On messenger do you ever appear offline
By killahclaire
@killahclaire (3665)
June 16, 2007 8:09pm CST
I often appear offline and actually sometimes tell people I am chatting to that I am away to bed and then switch to appear offline but secretly I am still online and I just can't be bothered talking.
It is not something personal against people but people jsut dont seem to appreciate when I don't want to chat and don't realise that having these blooming pointless conversations through messengers can be so disruptive to whatever it is I choose to do online.
Do you think if you found out someone was hiding offline from you you would be angry. I think I would get annoyed if I had something to tell them and they chose not to respond but if I just wanted to talk rubbish then I would not be annoyed.
What is frustrating is that I use a community website called bebo and if I go online there it shows to everyone and there is nothing you can do to hide it so if people see me offline on MSN and online on Bebo then they know I am hiding.
Frustrating!
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27 responses
@jiffys_frog_woman (4050)
• United States
17 Jun 07
im always offline people leave messages and if i want to talk to them then i will but if not i dont answer
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@dalhousiesteve (568)
• Canada
17 Jun 07
i am always shown as off line. if i dont i have a lot of friends bugging me when im trying to play games
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
17 Jun 07
I know exactly what you mean. I used to use AIM and ICQ but I never bother with them anymore. I would rather speak to people in person or on the phone, because if I am online I am usually reading wor writing somehing so it is just distracting!
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
17 Jun 07
talking to people on the phone is the best way to communicate to others.
however, in my situation, i live far far away from my boyfriend and it's expensive to do long distance calls everyday. so, voice chatting is a great way to talk to him. listening to his voice makes my day better... anne
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@arsonizta (944)
• Philippines
17 Jun 07
I go on hiding only when I'm doing something else which is more important to chatting, but when I have my free time, I wont hide, I chat with everyone who wants to talk about anything.. it's really nice sometimes to talk about anything online.. it's fun especially if you haven't met that person--or friend- for a long time. :)
@PeaceChief (1)
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14 Jul 08
so guys are there any ways to understand if someone is appearing offline in Windows Live Messenger??If so message me at gaiden_xbox@hotmail.com
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@Dishwasherken (7)
• United States
17 Jun 07
Most of my messengers have a status and if I can't appear offline I set myself as busy but I am not avoiding most ppl but I love music and if I am in the zone then I don't want to be bothered.My friends understand this and if I do show online and I don't answer this then they know I am listening to music and will catch me later.
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@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I rarely chat on messenger anymore, but I used to all the time.
When I was online I would often appear offline. This sounds a bit rude, but I am only being honest: Too many people would contact me that I just didn't feel like talking to. I only liked talking to a few people. Some I would block becuase they were very bothersome, but others I liked chatting with on occasion. I would rarely appear online.
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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17 Jun 07
Actually Claire I do that all the time! LOL! Don't get me wrong - I love talking to my friends - but some of them don't work and just sit on MSN bored all day waiting to "chat", whereas I work full time, so when I get online in the eveings, it is often to do something specific, and inane chat about noting stops me doing what I need to do. So no - I wouldn't be angry if someone else did it to me - I would understand.
@joey_matthews (8354)
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17 Jun 07
I know myspace has a code you can insert to make the online funtion disabled.
How does bebo work? I've never used it but chances are the same type of thing is out there for bebo. I do it all the time on myspace as I get annoying bands asking to be added, but I don't often use msn.
Kudos,
~Joey
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@sakana (260)
• Singapore
17 Jun 07
I do that if the conversation starts to feel awkward or if I'm quite tired switching between many conversations and just want to chat with one or two friends.
@loopylou2406 (382)
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17 Jun 07
on msn i do it all the time so me time you just dont wanna be bugged and eith check ur emails or just chill out from typing and just surf yes a do it alot
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@wilynn (751)
• Singapore
6 Jul 07
Sure. If not, sometimes, there will be too much messages to reply to. Some good, some boring. Hence, if I am doing something on the computer, I will appear offline. Just to see who is online and thats it. If I am in the chatting mood, I will definitely turn it on.
@stagewhisper (901)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I do the same thing, at least on my Yahoo account. There are some people you only want to chat with if you're in the mood, and a lot of the time I'm just not in the mood to deal with all those people at once. So I'll sign on as invisible, then pick and choose who I want to appear online to. That way I can handle whoever I talk to or not without angering/annoying the other people online. I think it's better than ignoring the other people's IMs or saying "I can't chat right now", because if you're online, people expect you to be right there and ready to chat at any given instant. 
@goddessofbeauty (713)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
yes... esp in ym cos there are lots of pervs... to avoid them, i hide... i just respond to messages with sense.
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@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
19 Jun 07
I understand what you mean.. I'm hiding all of the time, I don't even open messenger unless I intend to talk to someone, I may be online all day and off the messenger. Some people can't understand that you are busy with other things or just don't want talk all of the time.
I use Yahoo and it's good that i can login as "invisible" and usually i just choose to appear visible for a few people and not for everyone and can switch between different people, I don't like talking with many people at the same time, it's so distracting and I hate it when I'm talking to someone who is talking to others at the same time and can't keep track of what I'm saying..
Also I prefer to use voice and maybe cam to have a real chat like with people you meet offline :)
@mayenskie (1307)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
yeah guilty as charge, i do that during late at night or when someone i do not want to talk to suddenly comes online.I hate to be buzzed as my pc sometimes hang when im get buzzed. Sometime, i just put away or busy status but some people are just too persistent.
there are users that i already ignored and even deleted but i do not know why everytime i log in again they can still send me messages.
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
I just use Yahoo Messenger so I don't have a problem hiding once in a while. I just appear online to those I wish to chat with at that particular time. Sometimes I just don't feel chatting at all so I just hide. I won't feel angry if someone appears offline even when they're not. I respect that. We all have our moments anyways. :)
@ma_belle (1357)
• United States
19 Jun 07
i often set my msn messenger to offline so people will not bother me, especially if I can't be bothered to chat. I definitely make sure to change it to offline if I'm doing work. I wouldn't really care if I found out someone was hiding offline. If they aren't in the mood to chat, thats fine with me. Especially since, I don't always want to chat.
