Will my children split my possessions,without fighting,when I die?

@musicman6 (2407)
United States
June 16, 2007 10:36pm CST
You know that is one of the few things, that plagues me sometimes,that my children will change, and fight over my personal possessions when I die! That would be the tragedy of all tragedies, for them to do that when I am no longer here! I have seen other families destroy their relationships, because of the kids fighting over their parents possessions! I've spent my life,teaching them to share, but who knows what will happen when I am not here!
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nnsb75
@nnsb75 (632)
• United States
17 Jun 07
well, the best thing for you to do is to have a last will and testament so you know what each other is gonna get so they cannot fight about it coz thats what you stated so they have to follow it whether they like or not.
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musicman6
@musicman6 (2407)
• United States
17 Jun 07
10-4, legally that would eliminate the discussion of who gets what, and save everybody, a lot of trouble!
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tyc415
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
17 Jun 07
I think if they are going to fight and bicker over things it won't matter to them if there is a will or not. One might feel like they should have gotten something that meant more to them than the person who it was left for ....
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tyc415
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
17 Jun 07
Even if you have a will you might want to sit each of the kids down some time and talk to them and let them know who gets what. On the things that you can you might even put something on the bottom of an item with the persons name on it who it goes to. I sure hope they don't fight either, that would be horrible. My kids won't have to worry. I don't really have anything. LOL
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musicman6
@musicman6 (2407)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Yes, this is a good idea, discussing it with them had never occurred to me, but it would keep barriers from forming!
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tyc415
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
25 Jan 08
Did your dad even ask his half sister about the rings she was wearing that was promised to him? Something else, was the rings given to his mom from his dad or his half sister's dad? I am assuming that they both had the same mother but different dads.
lucgeta
@lucgeta (924)
• France
22 Dec 07
Personal belongings are difficult to deal with. Some might see an emotional attachment to the item others financial value and no one to decide what is right or wrong. There is no much you can do when someone says is attached to a $1000 necklace ... lol. The best you can do is talk to them or donate in live.
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musicman6
@musicman6 (2407)
• United States
22 Dec 07
This is very true, lucgeta, thank you for being understanding, and thank you for posting!
bowtieguy
@bowtieguy (5915)
• United States
4 Oct 07
Its not likely, ther will be things that they both want and will fight over who gets it, I have made a will for my sons and sat down with them to try and be fair in dividing up my things so there will no confusion and fighting when I die.
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musicman6
@musicman6 (2407)
• United States
4 Oct 07
This would be a good idea! It would also let them know where you stand on the division of property!
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dayzz25
@dayzz25 (552)
• United States
13 Nov 07
I have seen this destroy families also. It's so sad to fight over such things. If you are really worried about it you should get a will....but I'm sure that you have taught them right.
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zigzagbuddha
@zigzagbuddha (4601)
• United States
17 Feb 08
Hehehe.... my mother had us all come and select the things of hers that we would want when she 'croaks'. We had a great time, drinking and smoking and bartering... "ok Renee, I'll give you the 'Venus at the Bath' statue for the 'Smoking Turk' and the 'Splinter in the Foot' statue... hehehe... worked great! On the other hand we all get along spectacularly and rarely, if ever, fight with each other.
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musicman6
@musicman6 (2407)
• United States
17 Feb 08
I think that's the way brothers and sisters should be !!
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zigzagbuddha
@zigzagbuddha (4601)
• United States
18 Feb 08
HAHAHAHA! I don't use roach clips and the only ashtrays I have belong to my brother. Plus, I'm getting rid of everything I own except what I can fit into a suitcase and a backpack... what's the use of having a bunch of sh!t if you got no place to put it. This homeless lifestyle is getting rather tiresome. But at least I won't have to worry about my kids haggling over my stuff. And no you can't have my unpaid traffic tickets because I have spit on them, p!ssed on them, stomped on them, torn them up, burned them, and generally relieved myself of their burdensome presence. You think I carry them around as friggin' mementos??
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Vickie7978
@Vickie7978 (164)
• United States
25 Jan 08
Make sure everything is iron clad and find out what personal momentos are special to each family member. My grandfather is 77 and still going strong, yet my family is already discussing what they will "get". It's so bad I told him I didn't wast his money if would cause this much of a problem. He should blow it all since he's the one who worked so hard for it. Yes, I would benifit from a few hundred thousand, but it's nothing is worth the love and memories I will always have. Noboday cares about this anymore.
JustMissYou
@JustMissYou (145)
• China
24 Dec 07
yes that is what noboday wants to see. As a father,in my opinion, the only thing you could do now is to teach and lead them to know that their life is theirs. What is more important is the love between brothers but not possessions. They must learn to share... hope everything goes well with you and your children.