i am not your friend
By poetshannon
@poetshannon (113)
United States
June 17, 2007 9:07pm CST
we been friends since 10th grade now we are 27 years old. we been threw 4 years of the same college as roomates together pledge the same sorority.we have been there for each other threw a lot she is the god mother to my son and i had plan to be the god mother of her's in september until igot a text out the blue about 2 monyhs ago saying i am not your friend no more!!!!! thats it. i tried calling her to see why but she want take my calls even her faimly don't no what is wrong. i heard from a cousin that she think i told someone that i know she dont like that she was having a baby and thats why she is mad but i didnt and if that is the reason why not ask me but any way what should i do? should i let go and let god or try to fix it on my on?
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15 responses
@karenguo (3)
• China
19 Jun 07
A friend in need ia a friend in deed.If you think her is a real friend to you,you suold try to find the reason by different ways as many poster's idea.but a true friend will not let you hurt and down.Even somtimes you do things wrong but you didn't do it on purpose that will be forgiven.nobody is perfect,we all have the same experience to make the mistake.So,don't worry too much,let it be nature.
@mohit1123 (564)
• India
19 Jun 07
Thats wierd. I suggest you try to patch it up for sometime if it doesnot make ur relationship normal i guess you should let her go. As per my experence she would come back to you if you were her true best friend Because it difficult to stay without a best friend.
@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
19 Jun 07
Don't let it go without resolving it. You've been friends too long. If you can't talk to her because she refuses, then write her a letter and explain how you feel and what really did or did not happen. She may feel overly sensitive right now because she is pregnant. I hope it all works out, but I've lost what I thought were life-long friends myself and it is beyond painful so try to work it out.
@egortizv (225)
• United States
18 Jun 07
deep sympathy for you. I think you should approach her in person and give a chance to explain what has happened. Over the phone she could easily hang up. She can throw your letter in the garbage. And she can refuse to respond to your text. In person, you can get more out of her, even if she screams and yells. There is obviously a misunderstanding so i hope you two can work everything out.
GOOD LUCK!
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Well, sometimes it is Best to move on and let things be. Unfortunately sometimes people move on from their former lives trying to be someone different, and either it will work for them or backfire. It is probably in your Best interest to let go, and move on... and then decide from there whether you would be open if she ever tries to contact you again. I have lost contact with all of my friends from when I was younger due to situations beyond my control, but a lot of this I am sure is for the best. It might just be time for you to move on, and find your New set of friends to hang around with.
@mssnow (9484)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I think you should find her and ask her why she didn't ask your side of the story Its not right for someone to just take someone else's word for something without talking to he person being accused. Whether they be a friend or not. its called innocent till proven guilty.
@navtech (1773)
• India
18 Jun 07
Hi, poetshannon, Do not take it seriously. Your friend had taken the decision to snap your friendship in spurt of moment. Therefore do not worry. This sort of angry vanishes soon. I would advise you to write to her a letter requesting her to know the reason for her taking such a decision. She will answer you through phone call. Yours a long friendship and it will not get broken that much easily Therefore nothing to worry. This misunderstanding will evenly develop a stronger bondge of friendship between you. Wishing you all best of lucks.
@lovelyladydancing (1016)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I can understand how this can be very hurtful. I would be really hurt. I think maybe you should try one more time, try texting her and asking her what happened, it seems there is a misunderstanding. If no response, let it go and let her come to you.
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
18 Jun 07
wow - that's extreme. She must be really mad to send such an old friend a text like that. or maybe it's just her impulsive character that makes her do things like that without clarifying. Guess you should know if she tends to do stuff like that?
I think you should let her have some cooling off time. then when she's in a better frame of mind, try making contact again, maybe through a mutual friend. At least you get to say your piece, and clear the air, and let her know you raelly didn't say that!
Hope things get better soon. It's sad to let a friendship end like this!
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I agree with a previous poster that you should send her a letter (or maybe an email) about how much your friendship means to you. And ask what it is that you did that made her turn her back on you, since you've done nothing that warrants that kind of reaction, and it's not fair of her to tell you why she's "not your friend anymore."
@sarangsadh (167)
• India
18 Jun 07
well i suggest u keep pursuing her till the very end.........Girls usually feel a lot better when some1 says sweet things to thm.......take care buddy
@auLeeau (253)
• China
18 Jun 07
Hi Poetshannon, dont worry too much, misunderstanding everywhere in our daily life. We are always trying to be nice and honest but we still can not satisfy everybody though, things like that, I guess that this misunderstanding between you and your longtime close friend will, one day, be dissolved for sure, I suggest wait for a while to fix it when proper time coming,I mean dont push too much.Everything is gonna be OK!
