The failure of the child is also a failure of the parent..what d u think?
By butterfly39
@butterfly39 (3904)
Philippines
June 15, 2007 7:24pm CST
I want someday to share something about this topic telling that a child's failure is also a parent's failure, would you agree to that?
Well parents are the one who brought up kids and no parents wanted their children pass to the wrong way or may failed to any desire he wants to do in life.
Just need your stories too...
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@jnallen_487 (800)
• United States
16 Jun 07
Well I guess that would have to depend on what you believe in the nature vs nurture battle. Is it the parents who are eventually to blame for child growing up to being bad or is it the environment that they are in at the time? I think that parents are responsible for teaching their children right from wrong. But when that child grows up to be an adult and goes out on their own, it's their responsibility to remember everything they were taught. So I guess that it just depends. If the child grows up with bad parents, I think that in a way that does have a really big influence on how the child acts as a grownup. But I've also seen my friends that have grown up in that setting, to grow up and be very good people. And I've seen children who grew up with great parents, make very bad choices and end up as criminals or just bad people all around. I hope that answers your question.
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@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
16 Jun 07
thank you so much, sometimes it's really hard to raise kids anyway. We accountable for them everytime they commit mistakes.
I know that we parents have all the do's and don'ts and yet we can't still control of everything. But I guess they are matured enough to know what is best for them.
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@jnallen_487 (800)
• United States
16 Jun 07
I agree! Thank you so much for marking me as the best response! I really appreciate it.
@yemberzal (301)
• India
16 Jun 07
Is is duty of parents to feed and give proper education including moral education to their kids till they are adults and after that the responsibility ceases, however, parents being natural guardian ,would always try to help them if they are grown up. and after becoming adult if they could not prove themselves worth and could not excel in their lives, parents can share their grief but would not think themselves failure, yes, if they had not done enough to their kids in early stages, then we may lay blame on parents.
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
If the foundation of the child is weak then the influence will empower on him. And maybe that's the first thing that our child will experience difficulties and the parents is out of control.
For as long as we rraised them in a valuable way then, it's up for the child to choose which way he/she wants to go.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
24 Jun 07
To me, it depends on the situation. Because in many situations in my opinion it could just be you have a child that when they get older might decide to be Lazy and do nothing with their life. I know a lot of times people and especially kids now a days like to blame it on the parents when in reality a lot of the times, it is the child themselves who has decided to be like this.
And then Yes, there are times you could blame it on the Parent, as to what type of upbringing did that child have. Were they taught the importance of work, etc. or was the parent to busy to teach them, or show them the ways of life, or being abusive to them to where that is all they know is being Lazy and have no chance in life until they themselves grow up enough to realize there is more to life than what they are giving it now.
