When you forgive, do you really forget?

i think that are forgett a chose not important oe a bad chose......i remember a few of my marriage end 10 years ago... but there one choise that i forghet............ 3 gold rings...i not re3member where i have them puttinges....uff

I have plenty of experiences in my life that I've forgiven people for what they've done to me. But I still find it hard to forget. I think it is the same with people in general. We can always tell the person who did something against us that we forgive them but forgetting is a very difficult thing to do. Even seeing the person reminds us of what they did. It is in the ability of the person to look past whatever shortcomings the other person committed that really matters. We may never forget what they did but whatever it was they did, it should not be the basis of your patched up relationship.

We are human, so it is impossible to forget completely. You can forgive, but the forgiveness is really for yourself, not the person who has harmed you. To say you forget and forgive totally means you expose yourself to be hurt again.

when i forgive,i will forget.Unless that certain things holds on me too long and i am not able to control it and stil mingle in my minds,that's hard to forget.But still,those things that are just so simple and yet small..fade away just like that.That's it.

Not really but with little quarrels or misunderstandings yeah.. But with things that really hurt me I think I can't forget but those friendship childish quarrels yah but soemtimes those quarrels will be part of our conversations and we laufgh about how we over reacted at that time now that we're more mature..

Ah well, due to my bad memory, i have to say i forgive and unwillingly/willingly forget. xD

no ,when i forgive i dont really forget .a person can forget it from outsite but not from the core of his/her heart.

I do forgive but I must admit that I don't forget but that doesn't mean that the forgiveness is not wholeheartedly given. What happened will always be there, it will always be remembered but I believe after the forgiveness given time to realize things, we will understand why those things happened and why the person did that, then after that remember that thing that was done to hurt us won't be bitter anymore. For me that is just important, forgiving and understanding.

I think you can forgive but you never forget. I know my sister did some really bad things to me many years back and I forgave her however I will never forget it. To the point that I probably don't let her as close to me as we once were because of it. I love her because she is my sister but there are things I do not trust her with due the past experience. I don't hold on to anger about it anymore because I chalk it up to her being her and nothing I can change about it. I won't forget and put myself in that position again though.

Forgiving is a long process especially if the one who hurt you is the person you trusted fully.Yes I can forgive but dont know when and how long it will take.Only time can tell if your heart is ready to forgive.On the other hand I can't forget the people who hurt me badly even though I grant him my forgiveness because ones the pain is stored in my memory it can't never be erased.

well I wish I could forget but I also believe there is a reason it is so hard to do it we need ro remember so we wont let the same thing hapen to us again but ssaying that the hardest person I have had to forgive is myself

i forgive but i never forget. if i forget i want rember the life lesson from all the hurt and pain i went threw and nothing i go threw in life is in vain it is all for a reason.

I think it really depends on the person and how often they repeat the same acts. If it was just a one time mistake and they seem truly sorry, I'll usually try to forgive and forget just because I have made some bad mistakes and I wouldn't know what I'd do if my family and friends hadn't forgiven me. But if its a repeated thing, especially if its something really bad or hurtful in anyway, it's hard to forget.

Forgives the others is liberates oneself

I do agree with you its hard to forgive and forget. I can easily forgive someone. But I never forget. Especially if they hurt me. Its only natural to feel this way. Its something you can never get over.

no i dont, i can forgive but never never forget what that person did to me. I guess its part of any person not to forget things specially a bad thing happened.

I do forgive and if i forgive i forget it. Look there are things which happen and you have to forget them if you want to enjoy the further realtionship with that person. I think to keep past things in your mind will hurt the forthcomming good days of your relationship.

yha i really do forgive someone but that doesnt mean that I forget everything. What i mean is dont waste your time to someone who isn't willing to spend their time with you....

forgive and forget means letting go of the hurt, not forgetting what happend for that is just impossible! That is the benefit of forgiving, when you think that it all right, then you'll be all right. That's why people who don't forgive suffer because they are allowing those who hurt them to continue hurting them by letting the past hurt them in their present and in their future. It a very useful mindset wherein you would think that it doesnt hurt and that it's no big deal anymore. If I were you, I'd set my mind that those hurts are just in the past and they should not hurt you anymore. However, though you would claim that you have forgiven the person, you are not obliged to trust them fully again. Realistically speaking, they've done it once, they would do it again.

Definitely not. How can you forget something that you've had to forgive in the first place. I know a friend who ended up marrying a woman who cheated on him, but til this day, it's something that he will never forget (and yes, i think he forgave her since he married her!)