When would you like to be Married?
@babygurl850406 (1322)
United States
June 18, 2007 3:53am CST
Is there a certain age in which you would like to be married by? If you are or have been married how old were you? Do you kind of look at people funny if they are of a certain age and never been married?
I am 22 I came an inch close to getting married when I was 19, my boyfriend and I were planning on eloping...I am glad that I didn't the time wasn't right. I am hoping by atleast 26 I am married but thats just a set age for me.
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@swapw07 (247)
• United States
18 Jun 07
As a guy I say whenever I'm ready, but to be honest with you it's a scary question to even think about. People say guys fear the area of committment and I can't say it's true. Realistically, I'm thinking 30s but for you today will be fine. Hahaha...I'm playing..but honestly, priorities for me boils down like this: security, house, a few years of dating then marriage. However long that takes is anyone's guess.
@Luckykid_Rishi (424)
• India
18 Jun 07
No I don't believe in any age restriction in marriage. Actually I believe that when a person settles his career and achieves any gud position in life then only he shud marry bcz then he is able to take the responsibility of the family and then only he is mature enough to undestand and fulfill the needs of life and his partner.
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@jmathen (112)
• India
18 Jun 07
I got married when I was 18, however that was an arranged marriage and it didnt work out. After a couple of years, I got divorced. When I was 25 got married again to someone whom I met and fell in love with and its been two years. I dont think there is a 'certain' age to get married. You will get the feeling when you are ready. Obviously that will be when you are done with your studies, have a job and settled and ready to move up a step in your life ! I believe that time will be when you are in your late 20s. For some people, they will be ready before that ! I think it more depends on how a person looks at life !
@yohyue (112)
• Malaysia
18 Jun 07
I'm a guy , I would like to marrie at age 30, now i 28 but still look too young,many people think i'm 20 only that why no body want me except my student who are only 17 year old, but teacher cannot fall love with student it is not right. Any how for asia country we been set for female the best age of getting married is 24-26, for male is around 28-32. Once reach that age and still single parent will help to get for us, at the time we will be no choice. Perhaps i can found my girl as soon as posible before my family take action.
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@SilentKillerSri (208)
• India
18 Jun 07
Well for me there is no such particular age by which i expect myself to be married. The day i have a girl whom i love a lot ....and she loves me too ... i'll decide the right time and get married. But i m 20 right now ...and maybe by 27 surely...i'll marry is what i think.
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@vpsmalhotra (194)
• India
18 Jun 07
for general common people marriaage and relationship go hand in hand .Marriage is a social and legal institution entailing certain responsiblities in raising a family .It is a biological necessity also for a social animal like man .It is one of its inaventions ,certqainly there is a minimum age when o ne is to "marry' in the real sense !
In India in some scattered regions and other such countries of the third world there are child marriages even marriages are arranged before the child is born in some regions of the globe it is with advent of science and modernity that a realistic assesment based on socioreligios factors that biologically the age of marriage has been arrived at may; be the age at puberty for females which is sought to be lowered to 14 yrs or so legally in some countries
It all depends on the utility and necessity of marriage according to socio-religio-legal consideration
but in the iinstant case it is the financial and emotional aspect that would determine the date
however ther is no age for marriage one can even marry at 80-90 there is no bar a reknowned painter artist in india married a 17 year old at age of 80-85
similarly shakespear-lincon married older woman aged 50-55 so it all depends how you look at marriage if it is for progey then productive age both for men and women is a must and financial and compatiblity factors must also weigh in I do not think that eloping would be necessary for marriage unless and until it has no sanction of the laws or elders
One may go ahed in or for marriage at any age and time if it is in consonace with laws of society
vpsmalhotra@gmail.com
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@babygurl850406 (1322)
• United States
18 Jun 07
wow a 17 year old marrying a 80 year old! thanx for all the interesting info :)
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
18 Jun 07
Yeah i do think there's an age , you gotta get married at the right age and after you r mental maturity may be after 25-26 years. NO i dont find it funny taht some ppl dont get married for along time, may be they just thought they were not ready or just that they were happy single, or they didnt find the right one, any thing is possible........
@ackars (1942)
• India
18 Jun 07
I like to get married when I become atleast 28.That time,I will finish my PG too and get settled.I think if I marry before that,I cant have a peaceful life as I will be very busy with my work till then..
@seinfeld (184)
• India
18 Jun 07
hey is this just me or i am getting so many interesting discussions to respond to and also the ones i can relate too...yes i am 21...well almost 22 you can say and the thought of marriage at this age scares me to my knees...i cannot see myslef getting married till the day i say to myslef ok if i dont marry now i wont be now one would marry me...or till the day my parents force me to...otherwise i think i would never be ready for such a serious relationship...it makes me laugh sometimes if i think about me getting married...well i have set 30 as my age and that too if i really have to..so many of my cousins are getting married or are about to and they are like a couple of years older than me and i am like yeah if i had to be there in 2 years i am sure jumping of a bridge...and its good that you decided not to marry when u were 19...u should enjoy life a little more before you take on a serious commitment...neways take care and bye..
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@MyoanBiz (140)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I happen to be 50 & I happen to be single. When I was younger I had a "standard" I went by. That was IF I was to get a woman pregnant, would she be suitable to be the mother of my child, in which case I'd want to marry her. Never found that woman, but I sure did find a lot of others that were alright in lots of other ways, but none suitable as a mother. When I got older most women already had kids so alot depended on how the kids & I got along, or didn't. I finally found a single woman with a full grown daughter that would do just fine as a mother, however WE no longer like the idea of kids now, but I'd marry her anyway. The biggest problem is that she moved 1000 miles away & both of us are "stuck" where we're at for who knows how long. But one day one of us will be moving a 1000 miles.
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@pallidyne (858)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I hope to be married around October 6th---especially since the invitations have gone out!
Im 35 and she's 28--- I just look at people funny when they have been together 10 years and haven't bothered to get hitched.
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@dbhattji (2506)
• India
18 Jun 07
It should not be a fixed chronological age, but when you feel you are mature enough and settled enough to take the new responsibilities, you can consider marriage. I was 27 when I married because that how long it took me to be settled in my career.
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@saierchok (1294)
• United States
18 Jun 07
well I don't know why but I've always thought of getting married at 26.. I just feel that it's correct to do it then..
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@nafeesa_mohd (281)
• India
19 Jun 07
i would like to marry this very moment.... but, my future father in law is not allowing.... he wants both of us to complete our post graduation before we marry.....
@vasimb (244)
• India
19 Jun 07
When i would like to get marrried? I think i will get married when i have set my carrier and have own car & one good house. I think one should only get married when he is capable to meet the expenses of his ownself and his spouse
@petitpapa (194)
• China
19 Jun 07
i think 25 to 28 is my ideal time to get married.i should spent some time to adjust myself.
@fengbo (731)
• China
19 Jun 07
Hi babygurl.I don't thoughts this question any more.I am 22 old now,but i don't have girlfriend.I was studying in Hanghzou nomal university,i think i will get marry about 26-28,i think in this age, i have personal career and house,car or another things.
In this age,how to find a good job is my important things,if i wll find a good jod and have a high earning.i will find a nice girl.
In our country,so many people thinked they will get marry about 25 or before this age.In my opinion,the man must have a good career at the first,the second is marriage.what do you think of?
@zigouster (41)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
For me, I would probobly be married at the age of 28yrs old.. ^_^ But who knows.. We dont hold our own Future.. ^_^