Do you punish with time out or a spanking?

When our kids were small, I spanked them only once and just removed them from the situation. The spanking was for something they had done seriously wrong, since we were able to distinguish between ordinary mistakes and blatant disregards for rules. When the boys were older, we gave or rather my husband gave them a serious talking to. However we never had to use time outs since they soon saw the consequences of the their actions. We used taking away privileges mostly.

There are times that kids really need spanking for them to learn and understand. As for my kids, I have to little boys and sometimes I lose patience in them, but as much as possible I don't want to impose to them spanking because they might get use to it and that it might not be effective anymore in disciplining them. When I was a child my parents does that to me seldom and I say it worked because it made me remember not to do the same mistake. With my kids, my husband an I talked about it, since they are very young we thought talking to them seriously whenever they have fault would work. We are doing it and so far it's working....of course we smack them in the butt when there is really a need to do it.

If you are just smacking your kid on the butt, it isn't against the law. We were spanked on the butt when we were kids and I agree that it works. I never felt mad at my parents for doing it, because they only did it when I really deserved it. I get lots of compliments on how well behaved my kids are. We also use time-out. Spanking isn't our only form of punishment.

I don't agree to spanking for anything and I almost never spanked my kids, but I think that a slap in the right moment can be very educational and perhaps will work better than another punishment. I can't agree with persons that don't spank at all as I can't agree with those that spank as an habbit.

When I am young, the punishment is similar as yours. For my child, beside time-out and spanking on butt which is very minimum. Usually, I ask to face the wall and think about have they done wrong and come back to me. Another way is ask them to do assignment like writing, majority write chinese word which is more tedious and difficult to them compare to English.