Should Religion Be Important In A Relationship?

Nigeria
June 16, 2007 1:02am CST
Ok so I introduced my girlfriend to my mom and she absolutely flipped because' she comes from an Islamic background and we are ardent christians. She will absolutely not hear about us but we're really in love and plan to get married someday. What do I do now? Somebody please!
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• Philippines
16 Jun 07
you will have to settle these religious differences between the two of you before ever considering about settling down. it is either that you will embrace her religion or that she will switch to yours. if none of you will give up on your faith, it is best that you go your separate ways now. you may not recognize religion to be a big stumbling block right now, but the truth is, it is a very big issue to deal with which can become insurmountable. as of this time, you may think that you are very much in love and you are fighting for it come what may, later on in life you will find out that there are so much more considerations than just feelings. settling down is called settling down, becuase it requires differences having been ironed out before marriage. if many differences remain unsettled before getting married, you can be sure that you are going into a tumultous relationship. and instead of having a lasting one, it is one which is bound to break soon after. so study your situation carefully before diving into marriage.
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
16 Jun 07
I disagree, trinidadvelasco. I don't feel that one partner should have to give up their religion in order for the two to be together. I know many interfaith families that are very happy, and while it takes a lot of work, I think it's worth the effort. My own husband and I are of two very different religions, and neither of us converted, nor would ever ask the other to do so.
• India
16 Jun 07
Now I strictly disagree with casteism and religion barriers in making new relationships with somebody. These things are curse to our life and create hatred among ppl. As far as ur case is concerned I will suggest u to pursue ur mom by requesting her and by saying that u two love each other very much and u cann't live seperately.
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
16 Jun 07
I'm not sure I can relate to your situation in terms of your family, as I am not close to my own family. However, I think if you are really in love you can make an interfaith marriage work. Getting your mother to agree might just be a waiting game... you might have to get married first and show her that it's working out well before she will understand. Good luck!