Are You a Better Mother Personally Staying Home, or Working Outside the Home?

I'm a stay at home mom of two kids. I use to work when my daughter was a baby, but then I decided to be a stay at home mom. It works for me. I been an at home mom for almost 3 years. I have a almost 5 year old and a 17 month old. BUt, it only works for some. I know my sister is a single mother of two and she has no other choice but to work. I guess it all depends on the situation. Personally, I think a working mother and a stay at home mother are both good parents. My sister does her best and I do my best, and we are both in two difference situations. :)

I thing I would be a great mom if I stay at home instead of staying 8 hours in the office. For me I think I could look after my son better, I can watch him as he grow older and also I can be the one to be beside him every time he needs me and not his yaya/nanny. And I think it's a big factor of the child's attitude if the mother will take care of his child, one on one. Because we can tame our child as early as 1 year old. We can help him to learn what is right from wrong. And I am not sure that his nanny will not hurt him, as I've seen in television, some nanny can actually hurt a child. There were instances that a nanny spit her saliva to the mouth of a 8 month old baby! the other one, the nanny hit a 1 year old boy! because the boy hit her for eating his chips!and it was all taken by a hidden camera! I would rather miss my career than to see my son being hit by our nanny!

I agree that every situation is different. I have been in a few different situations. I was a working mom but at the time I was also a single mother. I grew frustrated at times having to look after my daughter by myself and sometimes got angry. But we also had times together that I treasure. I wish I could go back and do it all over again and put the anger away. Then I moved in with my boyfriend and became a working mother with significant other and a long commute to work. Because of the commute I spent my weekends doing housework and cooking and did not give my daughter the attention I probably should have. Then we got married and had another daughter together. I became a stay-at-home Mom, but not out of choice. I developed a chronic illness during maternity leave. I could not return to work. I am a different mother because of my illness. My children have had to learn to be independent. But I am also here for them when they get home from school. They love that I am home and I know that if I had to go back to my old job with the one hour commute I would not be a pleasant person to live with (with or without the illness -though I don't know for sure). I believe all things happen for a reason. We cannot afford for me to stay home for financial reasons, but my children cannot afford for me to NOT be home for them. They need me here and I am glad I am here for them. If it took an illness to get me to stay home, then so be it. When you are dealt some bad cards you have to find the good in things, which I have done. My kids would not be the same if I had gone back to work. We would not have the relationship we have now. We have fun together. My 14 year old things I'm funny and cool and I am more relaxed because I don't have a stressful, taxing work week added to my life. Being home, I am better for it and so are my children.