where are the romantics?
By ESKARENA1
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
June 17, 2007 4:29am CST
For quite a few years i have noticed a lack of romance not only in my relationships but also in society in general. I miss it, I know it has always been slightly out of time but it is something I crave. So what happened to all the romantics? did they all become so self-obscessed they no longer can afford the time?
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@shadow9 (238)
• Romania
17 Jun 07
lol^^ ... yes, in a way romance is indeed fadeing away, but not fast ... ofcours you don't see romance! it's mostly a private thing ... atlest me when i get ideas they are mostly all about being alone somewhere with someone
like in a tree in a forest at night with a river nearby
dunnow ... if you can't see it, it dosen't mean it's not happening ... as air, you don't see it but it's always there ...
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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17 Jun 07
mmmmm. OK, maybe it is just me, guess im just not made for this modern world
blessed be
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@derek_a (10873)
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17 Jun 07
Yes, I can see what you are saying Shadow9, it is always there, it never disappears. What is missing is the fact that it has become obscured by what matters more to the ego. We just have to look and we will see it. There are many though, who don't want to look for one reason or another :-)
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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19 Jun 07
oh me too i think we have lost so much. The self obsession is spoiling the world
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@Rickrocks8 (1751)
• United States
19 Jun 07
Ok your freaking me out because my husband and I were just talking about this last night. I always try to make an effort to go over and talk to the people on our street, but they never ever come and talk to me. I was feeling a bit blue because of it last night and he said all people think about is themselves. I do have one neighbor I do not speak to because she got so nasty with me and called me names but I did nothing wrong I just didn't agree with her. Anyway sorry I'm babbling again!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
17 Jun 07
Well I am still a Romantic lol and probably always will be
But I agree with what you are saying, you see more People arguing in public today then what you see them being romantic with one another
I think People are just letting it die and they shouldn't, it is such a shame
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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17 Jun 07
surely, there has got to be some positive emotion left in the world? why is the only emotion that some people feel able to express is anger. Everything else has to be hidden away
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@rb200406 (1824)
• India
19 Jun 07
Most of the people have become so much busy in there life that everybody forget about love & all.They have started to take all the people around for granted.So no time for romanse.I think you should try to revive that old romanse in your relationship.I have romanse in mine but you have to make errorts to revive them.
@derek_a (10873)
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17 Jun 07
Yes, this seems to be the case doesn't it. I have felt that gradually over the last decade or so, romance has bee superseded by materialism. Love and romance seems to be the antithesis of egotism. I see it in the teenagers who seem to live by the attitude of "treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" and "if I was to say, 'I love you', I would be showing you my vulnerability". Then... "if I can wear all this bling, have the latest ipod, mobile phone, car etc. etc. you're gonna want me!" How romantic is that?
The shame of it is, if we could just realise the power we can create in our relationships by showing love and selflessness, the material substitutes would appear just as they are... illusions of happiness.
I could go on, but that's my theory anyway :-)
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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17 Jun 07
yes materialism i see rather as a substitute for happiness than an illusion. We can not have happiness and partake in the economy, therefore we substitute happiness to play our consumerist role
blessed be
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@derek_a (10873)
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17 Jun 07
Exactly.. Why sit out under the stars when there are Nintendo and Game Boy skills that could be shown-off.
Also, I notice that when I got to the gym for my rehab, most people (of both sexes) are looking in the mirrors flexing their muscles etc. . Don't get me wrong, there are some beautiful people in there, but there's not much point when they only ever see themselves... LOL
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@magicnoire (102)
• United States
17 Jun 07
I don't think that the romantics have disappeared or that romance is fading. I know it hasn't because I'm still a romantic. I still see it around me and from time to time it shows itself in my writing. Not that I've been trying to hide it. It's more like I've had this writer's block for a while now. Maybe not so inspired right now.
Romance is very much alive... you just have to know where to find it...
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