What kind of spouse are you?

Well, I haven't actually married my boyfriend, yet. I have been with him for 10 years, and since he likes to break the relationship up everytime we have a fight, I would say I am a pessimist. I always believe it is over everytime I have a fight with him. I feel like it is time to go find a mature adult relationship. I think if I were with someone else and in an adult relationship, eventually I wouldn't be a pessimist. I don't think all men are cheaters or all men are control freaks, I still have a positive outlook on men, like I did in my 20's. I am not ruined yet, or old and bitter. I am 35, and I have been stuck in my own choice of a terrible relationship. I think being romantic is great. Even if I get no reponse I would still do it. I have to say I am optimistic on that one. I am a pessimist when I think he will be romantic with me. He thinks birthdays and holidays are a pain, and since he is in sales he finds holidays and special occasions to interfere with him making money and usually curses those days. Ewww, I just realized I am living with the real life grinch! I am glad that you are an optimist, you will have a great relationship and whom ever is in it with you is fortunate. I wish I could find someone like that.