything just to please me.

Well, if fish and chips are what they have on the menu then chances are she was just trying to be a snot about it. Not all Americans know that chips are what they call fries .. I ran into a lot of that lol. Ever walk into a store in Kentucky and ask them (with a deep Leeds accent) where their crisps are. Yeah, funny looks all around. I got the usual "Uhhh where you from" question. I usually replied with something sarcastic like Mars or Venuc just to really screw them up. Maybe she was having a bad shift but hey, when you are dealing with the public you have to put on that game face and smile or go home with no tips.

It seems perfectly obvious to me, if the menu even said 'chips' then that is what they are! Plus, you asked for 'chips'...so what exactly was she probing for? Weird! Perhaps she has had disgruntled patrons who ordered chips but were disappointed upon seeing that they were actually 'chips' and not fries or tots. I know that often 'chips' actually means fries. Okay, I'm confusing myself now. *slips off to find the bag of potato chips!*

You were not rude at all. You were the customer and she should be going out of her way to make your experience enjoyable. She is so bored with that job she is allowing it to interfere with here performance and forgetting what she is there for in the first place. I hope you didn't leave her a tip. Unless it was advice on how to be a better waitress. However you should also remember that everyone has a bad day. Something going on that you can't see that is making their life miserable. Never take something like this personally just be nice and let it go.

Well I would have to say this is a cultural difference occasion. What they call chips over seas is usually fries here. What they call crisps are chips here. She probably heard your accent and thought to ask. Maybe she has had others that are from the UK that have asked for chips and gotten crisps instead of "fries" and gotten upset.... but on the other hand she may have just been a rude twit. The world may never know LOL

man,i would have been fired for less than her response at some places i worked at. i don't think you were rude.she sounded like she was on the last hour of a double. still no excuse for her response,but i bet that's what it was.

Sounds like the waitress was having a bad night. I don't think you were rude at all. . .but if she was having a bad night, you could have said anything and she would have responded that way.

I think you handled it just right. She was definitely rude and you did the right thing...If they serve fish and chips, and she is a waitress, then she should know what fish and chips are....I would have reacted in the same way...There would have been no tip...and there would have been a call to the manager of the place...I would have asked for a different waitress also...You did good...

It doesn't sound like you were rude or confused. It sounds like the waitress was the one who was rude and confused.

Maybe the waitress was having a really bad day which I don't condone someone being like that at their job. Or maybe she wanted to make sure you wanted french fries and not the other kind of chips. I'm not sure but it sounds to me like she was being a little cheeky, and as I stated earlier that's not right. I hate it when someone is in a pissy mood and takes it out on me especially if I didn't do anything to make them feel that way. It's not fair and not right!

were you being sarcastic? because if i look at it another way it sounds to me like you were being a bit sarcastic. but i understand if you were irked at the way she acted. i would have been too. anyway, if i'm around people who are clearly in a bad mood i usually just let it go, she probably has got some problems that she obviously need to deal with. but i also think that people who are in the service industry should provide the best service that they can, and that includes not being rude to customers, so i guess she needs to deal with her attitude problem right away. i'm usually okay if the person does that to me for the first time, but if i go there for the second time and she's still rude, then i think i'd call the manager ;)

If you are in the UK or Ireland and said chips, you weren't cofused or rude. She was confused and maybe either burnt out, new, or just not very good. Tell me, did you leave a huge tip?

It could be the fact the waitress was just having a bad day. I think that her attitude could have been nicer. I know when I go out to fish and chips, I think of peeled potatoes fried in oil, not tater tots.

i think the waitress had a attitude problem. she probably doesnt knw how to serve a customer.. in my opinion good service is not just smiling at the customer, it is getting them to smile back..